What single life privileges do you lose out on once you go into a relationship?

[valualty]

[ImSoSquishy]

the common stuff i have dealt with with most ex gfs after being together for some time are no more gaming, no more travelling alone for some me-time, no more bros night outs for a beer on Friday nights, no more everything in general and a lot of things will revolve around her or she will tell me i don't love her anymore then i end up just giving in and do it lmao. what we gain is text spam, a lot of random demands/requests, a lot of slaps to the arm, get molested while cuddling and watching movies together at home, and listening/hearing about the horrible bitch she hates at work.

i mean as much as i complain to them about these little things, they just end up laughing and teasing me to our friends when we're hanging out because everytime while i'm complaining i'm doing things for her at the same time, they find it very funny how my actions and words are always contradicting.

[valualty]

Lol couldn't be far from the truth. Spot on

[That1tallguy]

Sounds pretty accurate a lot of guys stop kicking it with the homies. Is it because you rather spend all your time with her or she gives you shit when you want to spend some time with your boyz.
P. s never been in a relationship so I'm genuinely curious why a lot of guys do a 180 once they get a girlfriend

[ImSoSquishy]

@That1tallguy well for my case, at the beginning of the relationship-- yes i will do a 180 sometimes, too. but i'll still try to contact the guys via text and calls. when they ask to hang out i'll either have to say no or try to make it earlier or later during the day to hang out. because i want to know her and be with her more during the honeymoon phase. sometimes i will just bring the girl along to meet the guys and when i bring the girlfriend, we're usually late AF because most of the time the girls will try to nag, and hug me to try to make me not go, and pretty much trying to drag the time out so that i'll cancel on the bros and stay home with her. not saying all the girls are like this, but most of the time and girls that i've dated just happens to mostly be like this.

a lot of times, i find it very stressful to try to accommodate everything and everyone. besides her, there's still school, work, family, friends, gym. after honeymoon phase i try to make everything in life stable again.

[ImSoSquishy]

@That1tallguy there are some times i just feel like the girl doesn't even care what's going on in my life, like all they want is for me to be with them and i mean, i want to be with them as well but there's shit to deal with in life too and sometimes they don't seem to care and it stresses me out.

[That1tallguy]

Oh boi sounds like a headache lol thanks for the insight @ImSoSquishy

[demonics]

Breathing takes a big hit. Your own thoughts... those go away. Like stuff? Yea no more stuff for you.

[Arctic_Fox]

Being in a relationship alone is a privilege! I love my partner and I’m so thankful he loves me, no guy has genuinely loved me before! I’m happy to sacrifice things single people can do to be with someone.

[valualty]

That's cool. Chicks like you are why relationship should still exist

[Pink2000]

Sometimes people tend to lose their friends and family, ability to make decisions, themselves, and much more.

[valualty]

The most realistic answer so far.

[ChronicThinker]

You have to consider someone else's needs, that's about it.

[Cuteusernamehere]

I've been married for a long time. I don't miss the sleeping around part of being single because I never did anyway.
The biggest thing for me is the accountability. Every decision I make I take his feelings into account before I make it. He is like a living breathing projection of my conscience. Not being able to be selfish is annoying but I wouldn't change it for anything 😊

[Schaggy]

That's actually really nice lol

[valualty]

Yeah i agree. The sleeping around that's just how youngsters feel. Not everyone does that

[lumos]

I think the biggest "privilege" you lose is the capability to be completely selfish when it comes to your own life choices. If you're single, you don't really have to take anyone else into account when choosing a job, where to live, what you want to do in your spare time etc. When you're with someone else, especially long-term, you'll have to take them into account, because you're supposed to be a team and make compromises for each other. It wouldn't be fair if just one person makes all the big life-changing decisions, while the other one just tags along and can't say anything about it.

[serious]

Absolutely right.

[Cammy137]

Other than being able to fuck around, the only thing I can think of is the freedom to just say "fuck it" and go away somewhere traveling for a month. My relationship is nothing like any of these photos though. All our costs are split evenly, my partner is just as immature as I am and we dont sit (or stand) around using our phones when we're out with each other.

[TheSikuu]

Imma say this purely based on myself cause I'm kinda weird and Don't think this applies to all that many people.
But once I'm involved with someone (even if its just that we like each other and we know), I begin to feel guilty for being attracted to other women.
I really wish I could flip a switch in my male brain and lose all interest in other women.
When I'm single I get to flirt with a lot of girls and get nudes and hook up and all that but once I really like a girl I don't miss any of those things.
I only miss being able to look asst a girl and thinking "wow she's gorgeous" without feeling like an asshole.

[jessture]

Well this weekend I am off from all of my jobs. I have no idea what I'm doing sat and sun because I'm going to figure it out when it gets here. That wouldn't be possible in a relationship, my entire weekend would suddenly be full of crap I dont want to do.

[valualty]

Haha i can't fault that answer 😂

[olive01b]

It depends on many factors... depending the type of relationship you want to have, the maturity of both parties... I believe that being in a relationship gives another view point on freedom, it does not necesarily mean that you lose your freedom as an individual
(in terms of abstract ideals, not physical ones, such as economic ones)
Personally, it is just another way of experiencing life, that does not mean you 'lose' yourself as an individual (if there is maturity)

[BrittBratt2416]

See I this is kind negative promotion about relationship/marriage that men do that I don't like. Anyway, what privileges you lose? None other than being single that's about it. You can still do the hobbies you enjoy, my boyfriend hasn't had to give up sports, music he likes, the clothes he likes to wear, the games he likes to play/watch, can still go hang out with friends etc. Unless you get with someone who is controlling or have children, nothing is really lost or taken away from you.

[valualty]

Nothing negative. It's okay Everyone has a choice 😊 maybe the images might lead to such negative assumption but it's humour. Some get it some don't. We can't take things too serious can we! lol

[Anonymous]

Things you lose:

1. Free time - you’re always doing something you don’t feel like in a couple

2. Fewer household chores (if you’re a chick) - most guys want you to cook & clean their place

3. Better sex - once you’ve been together a while, a lot of people don’t try as hard to please

4. Sleep quality (if you’re a chick) - studies show women sleep worse next to men, though men sleep better with women

5. Independence: suddenly someone wants to tell you how to dress, how to wear your hair, what to watch on tv, etc

[Popnlock]

you can't fart... or leave the toilet seat up... you can't watch popular shows when you want because thats being selfish... you gotta share your chocolates...

[valualty]

Thank you someone finally spoke my language.
People talking about flirting and sleeping around and shit. Not everyone who's single got time for that shit 😂😂

[Ellie-V]

Lowering the toilet seat is just common courtesy when you’re sharing a space with anyone. The rest... have you been married? If so, maybe your choice of a wife sucked. Because those aren’t real married people problems 😂
I mean... as long as you’re not being obnoxious about it, none of those things are a big deal.

[valualty]

That was just an example he mentioned but simple things like that are also common with everyone married or just bf/gf. Relationships are very empowering in the beginning but if somebody told you they aren't suffocating, they're lying to you...

[lilaqua]

Basically nothing with the exception of being able to sleep/flirt with a lot of different people. But to be honest being in a good relationship is so much better than any number of unattached flings you could have.

[tanya11029023]

Less time -- > less hobbies which you love, less learning --> decreasing of own potential --> decreasing of self esteem.
Although sometimes it can really work and it'll be mutual progression, than its good relationship

[Serious_lurker]

Spot on!

[lifelearner011]

Your comment just made me value even better single life.
I think if its a healthy love, those aspects should be lost.

[Goodwifie]

Dude not all marriages look like that.
I think dating now would be really hard especially through dating sites because people judge you more for your looks even before you both meet.
I love cuddling up with my husband before I go to sleep, sometimes I do fall asleep in his arms.
We take care of each other and raise our children together with absolute team work, a united front.
Being partnered up means never feeling alone and having someone there who has your back when times are tough.

[Anonymous]

Making decisions with consideration of your partner. Being single you have less risk as if things go wrong, it only affects your life. Having a partner means the risk impacts someone else as well. So you are a bit more careful and have to have the odds more in favor of paying off.

[bacca400]

First if I'm with the right person I don't really lose anything. Second, when I got married I got a prenup, so no big loss if we get divorced. Third, I've already "played the field" and I'm just not interested in it. I like being in LTR. Since I'm married our relationship is pretty good. We understand each other, we communicate our needs, so we get our needs met.

[Astoriana]

Not needing to justify how I spend my time anymore. That sucks.

Yes, dude. All I did today was watch Grey’s Anatomy in my pyjamas. WHAT OF IT?

[lumos]

Bahaha
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[saud1998]

Spend time on your self and money on your self. Don’t really have to worry about pleasing someone

[valualty]

100%

[saud1998]

Sounds selfish but🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️😂😂

[valualty]

At least it's true.

[saud1998]

Yeah.

[FinalVow]

none because I don't date abusive, self centered people. seems rather dumb to purposely inflict suffering on yourself just for the sake of being in a "relationship"

[binarybabe001]

The ability to date more than one guy because it's not necessary any more and you have a boyfriend who you only want to be with.

[EnocV]

I love everything about marriage and a healthy relationship.. Everything depends on how's your relationship... If it is healthy it's gonna be okay...