Kiss on the first date?

[Anonymous]

if a guy you've only known for a little bit kisses you on the first date should you kiss him back? is that way to early for that?

[Anonymous]

I am not disagreeing with 'Raider Z' but I understand everyone has different experiences, and just saying that there are girls out there that have 'rules' and aren't necessarily the heart breakers. I, for one am one that doesn't kiss on a first date. I just don't want to give in too easily. And I want to go on more than just one date to see what his behavior is like, personality, get him to be more comfortable, as most I have dated are often nervous on the first date and better/more open on the second. I think it also shows, that if he can wait until the second date for a kiss, it shows that he genuinely is interested in you as a person, and not just for your 'booty', but hey that is just my opinion. If he gets angry, that you did not kiss on the first date, sh*t, he's already being quite needy. Most of the guys I have met that try and kiss on a first date HAVE been players, they are so confident and just go for it thinking they are 'irrisistable' and turn out to have big egos and not a great personality. The ones that don't, I find showed me more respect and take things slow, or at your pace, seeing your comfortabilty showing that they don't want to pressure you into things. A little tip of mine, if he goes in to kiss you, and you don't feel ready just come in close too, and end up giving him a big big bear hug :) That will warm his heart still, and leave him chasing for you :)

[Raider_Z]

I'd be willing to wait for the girl to get comfortable enough, but only if she would initiate the 1st kiss herself.

[nomadia]

it depends on the situation. if after the date you are into a kiss on the cheek is good but a french kiss on the first date is a big no. it makes you seem too easy. you know what they say difficulty in attainment increases the value of the object. some guys are bold and will want to kiss you but what you do when he draws his face close to yours gentlely put a finger on his lips and whisper to him "not yet" and kiss him on the cheeks.

[kiss_me_Kate]

If you touched his face with your face while he went for it you kissed him.

They don't make the distiction.

And I wouldn't, expecialy not knowing him. Ever. Maybe cheek.

If I like him, leave him wanting more. :)

[mayninety7]

If you like him but don't feel comfortable kissing let him know both those things, it is simple "I had a great time with you and would love to go out again but I feel uncomfortable kissing right now". If he really likes you there will be a second date. For a lot of people(mostly, but not limited to, girls) kissing can be a very intimate thing they only want to share with very special people. For other people it can be as harmless as hugging and even more harmless than that cute game of doctor you played with the guy across the street when you were 6. I have kissed girls without ever being on a date and I have gone out with other girls several times before kissing them, It is based on the situation/chemistry and I would never be upset at a girl if she didn't want it (but possibly self-conscious).

[Raider_Z]

There's a reason I kiss on the 1st date. I want to know if the girl is attracted to me. Perhaps I've dated some bad apples, but the girls who have rules about kissing or frenching on a 1st date have been the girls who have ripped my heart out and stomped it into the ground. The girls who have gone the farthest on early dates have generally been the better relationships. Most guys want a girlfriend with a high sex-drive and giving the impression that you don't like to kiss is a bad thing. The only guys who like a challenge are players. So if you like to date players, then by all means, don't kiss him until the 3rd date.

[nanotsu]

Agreed 100%

[Watercolour]

We men usually won't care about stuff like that like you girls do, like men are the ones who have the stereotype of being all like "I want to f*** her NOW" which is partly true .. men usually are the ones who would want to go on faster so most likely if you think that it's OK then the guy won't care.

But as you're more likely asking which is better, they are all the same.

[Anonymous]

I want to kiss him as much as he wants to kiss me.. Why just kiss on the cheek. If I kissed a boy and he stopped it I would just assume that he isn't interested. I don't think it is a big deal at all. I think having sex on the first date is ahah but deffinately not kissing.. Cause if he isn't a good kisser than you probs won't want to go out on another date with him

[MissyO]

Don't. You want to keep them guessing so that they are eager to ask you out a second time. End it with a little, soft peck close to his mouth. A little teasing can help start a bit of passion and fire, so by the third or fourth date, all that saving up will come out as an intense kiss :)

[Sparkle-xo]

I think it depends tbh. I had one lad ask me if he was gonna get a kiss. I thought it was cheeky but kissed him anyway lol some guys are quite forward and will ask. It just depends on the situation and how you feel tbh

[MamaAmanda]

Well I've done more than just kiss on several first dates so I say kissing isn't wrong...but hey that's me

[Phoma21]

It depends on what you are comfortable with truthfully. Not really what stage it is. If you want to kiss him back go for it but if you feel uncomfortable you could always ask him to back off.

[MandMandM]

If it feels right at the time do it. By rigid application of scheduling rules you could mess up something that otherwise turned out to be great.

[nadiya]

Its too early for me, but I tell boys that before I go out with them...

[Anonymous]

Everyones different. I personally wouldn't (Just a cheek and thanks for a nice evening) as it's a bit of a trial the first date to see if you actually like the guy but up to you sweetheart :o) x

[obvious10]

nah. if it was a good date, then why not?

[emzy-89]

i never kiss on the 1st date, I think it's tacky.