Would you date someone until you find someone better? (Page 2)

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Dating a guy who I used to be friends with until I find someone better. I'm going away this April for a few months abroad and he knows this. But kind of feel like I'm just using him for the time being.  We fancy each other and as awful as it sounds. But is it that bad? Feel a bit guilty. He thinks I'm the one. But I want to spend my early 20s finding out the type of guy that I'm into and don't expect any relationships in my early 20s to end up in marriage. He's a nice guy but going to break up with him before I go away. What you date someone until you find someone better matched to you?

Wollu · Answer

Monkey branching, as we savents call it, is normal. Females will always look out for more and better supplies. Men will always look for new cum dumpsters. Men and women share the same goal with different strategies.

Anonymous · Answer

Listen up spoiled pos he deserves better then you and the heartbreak your going to be for him, I feel sorry for him break it off now and just be single until you leave. You owe him that, sure we always search for someone better but not while being in a relationship and hurting them. Move on and quit being a pos

Anonymous · Answer

No, I will never do that because its really selfish. I don't went to hurt anyone and wouldn't do what something that don't want happen to me to others. It looks like your trying to fill a void by making someone think that you're interested in him, when you're not. There's nothing wrong with being single and finding yourself.

hahahmm · Answer

I thought all women give guys a trial period while the guy thinks she’s fully into him but really she’s still making up her mind.

KuroUsagi · Answer

No that sounds horrible. You know he’s in love with you and you know the feelings aren’t mutual. You’re just taking advantage of his affections and his hope that you’ll fall for him. If there’s no chance then end it now not later.

gclark2708 · Answer

Ask yourself this, would he be pissed off if you told him this.

Lilly26 · Answer

Oh my God u do not have a conscience really. How cld you make him fall for you and u dump him? Come on mennnn! This is bad. He has a heart you guys should just stop makes no sense. My dear there is karma don’t forget that

9thcircle · Answer

No. That's a terrible thing to do. I'm not trying to be offensive, and I don't know much about this situation, but when you have a relationship with someone, they are trying their best to believe that you love them just as much as they love you. If you aren't serious about it, then you shouldn't commit to something like that. This is actually partially why I have certain trust issues

Hurlyburly · Answer

That's like wasting someones time on purpose. No, just no. If you do not want to get in something serious yet then just stay single. There's absolutely no reason to be such a jerk.

BlackMaleYou · Answer

Whatever you do tell him the entire truth. Otherwise you are about to make an enemy. Tell him that you don't want commitment with him. Tell him you want to explore life. I think you know the type of guy u want. U claim to not know what you want

Furkan11 · Answer

No you can’t do that to him or anyone that’s so selfish. If you are gonna end things up when you go away you should end it right now. You are just using him and hurting his feelings.

jaimin_bhinde · Answer

Girls like u don't have a heart. I will pray the guy whom u find and u believe is the one deserts u when u most need it. It is only then u will realise how tough it can be to LOL when someone has crushed u emotionally. Only then u will realise what crime u have done.

JWD1996 · Answer

So your bieng in a relationship for the sake of it and knowing that it isn't going to last. Your leading him on and that's horrible, having had this done to me before I don't think it's right what your doing.
Be the bigger person and tell him what you want/think. Don't lead the poor guy on

Fourth · Answer

You should be honest with how you feel about him or you'll hurt him worse when you find someone "better".

CMC93 · Answer

That's like the worst thing you can ever do to someone. I could never do that.

ThatPersonOverThere · Answer

Normally I would say you're in the wrong, but if he is aware that you'll ultimately be leaving regardless and it's not meant to be a long term thing... then yeah you two should enjoy each other's company while you can.

KingZeus · Answer

Date yes, to be in a relationship... no. If anything I would have at least given them the courtesy of letting them know it's nothing serious. Friends with benefits and now it's mutual wouldn't you agree? No doubt, no underhanded tactics.

rajshh22 · Answer

Yes, it is kind of using someone for your good. It is like taking advantage of someone until someone else takes his place in your life. It is kind of being dependent. So, you should not do this, because maybe one day you will find someone you want and he will be doing time pass for searching someone who matches with him.

slatyb · Answer

Do what you please as long as the other person knows. If he thinks you are potential mate, then you need to tell him that's not happening so he can make an informed decision about how he spends his time.

Heythere2013 · Answer

No I wouldn't, that's super mean and I wouldn't want someone to do that to me. If you feel like you are using him, break up and let him find someone who truly cares about him.

lilmissumshine · Answer

You sound insecure. and no you won't find anyone better because you are a tacky troll

Shutupman · Answer

nope, I have never and would never date without sincere intentions. It's immature to drag someone along when you know your feelings aren't on the same level.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

No , that’s why you have friends with benefits... it gives you more space and you aren’t a douche for using someone who may have feelings

JuQuanBarnes · Answer

Yes and no. Yes, because you're still young and have a lot to experience but No because it would ruin your friendship and he actually likes you so its kinda hard to let that down gently knowing there's gonna some backlash

Hidden_P · Answer

Do you think leading someone on is wrong? How would you feel if it was you? You know it’s wrong and you did from the start. Don’t expect sympathy.

idkjustbored · Answer

No, I'm not that shitty a person. I'm not a good guy, but I wouldn't stay in a relationship with somebody just because I don't want to be alone. Besides I'm used to being alone.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

No. That would be settling and that's all types of messed up. It's not fair to you and really not fair to the other party involved. You're essentially leading them on.

desidoll · Answer

So you just temporary settled with him? This is unfair unless both of you have mutual agreement about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe casually, but I'd let them know straight up that I don't want anything serious, because that would just be leading him on if you didn't.

MrOlivier · Answer

So I have a girlfriend and in once tolf my friend I would date my highschool crush instantly if I got the chance. I want to say no but a drunk mouth speaks a sober mimd

Mdkt88 · Answer

I have done something similar in my early to mid 20s (30 now).

I look back at what i did and find im ashamed of the way i went about it.

If you state your intentions clearly (moving away, w/e), then your partner can make their decisions from that.

ZakiOj · Answer

According to my personal experience, I can say that I don't condemn your point of view for I was that "guy" once and I willingly play along having full understanding of the situation. Well, honestly I'm still that "guy". But the circumstances are different from where we begun. All I can say is be careful. Things will get complicated. Both parties might be on the loosing side

SummerLH20 · Answer

Personally I would never date someone just for fun of it, you’ll be hurting them when you decide the better person has come along. That’s just beyond harsh.

HamidasThinker · Answer

Best Cake takes time to Bake... wait for someone special has its own charm to feel happiness... Am searching for sapiosexual with extra ordinary intelligence and gonna wait for it...

kazotaja · Answer

It is perfectly fine to want other things in life, but you need to be upfront and honest about it. Being mutually in a comfort relationship is an option, but based on your description it does not seem like you guys are on the same page. Break it off before it gets worse.

mumukun · Answer

I believe you and anyone should not do that because the counterpart believes you are the one and I believe he hopes that you could change your mind. This is not a nice thing to do, playing with other people's feelings. I think you should stay as friends if you still want to keep in touch and also who knows in the future you guys might develop mutual feelings to settle down.

Meninist · Answer

You’re leading him on.  Imagine if a guy did it to a woman, suddebly he’d be a pig wouldn’t he?

smith_this · Answer

You are horrible. I couldn't be friends with people like that. I mean your leading him on and using him. To ultimately crush his dreams of a happy long life. Do it soon no one deserves to live in someone else lie.

Kiran04 · Answer

Yes, you're total bitch and that poor schmuck you're leading along deserves to be free of you.

PhoenixVannier · Answer

So, I'll be honest. What you want isn't abnormal or bad. But it sounds like you didn't tell him that in the beginning. If he developed those feelings afterward, then that's not on you.

mhmdjoudi · Answer

That's called using, I wouldn't consider any relationship rhat wouldn't lead to marriage.. but that's just my opinion

Renzo11 · Answer

Thats a disturbing thing to do. I would never. Dont treat others how you wouldn't want to be treated.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know if you're a troll or not,

But there's two things here.

1. Girls do normally date until they find a better guy, it's just primal instincts, so it's somewhat normal.

2. Some people usually tend to fall harder, you do realize that you are leading him on?

Maybe he is thinking you are the one and wants to marry you...

Maybe you should talk to him

HumanMale · Answer

No, because you may not be invested in the relationship, but they could be. If you date them until you find a better person, you could really hurt them when you leave.

Meldaryan · Answer

No one wants to be alone. You always date til you find better. Sometimes it just happens that you can't find anyone better and you end upp spending your whole life with that person.

JudgmentDay · Answer

I don't date anybody regardless. I don't like the idea of emotional attachments or dependencies on anybody else.

BlueDream · Answer

No, I don't like to use people. Karma is a bitch. And if one day you deeply fall in love with someone and find out the used you, just remember why.

bente2 · Answer

No, I date who I want to date at that moment. If I’m bored in a relationship, I leave. I don’t wait for someone better to show up.

hamonbry · Answer

If it was casual for theft both of you it would be fine. If he thinks your the one and you're stringing him along that's not cool. Break up with him now, find a friends with benefits if you need before going away.

Kattieee · Answer

It happens, let’s get real. It’s only serious when it’s serious

Jihhan · Answer

I would if I didn't care about the person I'm dating... But I do care so I don't give myself up to lower standards of dating. Also, by my 21 I knew what type of girl I wanted to marry, you're behind sis XD, so most of youth nowadays XD

SirMavane · Answer

No, I feel like thats dishonest to the person i'd date

Jayeleo · Answer

Nah that's seriously messed up. You know it's wrong and you know you should stop.

madgoat · Answer

Yes, it's bad. You are using him and you know it. In effect, you're lying to him by omission. But.. you're young and you'll learn. You both will.

John_W · Answer

Until two people are ready to be engaged I do not think anyone should date exclusively.

MsLoli · Answer

Yeah, that's pretty goddamn cold. I wouldn't do it.

neesa · Answer

No not at all, that's an awful thing to do. You're basically playing him since he isn't aware and thinks you're the one. Please tell him how you feel

Bliss-taylor · Answer

I'd never do that. I can't believe there are people that do this. It's so heartless and selfish.

Billlewis · Answer

I honestly don't see anything wrong with this, because a woman has the right to date a guy who is worthy of her.

En1gma · Answer

Yes date the guy. If you dating to see what is out there. How else would you find out. Just don't be too serious though.

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