Why is there such a high physical standard for women, but not men? (Page 5)

[TheUglyMan]

Wtf did I just read. Mens physical standard's are low if you compare them to what women require from men. Men must be tall, good looking, fit, funny, be financially stable and some impossible cross bread between a bad boy which women go for and a nice guy which women claim they want. Also we must know the right people to have good status just so girls can actually even give us a chance to start a conversation.

[Schaggy]

This is ridiculous. Men 100% get held to a high physical standard. If we didn't, we wouldn't feel forced to go to the gym get a killer 6 pack and pecs and have the pelvic "v"

[MalcolmN]

A lot of men are visual -- we see first then listen after.

it might have to do with our competitive nature, we want the best in everything hence we look at the whole package, brains and all... but then again, we all have different preferences when it comes to looks.

[benid]

Well there are guy's who like the one you are talking about and then there are men who like anything but this perfect model shape figure. I like that the woman can have some extra on her but most important is her personality and the way she see things. In the end also the top models change shape in time. I think if the person you are dating make you feel you are wanted, who cares how other people see you.

[09FordFX4]

Well, there actually is a high standard for men. We just generally don't care about what the media says we should look like.

Look at any ad involving a man, abs, muscular, fit, great bone structure in the face, etc. It's not just women who are portrayed a certain way.

[dhananjaydhadwal]

No girl that's just not true it's just your way of thinking. See everyone has their own preference, like - girls like guys who have a good built, physically fit, fair, handsome, tall , good dressing sense etc. So both the sexes want good physical standards... didn't you ever think why all these guys run to the gym... Further like you said men want lady assets to much more appealing... but it's the same case with girls they to want more appealing male assets.. if you understand what I mean

[old-guys-rule]

Why are male birds the brightly colored ones? Who can say? That's just how nature made things. But to be fair, men are judged by qualities other than our inherent virtues too: physical height, power and influence, and wealth are all qualities that women find attractive in men.

[interstellarara]

I think both have opinions on bodies, however men are projected as caring more while they very well may not. I think that most people won't care about one's physical appearance if they love someones personality. I, personally, do not.

[Kayla45]

I'm sure some men like the realistic girls too, many absurdly beautiful woman fake it so hard with makeup and patted bras... I don't know seems like a waste if you ask me. Men could have those same standards though from a fashion point of view.

[SaintRaghu]

I don’t like girls who wear fakeup, ask me out with that shit on your face and... I shouldn’t say that but it’s awkward.. how often do you see guys wear makeup!

[Dreku]

Sooo not true, I'm not scum buuut I don't get anywhere near as much attention from females or males as I once did when I was in "peak" form as I fit a mold of attractive, it goes both ways

[sakalator]

I actually think that we have to look good too. We just don't usually 😅 I have decided to wear shirts everyday just so that you women may have a nicer view 😁 but a lot of men just wear what they want. Nobody will change this however.

[MatthewJ42]

Competitive nature of women. Women are always like "why is he looking at her and not me?" Plus women are naturally trying to (subconsciously or not) have children. Its in our nature. So trying to get fertilized means attracting the fertilizer.

[Anonymous]

Beauty standards for men suck, but what's worse is that people won't even acknowledge that it sucks for us too. I am not tall, I am not muscular, no chiseled jaw, no sweet beard... I am literally invisible to women. I HAVE to be charismatic and funny as fuck to get any sort of female attention. But y'all swear we have it so easy lol

[jackfoe_LX]

i would not agree with your statement since i think there's a pretty high standard for men too... speaking of the ideal

[InsideBeauty]

I have asked myself the same thing. Women have physical standards about men but not as high as men have it about women.

[bill001]

You're wrong a woman's physical appearance may get my attention but her personality is what keeps me

[InsideBeauty]

I didn't say the contrary. I just said that men have higher physical standards about women than women about men.

[bill001]

I still think it just depends on what somebody's attracted to.

[Anonymous]

let me know when you see short fat balding men on the cover of fitness magazines. Since they put that whale on the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazine cover, I'd say there's definitely some more acceptance of different body types for women than you're letting on. The things you described are opposite of what I find attractive in women so do you see that it's personal preference? Not a general rule of what someone MUST have to be attractive.

[Anonymous]

It all depends on what each gender values. Guys place a very high value on physical attractiveness when it comes to girls. Girls on average seem to place a lower value on the looks of guys. On the flipside, they seem to value other factors we don't particularly care as much about in women, such as financial prospects, height, educational attainment, and many more.

[Excite]

Society sadly conforms into others ideas, those are people who are afraid of being judged and not being accepted

[steelbunny]

Because for centuries the only use for a woman was to be pretty and bear children. The idea of us having useful brains is new

[steef4000000]

Lol but some what true

[dizmuhjam]

Well.. I dont know about other guys.. but Im currently working hard on a sixpack before summer holidays come around. I hit the gym every day. If thats not a high body standard then I dont know..

[RenegadeSailor]

Because throughout human history what mattered was that the man you were with had the ability to crush the skulls of anyone who would try to harm you, and a woman needed to be attractive to make the man want to protect her.

[sissyboy234]

As a guy who is tall (6'2") and skinny, It is hard if not impossible for me to live up to the standards of a Hollywood male superhero (for example). Unfortunately for women I think it's a much more vocal topic although it d finitely still exists for men.

[Pro13]

thats not true !! woman have a standard about mens they want and let me tell you that I m in good physical shape and I m also a beautiful man I m looking good and it s not enough it seems I m intelligent smart work in construction good salary and it s never enough so can you answer me why is it like that for me then?

[Dreamer95]

I don't feel any of these as a woman loll.. depends on you.. me I barely wear make up I don't have big boobs and I like it, because I don't have to wear bra all the time, I'm size petite super small baby face and I'm good with that, my butt is not to big 5'3 loll.. cuz either way you will find something that you don't like in your body and you need to accept.. over time I stopped thinking about those standard.

[alexauditore97]

Ohhh but you're so wrong. This not a double standard. The only reason why a gorgeous woman would date an ugly man would be if he is Rich and famous, it if she has some weird taste (and no, unfortunately, beauty is not subjective). Other women that date less good looking men simply settle for that. Some because of their age and some... Well, everyone has some reason to settle for less I guess

[yuvi2012]

Its just foolish to think mam... small boobs also work... flat butt also gives pleasure... curves dont make us xtra happy... its just perception that breaks if u love the inner self of person... love her not lust her...

[tittybang]

You'll soon realize that everyone is different. Emotional/Romantic Attraction: I'm only attracted to skinny white girls with black hair. I don't find big butt or boobs attractive at all. I can't change what I'm attracted to, and it's natural. Sexual Attraction: Guys are usually willing to fuck anything that's moving since they are horny all the time until they jerk off or release their sperm. That's just how males are.

[beowulf1324]

Well do you care how tall the guy you date is? And that's something that can't be changed, I'm not saying you should change to fit you so called standard and I admit a lot of men like that sort of thing but drop your standard on what's attractive before you complain about others.

[kanjiroo]

How is this any different from when girls reject guys because they are "too short"

[Bryce010]

Personally I like skinny flat asses with nice gap. Easier to handle, manipulate and generally smells better. Less sweat squish and other nasty smells on thinner girls in my opinion. Of course I'm referring to healthy skinny not heroin skinny..

[thomas29020]

There are standards for men. Every woman has her own but they are all pretty much the same. The only way what most people consider to be a super attractive woman ends up with an average to below average man is by pure chance. 99 percent of women know if they want to pursue a relationship of any kind withing the first few seconds of meeting him

[Myeaa]

Size doesn't matter but sadly society does. Everyone have their own liking/preference. There's guys who is into thick ladies and some don't. Same goes to the ladies. But what matter most is, being confident. Ignore those negative, haters gonna hate. Everyone have their own flaws.

[StanislausJ]

There are physical standards for men, women just don't shame men in public. Other guys will do this however. If you are like me, tall and skinny, people tell you to eat more and workout. That isn't all it takes for someone with a high metabolism. Then you have the reverse that happens to the heavyset people. It's a lose lose situation. You have to be physically fit and know "man things" to not be made fun of.

[Joey244]

From my point of view, there's an equal amount of men and women that judge their potential partner on physical appearance. Personally, I don't have as many 'requirements' as other men, mostly because I think that others (men and women) think too highly of themself and aren't grounded.

[thatJamiefellow]

Men dont really have to look handsome in the way women have to... but try explain why you're not working as a man and watch the shame wagon roll out. Having a particularly attractive career is what men are judged by

[lokeshdh00]

Men also have physical standerd. I. e Six abs , fair or not , muscular or not , language. Body language. . . Most boys and men dont care of it so , we think that you are asking
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[Arn0p]

You know most men don't care that much about how you look like. We also have sometimes different tastes and we can be attracted to a woman that doesn't respect the high physical standard. For exemple, there is a girl I'm really attracted to for who she is but also for how she looks like even if she has too much weight for the standard.

[hoeassjose]

Most guys dont actually have standards , not saying we're all desperate, just don't really care for anything specific, might say we like a certain kind of girl but that moslty for reference. Most girls can get most guys, most guys can't get most girls.

[g33kdpr1nc3]

I actually agree with your opinion. There is a double standard there. Men need to follow standards if they want a woman with standards and vice versa. Ofcourse we are only talking about physical attraction before love hits ya. But if love hits ya in any other means then the standards don't count. There is a compromise there.

[Hiram]

When you come across someone the first thing you see is the physical part but sometimes even if it is not attractive when you go to meet or when you get to meet the person then all that physical stuff goes out the window

[bklynbadboy1]

I don't agree with that the standard is just as high for men trust me you won't date a fat bald man that's broke. People have a preference I have a friend that only dates fat girls and friends that only dates super skinny girls so it depends

[HikerDude]

Not true. Guys have to be tall, handsome, dark hair, muscle, lean, big dick, etc. Plus, we have to be stoic, uncaring, smarter than any woman, a good earner, a street fighter, a comedian, and an engineer, able to solve any problem.

[akki92]

Its coz of the potrayal of the women in movies... the actresses in movies generally have most if the characterstics u mentioned above... but its just standards as u say... so no one gets the standards as they want (very few people get) so why worry what others think we shld just be as we r and as we like

[shubham_saini]

See guys also face this. For some reason our society has the habit of of pointing the shortcomings of everyone.
Or if you do feel the need to have a better body figure or appearance then you may join a gym etc. I was also a really skinny guy , people used to shame me and by the end of high school i decided to join a gym and now i have a decent built. People can't handle but turn around , that's the magic gym does.

[Someguynamedbob]

Because men have to be super confident, have a good job, be popular, be fit, be respectful, be well educated, basically men have a higher standard to live up to in general not just looks, it's hard for both sexes

[Plan411Real]

in my opinion, I believe most of the ridicule begins within the genders themselves before it branches out into personal perceptions of male vs. female or vice versa.

[Charlie_Mack]

That dude was just being a dick... Lol not all guys feel the same way because 9-10 of those women had plastic surgery to get that kinda body, and that's a turn off to most of the guys I know. To be honest I've met only 3 females with that kinda of body and only one had a flat stomach the other 2 had a some baby fat and they were gorgeous with a B cup chest. Don't pay that no mind sweetheart

[MriPibbXtra]

Well everybody has standards it’s not right to generalize that to a sex. I have my preferences and you have yours. But I can tell you we all have a standard for what we want.

[dog2ndgen]

There's just a gap in the way we think. A woman that is more appealing to our eyes obviously catches our attention more easily. But any real man knows that pleasing to the eye isn't always pleasing to the heart. Men don't want to shame woman but more or less just look to see if there are other men around when they say certain things. Get the guy alone and stories change. Spending a few minutes alone without his friends around. Some guys do this just to get attention.

[Reaperjinkai]

I feel like it's based on perspective, growing up all I heard was "women want someone tall, handsome, strong, careing, emotional but emotionally strong enough not to have depression issues and so on". Because of this i never heard anything about what men expect. In the end I've just chalked it up too, those standards are more like loudly voiced opinions. There are plenty of guys who like smaller Boobs and so on.

[Runningfirehead]

I mean I think society has pushed this image of a "healthy" body and guys and girls alike agree that is how every girl should look. Or at least that's how they should look you be considered attractive. Some guys just have these standards for themselves but it doesn't represent the whole. On the other hand, guys do have an image pushed on them to be strong and tall and smart and athletic, or just in general, masculine. It's just not pushed as hard on men as it is for women.

[JarambeJuice]

That's definitely not true, legit the reason why a girl didn't like me was because I was black and had a little chub. You gotta look from others girls perspective. Especially where I live, guys don't really care what a girl looks like. That's one post you saw, that doesn't represent the whole male community.

[FlamingoJones73]

To be a perfect sex toy you must meet those requirements. And I look however I want and get zero attention from women so please stop, men have just as many struggles with body image, confidence, etc...

[pinkie7299]

People can be assholes. I know there are obviously people out there that want"perfection" and those people are going to live lonely lives because they aren't after what really matters. I'm sorry that this guy upset you, but I hope this sheds some light on the fact that it isn't all guys, and you don't have to care about what they say.

[Lewisl4d2]

Anyone can shame anyone for anything. A lot of guys are just more likely to expect more appealing traits. Most guys I know aren't like this, though. Anyone can shame anyone. Uglier girls shame uglier men, prettier girls shame uglier men, etc, etc. It's all a matter of personal preference, I guess.

[aahmedaa]

My grandma use to tell us "there is nothing wrong with a man" in term of their look, but I believe that men and women have different perspectives, for example women need to feel safe and talking care of and might be attracted to a responsible guy even if he have an average look.

[vishall6]

This is really a standard set by the society which the woman are trying to fit into and some of them has their mindset like if we don't fit into it then we will not get attentions. There are woman who least care about all this and live their life as they want. This is the point you have to decide what is important for you, noone is forcing anybody here, man are careless about all this things and in this world who doesn't want to look beautiful and stay fit

[Arktis]

You see that is not true at all. Men get judged just as much as women do and are required to look their best so women don't judge them. Honestly I don't care about looks it's all about personality because if you end up dating a woman/man because he looks good shows that you are shallow. I hope this answer helps.

[smallg221]

I disagree i think its the other way around im constantly hearing woman talj about how they want a man that works out and take care of them selfs but the woman in question has 9/10 never stepped foot in a gym i personally dont care what a woman looks like but I've been told im not tonned enough for woman and they wasn't exactly tonned them selfs

[nickelknight]

You live under a rock if you believe you are the only victum of sexism. If the boys in your life treat you like shit, do somthing about it or say somthing good to a stranger and say goodbye to the bad toxic people that treat you the way you don't want to be treated.