That is how biology works.
Females subconsient is set to feel attractive to men that can protect and are stable to maintain a family.
Now if you add to that girls usually mature faster than guys, that means you might be 21 but your mental maturity might be years beyond that.
To put it into perspective, you might have started having feelings of wanting a family and kids already while your 21 crush is having fantasies about having threesomes and doing sctacy at clubs, but your single 30 y'ol neighbore is doing everything you wish your man should do.
BUT there is a HUGE problem in this equaliton. I know first hand because my parents are 10 years apart.
When your guy starts hitting 45 your magical life will be over unless he is welthy. He will become fat or unattractive, he will have erection problems while you at your 35s would still be craving sex a few days a week. You will want to go places and hangout but he will just not have the energy for it. And if you have children at an old age, when they hit their teens your man will be too tired already for all the sports and activities a dad-son could do.
That is not how always goes, but is one problem that is very real and happens very often, so beware and choose wisely.
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Well, first off, guys your age haven't, by and large, figured out who they are or what they want. So it could easily be as simple as you being attached to men that are confident, established, and know what (and who) they want to pursue. That's not uncommon at all in women.
It could also mean that you're more attracted to protector/provider types and older men tend to have more means to provide and more experience on how to protect (especially emotionally). This isn't uncommon in women either. So no, it's not that odd.
I would not say it is weird, its perfectly normal especially for young women who are emotionally and mentally more mature. this is most common under those who had to grow up sooner. I mean it is weird for me to be dating a guy that is 23.
I do urge you to proceed with caution, especially because you too. like. myself is very young. remember that your life is still starting, there is much of life you. still need to learn and experience that an older man would have already, this essentially means that you do not grow together and more often. than not they "raise" the young woman into adulthood.
If it helps, I’m 20 and currently have a crush on someone 15 years older than I am. I do get what you’re saying though. I don’t find any guy my age or around my age attractive enough as to pursue a relationship with them. Those guys I friendzone really hard.
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Me too. The stereotype is you must have daddy issues but I had a stable father figure throughout my life. I just have never been able to have stimulating conversations with guys my age. Every conversation involves an assortment of unwarranted innuendo and just general awkwardness on their part. i also matured very quickly (physically and mentally) which meant growing up I never liked guys my age because they were all tiny and seemed like babies to me. They were also repulsed by my gargantuan size so I just naturally liked older guys my whole life. I am a little different in that I can be attracted to guys my age, they just have to look mature. My attraction depends mostly on their personality anyway. There are some rare young guys who are mature. Summary: No! You are not weird at all, it is just a preference.
It's normal for you to feel that way but it's not normal for the guy to want to date a girl who's probably friends with his daughter.
Like I'm in 24 and I've already written off girls 18 for the rest of my life and next year I'll probably not date any girls 19 either. They're just too young and maturity difference at that point is huge.
So it's really fucked up when a guy who is middle aged or older wants girls that young. They are in fact predators. They will come up with a million excuses on why what they're doing is okay but at the end of the day they are perverted predators. I know because I'm in my 20s and I already know it's inappropriate for me to date an 18 year old. It gets worse not better as time goes on.Not weird at all. An older man may appear more stable, sorted, experienced and maybe more wealth and success in life. Date a man your age and he will be that too one day though. You can support him and watch him grow to that or just go older and get it. A man your age should be most interested in establishing himself and building a foundation for a family. An older man has more time built into that foundation. Being a young man is hard, even if you don't date them keep them up, motivate them. Our future depends on it.
My girlfriend is 21, and the average age of girls I have dated throughout my entire life is 23. Perhaps the majority of girls like boys about their age, but some young women are more mature and seek out mature, experienced, and financially capable men.
Whatever works for you. Don't let anyone tell you any different.I'm much more attracted to younger women but I may be immature mentally. While not deeply desiring to have children, it itd be nice if that was an option. People should consider adoption more though. People adopt pets and love them deeply. If a woman of any age was thinking, had attractive face, and we really clicked, I'd definitely consider them. But young women waste time they are most beautiful looking for perfect man and letting their ego be out of control.
No. It's not weird. Men in their 30's are more experienced on how to treat a woman and are more ready to commit. They have also grown out of the young boyish body by then.
It isn't that odd but at 21 you lack experience and with that it is hard not to have power structures within a relationship that can be harmful. The only reason I would be attracted to someone 21 is because of my own insecurities. Obviously sexual attraction would be completely normal, but to actually consider a relationship would take a lot of consideration.
Not that law should dictate who we find attractive, but merely at a legal level, if you're both over age 21, anything is fair game. The rest is merely context because business contexts typically (but not always) dislike co-workers and subordinates having relationships. That aside, our society tends to make relationships where ladies and guys are within 5 to 10 years of each other.
It's not uncommon (for young girls/women to be attracted to older men), if that's what you're referring to. In fact, it's not uncommon for younger adults in general to be attracted to older adults. Though, typically people prefer or tend to date someone closer to their own age.
no its not weird some men older than you are more mature... well sometimes even older guys can be immature too... and you probably like older guys to cause physically their body changes looks more manly and stronger that pre-adults men
Not weird. I personally passionately love it. When the man is double in age, he can dominate me as he desires__ Which I prefer in a perfect man.
It is not weird and there's nothing wrong with that it's just your affinity, even some men get more attracted by older ladies instead of ladies of their age or younger. More to that, the more men get old the more they're handsome, so it's not strange.
I don't go out with boys my age because of all the weird questions asked on GAG.
To be a good example of why.
Older men are set up usually in Bussniess and you become a moving part of there life as they become part of yours.Not weird at all, majority of my relationships or men I dated have beeen 10-15 years older. It’s about maturity and age really doesn’t have anything to do with it.
I love a silver fox, dad bod and well dressed 40 something man, that’s why when I saw my partner I wanted him there and then and 4yrs later he is quite simply more gorgeous. Luckily it turns out he is a nice guy too! 🙌🏻
Only downfall is that I feel I’m in my prime sexually whilst he enjoys a steadier schedule shall we say. He always say he is one lucky guy though😊Normal. Even successful women are Why do some "successful" "attractive" "young" women marry much older men? ↗
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It's not weird, you like who like. Just make sure that they're not interested in you just because you're younger and that they're not using you.
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It's Okay for now at your age but if you do settle down with a much older man the age difference between you two will be more prominent as the years go by.
There is nothing weird about it. Often at young age we find strong attraction towards opposite sex on account of their maturity, prowess, and the way they sometimes understand us and deal with us. A short term association might be symbiotic to both but a long term relationship needs to be addressed after going through all pros and cons.
No. Thats what nature intended. Older men on average have more resources which is what women ultimately seek in a partner.
Men want young beautiful healthy feminine and fertile women to build with a family with.
Its always been like that.
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