Should men always pay for dates?

[Kewlkaelyn101]

Is it acceptable for the man to pay on all dates? At what point do you feel the woman should start paying for dates or at least meet the guy halfway? Ladies, do you pay sometimes? Men, are you annoyed when you have to cover her all the time? Should the person who makes more money pay for the date? Let's hear it folks!

[YOUTOOSHOULDJUDGE]

I always pay for the first. Unless she asks me out. Then, I make sure I get the 2nd date if there is one. After that if we get serious, we kind of always put the money we had to spend for the weekend together and decided what to do. Depending on pay and bill cycles, the person who had more $$ would occasionally change. I always allowed myself $100 to spend on the weekend. Whatever she could add to that was a plus.

[gavacho2014]

I think that on first date like a meet and greet there isn't anything wrong with splitting the check. After that then I think the date asker should take the honor of paying even if it is the woman. Usually men do the asking and when they do they should pay.

[DeepOcean1001]

I think for the first date codes are overrated, and probably they should each split (or pay their part) or the one who asks should pay (and yes I support girls asking out guys). After being in the relationship for a while I think it should be alterned or like one pays the gas, then the other one pays the dinner, next time one pays the mmvies and so on, without counting the dimes but both taking part in it

[Neyila]

I feel that love is a mutual and equal thing. There should be equal commitment on both sides. Sure, it's nice for your significant other to pay sometimes, but it'd be incredibly selfish to make them pay all the time. I'm not too keen on the stereotypical gender role that the guy always has to pay for the date. Love is two-sided!

[charlotte5]

I think it's better to alternate, guys pay for the date sometime and girls do it sometime. I mean the other person is not the atm right? It wouldn't be fair to the person who pays always unless the other person is having money issues.

[Kewlkaelyn101]

That's fair but I always offer to cover a part of the bill. Most men say no. Or I'll tip our server at least.

[charlotte5]

See that's hard to say , if it's like the first several date s most guys would want to pay bc of the social norms and there is bad consequence if they don't (girls would feel they are losers) . I d say if the guy pays dinner for me I can pay for movie ticket or something else for him.

[Kewlkaelyn101]

Yes! That's how I feel about it too! I would feel terrible if I didn't chip in sometimes. I wouldn't want him to think I'm taking him for granted.

[Supertst]

We feel responsible in our roles as guys when we can take care of our date/lady and (as Charlotte pointed out) like losers if we can't. What's your honest opinion if he offered to pay, then you offered to split the check and then he agrees? I know I'm not getting a second date out of that 😆

[Kewlkaelyn101]

If I offer to split and he agrees I'll feel good about myself knowing I might've left a good impression on him. He won't feel as if I've taken advantage of him and he might ask me out again sometime.

[AlexisSnow]

I think it shouldn’t be expected that men pay for everything just because of the past. If women want equality this is part of it. If a man wants to pay for the date, that’s fine; and if he wants to go 50/50, that’s also fine. I went on a date a few days ago, we went on a coffee date and I paid for it because the last time it was him that paid for it. I think it’s only fair to do that.

[jakeforfun]

Why should they? Why should one person be "taken advantage of"? Because the woman's gonna "give it up" that night? This Question is really just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the unfairness men have to deal with when involved with a woman. NO, men should NOT always pay...

[sarahjaneie]

I feel like if the woman wants to go somewhere on a date, she should pay. If the man wants to go to a place for a date, he shpuld pay. So whoever decides on going on a date should pay

[luke1595]

you can tell a lot about a person who offers to pay or not, even the way he or she offers. Answering to should men always pay for dates.. it an unspoken thing that has always happened, but then now we live in an era or equality so nope, it depends on the person asking out

[rickyanswers]

Definitely acceptable for a guy to pay for every date but I definitely believe that the guy should always pay for the first few dates. Once things get more serious, and if she feels obligated (which she shouldn't) then she can start paying for dates. Lastly, I don't think a guy should feel annoyed to pay for every date. I know I wouldn't be.

[crazy8000]

It depends.
If I want her as only friend I could pay for some things on a second meeting.
Otherwise she has to show she can support herself otherwise it's a huge red flag how she most likely gonna be if we become we.
(If she wants to go to something expensive she has to pay for the whole thing)

[BatmansWife]

No. The man can pay if he offers to. But I still say split the bill or take turns paying.

[StephenCF]

Only the first date if he invited her, & only special dates such as the girl’s birthday, V-Day, etc.

All normal/casual dates should have a split bill

[10dsw]

I think it should be 50/50 and I've had three gfs and lots of dates. I've never had a woman expect me to pay for her (yet)

[WhoDatGuy]

Equality is a two way Street. You don't get to have it both ways!

[Leo3572]

At the first date yes, but it doesn't have to be at all the other dates too. Women can also pay for themselves.

[ThreeSheetsToTheWind]

It's up to those involved. There is no "should" about it.

[TallGuy96]

Men and women are equal , whomever gets payed the most should pay

[knight135]

It's a quality of a gentleman to pay the bill for a date. Whereas, an independent woman won't allow him to do that.

[ProtocalXXIV]

I think it's At an age were both are acceptable

[cupidkisses]

They don't have to pay

[cbicsurfs]

Yez!

[Billlewis]

Always.

[Devengclean]

Yes. They will always be the host.

[Winnery]

Sure because he's the men

[Papavera]

Wtf ofc not.

[disgustingweebtrash]

No..

[skittles2017]

Not at all

[USER984]

It depends.