Should my girlfriend have a right to be mad because I didn’t pick her up from a bar when she was drunk?

Question

So she had a girls night with her friends. She drank a lot , and at 2am she texted me hammered. She wanted me to pick her up. I didn’t want to get her because it was 2 am & i had to be up for work at 4am. I told her to get a ride with her friend that was already there with her. I even texted that friend to make sure she was ok to drive & she told me she was fine , and she would take her home. For some reason my girlfriend ubered home & now she won’t respond to me today. No i do not live with her. I have only been dating her for 3 months. She texted me all night calling me a dickhead & told me to F off. Of course if she was stranded or something i wouldn’t even think twice of going to get her , but in this situation I don’t think she has the right to be mad.

Answer 1

silvermoon84 | 373 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I'm probably going to get hate from some of the other girls but oh well. It's not that I personally think you don't care, but that might be what she thinks right now, which you have to make her understand. With that being said however, your girlfriend is also a grown assed woman. As long as she's not your fiancé or wife, she's not your responsibility, especially after only 3 months of dating. I don't think you're wrong at all. At least you cared enough to make sure her friend was okay to drive her, and even if she wasn't your girlfriend should have had that figured out before she went out drinking.

Answer 2

Allie_Oops

Influencer

Yes she does. Her friend may not have actually been okay to get her. A lot of people drink and say they’re fine when they aren’t. Your girlfriend probably knew she wasn’t fit to drive her back.

Basically, your girlfriend tried to be responsible by contacting someone who she knew wasn’t drinking and you didn’t really seem like you cared. I’d be mad at you, too.

Asker

+1 y
You don’t know that for sure
Allie_Oops

+1 y
But common sense would tell you that if she felt the need to take an Uber that’s most likely the reason. Either way, you didn’t care enough about her safety to get her yourself. No matter why she took the Uber, you still suck.
Asker

+1 y
What’s wrong with ubering? Why can’t she do that instead of me driving 20 minutes to get her when i have work in 2 hours. I have to sleep you know.
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Allie_Oops

+1 y
God, I hope she leaves your ass. So selfish...

Answer 3

Asker

You don’t know that for sure

Answer 4

Allie_Oops

But common sense would tell you that if she felt the need to take an Uber that’s most likely the reason. Either way, you didn’t care enough about her safety to get her yourself. No matter why she took the Uber, you still suck.

Answer 5

Asker

What’s wrong with ubering? Why can’t she do that instead of me driving 20 minutes to get her when i have work in 2 hours. I have to sleep you know.

Answer 6

Allie_Oops

God, I hope she leaves your ass. So selfish...

Answer 7

PondyPand

Master

It shows you don't care. You can't know how someone is okay over a text. Her friend could have been hammered too. You're her dude. Her drunkenness asked for you. You didn't help, no matter the reason. It's a bit dickish. Sort of like the middle finger to her.

Asker

+1 y
If I didn’t care I wouldn’t of asked her friend if she was ok to drive her.
PondyPand

+1 y
True but like I said, asking a friend over text means nothing. Just saying "yeah go with your friend" sounds shitty and uncaring. It is essentially saying "ain't got time for you fuck off".
PondyPand

+1 y
I'm on your side. I don't think she should be angry, but I'm telling you why she might be.

Answer 8

Asker

If I didn’t care I wouldn’t of asked her friend if she was ok to drive her.

Answer 9

PondyPand

True but like I said, asking a friend over text means nothing. Just saying "yeah go with your friend" sounds shitty and uncaring. It is essentially saying "ain't got time for you fuck off".

Answer 10

PondyPand

I'm on your side. I don't think she should be angry, but I'm telling you why she might be.

Answer 11

candycanehearts

Xper 7

she probably thinks you couldnt be bothered to get her and you dont care about her, tell her you would get her straight away if she was in trouble or stranded but she was safe and you had work and also she might be embarrased and not answering instead

Answer 12

brocklee | 787 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

She decided to go out and get hammered. She put herself in that position and with Uber and Lyft out there, there was no damn reason to bug a guy that had to be up early for work for a ride. If she doesn't understand, then you are better off without her.

Allie_Oops

+1 y
You're single, aren't you?
brocklee

+1 y
@Allie_Oops No. And my girlfriend knows better than to pull shit like that with me.
Allie_Oops

+1 y
The way you said that makes you sound abusive and controlling lol. I feel bad for your girlfriend that she didn't find better.

Answer 13

Allie_Oops

You're single, aren't you?

Answer 14

brocklee

@Allie_Oops No. And my girlfriend knows better than to pull shit like that with me.

Answer 15

Allie_Oops

The way you said that makes you sound abusive and controlling lol. I feel bad for your girlfriend that she didn't find better.

Answer 16

jennifer_bloom | 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

What you could do next time is ask her to take uber and then offer to pay for the uber ride.

Asker

+1 y
I get it , but she ubers all the time with me & I always pay for it.
Allie_Oops

+1 y
Damn. So cold. Glad you aren’t my boyfriend. She should really dump you.

Answer 17

Asker

I get it , but she ubers all the time with me & I always pay for it.

Answer 18

Allie_Oops

Damn. So cold. Glad you aren’t my boyfriend. She should really dump you.

Answer 19

Anonymous

She probably needed you at that time badly. But don’t worry she’ll calm down and realize it’s nothing to be upset about.

Answer 20

pineappleshortcare | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

She sounds like an asshole, not you. It’s not your job to get her home unless she came with you.

pineappleshortcare

+1 y
These chicks commenting are unbelievable... you’re not her dad. It’s rude of her to get drunk without a ride back and call you that late when she knows you have to work.
silvermoon84

+1 y
THANK YOU!!! I think these girls today rely on their boyfriends too damn much. Like I said before, she should have figured that out before drinking

Answer 21

pineappleshortcare

These chicks commenting are unbelievable... you’re not her dad. It’s rude of her to get drunk without a ride back and call you that late when she knows you have to work.

Answer 22

silvermoon84

THANK YOU!!! I think these girls today rely on their boyfriends too damn much. Like I said before, she should have figured that out before drinking

Answer 23

TacosRAwesome | 3.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

She's an adult so should be responsible to find her way home. Unless you told her you'll pick her up and bailed, she should chill.

Answer 24

Wowgirl10q

Yoda

Yes. If my man wouldn't pick me up i guarantee anouther man would

Answer 25

painted

Xper 1

Nah she’s just making a big deal out of dumb shit

Answer 26

Anonymous

This was a compliance test. You failed. Make it up quick or prepare to be dumped soon.

TacosRAwesome

+1 y
He succeeded in showing he won't be whipped. Good for him.
Opinion Owner

+1 y
Picking her up wouldn’t be whipped. I’ve had non boyfriends do much more for me than that. I’d be pissed if I were her too.
Opinion Owner

+1 y
Actually what I would have done is say fine I’ll get another ride and make sure it was another dude who dropped me off.
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TacosRAwesome

+1 y
Good for you. Either way, they dont live together so he won't see the other dude.

Answer 27

TacosRAwesome

He succeeded in showing he won't be whipped. Good for him.

Answer 28

Opinion Owner

Picking her up wouldn’t be whipped. I’ve had non boyfriends do much more for me than that. I’d be pissed if I were her too.

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

Actually what I would have done is say fine I’ll get another ride and make sure it was another dude who dropped me off.

Answer 30

TacosRAwesome

Good for you. Either way, they dont live together so he won't see the other dude.

Answer 31

ivannna | 70 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Yes... I would be mad too

Should my girlfriend have a right to be mad because I didn’t pick her up from a bar when she was drunk?

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