Kissing in a car first kiss

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"Hi everyone I have a huge problem.

I have known this girl for a few years now and we just hung out as friends. Anyway I went on holiday with her and her parents and we had a really good time a few weeks later I asked her if we were more than friends and she said she would need to have a think. I got a call the next day saying that she saw me as more than a friend and that we should give things a go and see what happens.

That was about three months ago and we now see a lot more of each other, at least once every week and we text each other most days. When I see her there is never a moment of silence and we get on so well with each other, when we see each other we talk for more than 5 hours. But there is a problem even though I am crazy about this girl we haven’t kissed. I am 19 and she is 20 I know she has had serious relationships before, but I have never even kissed before, I know that it’s shocking but I just don’t know what to do. When I see her we talk about everything and laugh at each others' jokes and have a good laugh and we even got to talking about what would happen if we were to get married and stuff like that.

What happens when I drop her off at her house is she says just let me out here and I just end up sitting in the car like a fool while she stands at the car door talking to me. Last time I got out the car she hung around a bit while I took some leaves of the windscreen that were stopping the wipers from working. She then just went over to her doorway and waved me goodbye as I drove off. What is wrong with me, I just can’t do it, I have tried everything. I mean have I blown it by waiting so long? What must she be thinking I just don’t know what to do? Have I waited so long that we are now just destined to be friends forever? Please help me and tell me how to fix this? What would you be thinking if you were her? Its not like I come across as nervous or anything like that, it just doesn’t happen. This is driving me crazy"

And well my car broke down last time and she picked me up instead and I still haven't kissed her. Anyway the problem is that my car is in for repairs for at least three weeks and we're seeing each other on Thursday this week and bassically she will be picking me up and dropping me off and I was wondering how do I make a move in the car, bearing in mind that I have never kissed before? please please someone help if I don't do it this time then I'm sure that I will be friendzoned forever please someone help.



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  • Well to me it sounds as if you both haven't had much experience. She is prob just as nervous as you are. I used to be that way. Scared to death, and It was because I didn't have much experience. You just gotta go for it. If it's your first kiss it could or great or bad. You just got to get used to kissing. It does get better. I'm confused by the car thing. When you both are talking, and you say something nice about her. Like she's an amazing girl, or she's so beautiful. Then slowly lean in (don't make her feel like your attacking her) and gently kiss her. It prob will be fine. You could even end up making out. Who doesn't like that! :)

    Good luck.

    • So I should say to her, something like you know what your really pretty and then go for it? By the way, I don't know how much experience she has had but I do know that she isn't a virgan.

    • Well then she prob has had experience, but she still can be a shy girl.

      Yeah totally, girls love when guys make the first move. If she's truly into you, she will love it. Plus, don't wait much longer, I mean I'd think there was either something wrong with him or me. We don't want that now do we?

    • I think she probubly does think that already to be honest. She is really shy and only had one other boyfriend but went out with him for over four years. will it not be kind of awkward kissing in the car?

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  • Solutions:

    1) F-it all and just go in; get out of the car, run over to her side, pull her in, kiss. Just do it, there shouldn't be a problem. If there is, you know the issue is bigger than a kiss (I mean, 3 months now, sup).

    2) Last resort: sneak in "Can I kiss you?" in some part of your convo.

    I really recommend #1 if you're having trouble finding a gap to engage in a kiss.

  • Just do it.

  • im kinda in the same situation. I've known this girl for 6 years and am on the verge of making it an official relationship. I have had a serious relationship before though. I'm seeing her on Wednesday and I'm telling her and going for it. You just have to do it. Casually talk and look in her eyes. When she stops talking just tell her she's beautiful and lean in. If she likes you, which she should if she's still talking to you after 3 months, she will lean in too. Be relaxed! that's the best way to go for it. You don't want a stiff jaw, eventually it will come natural. good luck