Boyfriend doesn’t compliment me, but he does other girls?

[Anonymous]

He compliments other girls on social media. I saw his messages he sends (dms) where he replies to girls’ Snapchat and Instagram stories. He tells them they look good and flirt with them a little. I asked him why he doesn’t compliment me like that. He says “because i don’t date people for looks. They don’t really matter to me”. And he says “you always say i don’t appreciate you. But i do a lot for you. I take you out and pay, listen to you, etc”. I just feel it’s unfair he doesn’t compliment me. I feel like the ugly step sister forgotten and unwanted. It makes me so mad my boyfriend does this. And his statement is contradictory. He doesn’t care about looks but sends girls compliments? He tells me “I’m just being nice and compliments are nice”. But the most I ever get is “oh you look good”. When he sees me in person. I don’t get attention like that when i post/send him a pic, or anything :/

[TaurusB23]

This guy is a bad fit for you because as a man in a committed relationship by nature we want our women to feel comfortable and loved and our ladies receive compliments on a daily if not hourly basis because we love to see our girls smile and want to see them happy, this guy has been complimenting girls on social media, Tell him to "kick rocks" you don't need someone that isn't there for you 100% because you should never feel this way while in a relationship he's there for love loyalty respect and security and he isn't showing any of that, you need a new man sweetheart and that's 💯% real

[Asker]

You are right. I really appreciate your answer. He just doesn’t value me, I guess. You are a good dude!

[TaurusB23]

It's not that he doesn't value you, but maybe he's too young to want a woman for life and he doesn't have the maturity to keep you by his side always. You are very welcome! Thank you as well!

[Asker]

Mmm. I mean, he is 25. I am his first “serious” relationship. He’s only had little flings lasting 6 months or less. I feel if he valued me he would give me compliments too. But, he stopped doing that early on. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. But, I just found out today that he had been sexting another girl. So, I don’t feel he values or appreciates me. :/ and you are welcome :)

[TaurusB23]

Well you deserve to be valued and appreciated because seem to me like you're a genuinely solid woman with a great head on your shoulders and you deserve better. Now you see why he's had flings is because he still isn't mature enough to handle a true woman yet.

[Frenchwomen]

The white knight you are

[TaurusB23]

😊 just trying to help anyone I can lol been single a while now so I thought I be helpful and pass some knowledge on

[HereIbe]

Then ditch him. He just has you as a convenient placeholder. He'll dump you in a second and without warning.

[Asker]

I just found out he had been cheating with another girl. They were sexting each other -_-

[HereIbe]

I actually do hate it when I'm right about these things. I'm right about them far too often.

[betaTester]

lmao for real

[Pizza_lover159]

You should tell him that. And that it hurts you. And if he actually cared for you , he wouldn't flirt with other girls. But it depends. Maybe he is just like that and compliment everyone. But If he doesn't know any of those girls in real life , its a little weird. Like. You have a girlfriend in real life , you dont compliment her but you compliment girls you dont even know on social media? Its not ok

[MsLoli]

He sounds like kind of a jerk. He considers listening "doing a lot" for you. Like it's so hard just to peel your attention away from your fucking phone for 10 minutes to listen to someone you supposedly care for.
Shallow douche.

[Dean7]

Well the good thing is you took that of your shoulders and was honest with him, however your boyfriend sounds like a guy who's bored already to be frank here I mean he won't appreciate you until he looses you and that's facts, compliments are good from time to time specially if you're in a relationship women love such nice words but then again if he really loves you he'll do anything to make you happy and satisfied.

[babylolita]

Tell him all the details about how you feel. If he doesn't do anything about it, then make him realize how you feel. Go a day to a week without complimenting him, and flirt with other guys. Barely talk to him but make sure he's paying attention

[mrs-turner97]

dump his ass saying looks don’t matter well why the fuck you telling others they look good and for that matter why the hell is he texting other girls you need to dump his ass js

[acooke-13]

He doesn't value or appreciate you, nothing else needs to be said other than you need to get yourself a new fella

[askmegirlagain]

You are probably just a quick catch for him. You are his goto girl to get basic things as you are "available". He is not investing in this relationship as he doesn't feel the need to

[GinaTina]

Wow, this is tough... I would way that he's lost interest in you, if he really was happy he wouldn't be sliding into girls DMs... that's not right... dump that sucker

[Sephora_Addict]

sounds like a hypocrite to me, if he’s commenting on other girls posts about them looking good then it’s clear that he wants to date girls for their looks. i see red flags in the future.

[BlueDream]

Sorry, but you're dumb for putting up with that shit.

[Kwixle]

Dump him... He's a selfish hypocrite and you'll save yourself pain later. You deserve better

[PotatoYellow231]

exactly just like my ex, idiot me staying with him for even more of such things. compliment and flirt all the girls he doesn't even know. he did the favor of leaving me

[betaTester]

He already tasted you, so he put less effort into pleasing you. Other girls are unknown opportunities.

[bronco208]

Give him the boot, save yourself some time and problems down the road. If he doesn't appreciate you enuff to compliment you he's not worth it

[FreezingNachos]

You need to prepare THE BOOT.

[Anonymous]

Another example how social media makes relationships doomed

[siouu]

Oh that sucks you should talk to him about that tell him how you feel ya know?

[baddiebunny]

Break up with him immediately

[Malita55]

Leave him, he is trash

[thenatiewitch]

Leave him alone. You deserve better

[Anonymous]

Girl, dump his ass. He obviously has no respect for you...

[Anonymous]

So you are trying to say that your ex didn't used to give you enough attention and that's why you left him. Am I correct?

[m4rl0n]

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend

[fabiobraz]

You should get a new boyfriend

[Frenchwomen]

What is the forgotten step sister

[passinby]

He already has you!

[Asker]

What does that mean?

[passinby]

He just feels he doesn't have to put in the effort for you but he does to get these other girl's attention.

[Asker]

Why does he need their attention if he has me?

[passinby]

He doesn't respect or deserve you if he is doing that in your presence. He doesn't know what he has with you and he won't know until you are gone.

[kamash]

He feels he is doing you a favour...🤔

[Asker]

How?

[kamash]

The way you have written tell that he takes you for granted , I'd that is what he actually does... and no matter how much you sort for acceptance or compliment , he will count his deeds... so this is what comes to my mind, and you know the actual scenario.

[kaskas19]

Break up with him.

[Lifeasasasavage]

Damn haha

[Asker]

That doesn’t help lol.

[rockrewls]

He's a douche...

[johnmerchant]

He is not good

[xAphroditEx]

Dump him sis

[Anonymous]

Dump his ass