Is it weird that I'm attracted to older men?

Question

Like 10/15 years older? I literally don't really find anyone my age attractive. The only time I've had a sexual attraction to someone was when they are older. I'm 21.

TheKingKunta · Accepted Answer

That is how biology works.
Females subconsient is set to feel attractive to men that can protect and are stable to maintain a family.

Now if you add to that girls usually mature faster than guys, that means you might be 21 but your mental maturity might be years beyond that.

To put it into perspective, you might have started having feelings of wanting a family and kids already while your 21 crush is having fantasies about having threesomes and doing sctacy at clubs, but your single 30 y'ol neighbore is doing everything you wish your man should do.

BUT there is a HUGE problem in this equaliton. I know first hand because my parents are 10 years apart.
When your guy starts hitting 45 your magical life will be over unless he is welthy. He will become fat or unattractive, he will have erection problems while you at your 35s would still be craving sex a few days a week. You will want to go places and hangout but he will just not have the energy for it. And if you have children at an old age, when they hit their teens your man will be too tired already for all the sports and activities a dad-son could do.
That is not how always goes, but is one problem that is very real and happens very often, so beware and choose wisely.

ManFrom1982 · Accepted Answer

Well, first off, guys your age haven't, by and large, figured out who they are or what they want. So it could easily be as simple as you being attached to men that are confident, established, and know what (and who) they want to pursue. That's not uncommon at all in women.

It could also mean that you're more attracted to protector/provider types and older men tend to have more means to provide and more experience on how to protect (especially emotionally). This isn't uncommon in women either. So no, it's not that odd.

Biancs · Accepted Answer

I would not say it is weird, its perfectly normal especially for young women who are emotionally and mentally more mature. this is most common under those who had to grow up sooner. I mean it is weird for me to be dating a guy that is 23.

I do urge you to proceed with caution, especially because you too. like. myself is very young. remember that your life is still starting, there is much of life you. still need to learn and experience that an older man would have already, this essentially means that you do not grow together and more often. than not they "raise" the young woman into adulthood.

lol20075 · Accepted Answer

If it helps, I’m 20 and currently have a crush on someone 15 years older than I am. I do get what you’re saying though. I don’t find any guy my age or around my age attractive enough as to pursue a relationship with them. Those guys I friendzone really hard.

ZaraHadid · Answer

Me too. The stereotype is you must have daddy issues but I had a stable father figure throughout my life. I just have never been able to have stimulating conversations with guys my age. Every conversation involves an assortment of unwarranted innuendo and just general awkwardness on their part. i also matured very quickly (physically and mentally) which meant growing up I never liked guys my age because they were all tiny and seemed like babies to me. They were also repulsed by my gargantuan size so I just naturally liked older guys my whole life. I am a little different in that I can be attracted to guys my age, they just have to look mature. My attraction depends mostly on their personality anyway. There are some rare young guys who are mature. Summary: No! You are not weird at all, it is just a preference.

Anonymous · Answer

It's normal for you to feel that way but it's not normal for the guy to want to date a girl who's probably friends with his daughter.

Like I'm in 24 and I've already written off girls 18 for the rest of my life and next year I'll probably not date any girls 19 either. They're just too young and maturity difference at that point is huge.

So it's really fucked up when a guy who is middle aged or older wants girls that young. They are in fact predators. They will come up with a million excuses on why what they're doing is okay but at the end of the day they are perverted predators. I know because I'm in my 20s and I already know it's inappropriate for me to date an 18 year old. It gets worse not better as time goes on.

scottFREEnyc · Answer

Not weird at all. An older man may appear more stable, sorted, experienced and maybe more wealth and success in life. Date a man your age and he will be that too one day though. You can support him and watch him grow to that or just go older and get it. A man your age should be most interested in establishing himself and building a foundation for a family. An older man has more time built into that foundation. Being a young man is hard, even if you don't date them keep them up, motivate them. Our future depends on it.

WalterRadio · Answer

My girlfriend is 21, and the average age of girls I have dated throughout my entire life is 23. Perhaps the majority of girls like boys about their age, but some young women are more mature and seek out mature, experienced, and financially capable men.

Whatever works for you. Don't let anyone tell you any different.

PeterB1517 · Answer

I'm much more attracted to younger women but I may be immature mentally. While not deeply desiring to have children, it itd be nice if that was an option. People should consider adoption more though. People adopt pets and love them deeply. If a woman of any age was thinking, had attractive face, and we really clicked, I'd definitely consider them. But young women waste time they are most beautiful looking for perfect man and letting their ego be out of control.

PinkMichae · Answer

No. It's not weird. Men in their 30's are more experienced on how to treat a woman and are more ready to commit. They have also grown out of the young boyish body by then.

Beauxbreaux · Answer

It isn't that odd but at 21 you lack experience and with that it is hard not to have power structures within a relationship that can be harmful. The only reason I would be attracted to someone 21 is because of my own insecurities. Obviously sexual attraction would be completely normal, but to actually consider a relationship would take a lot of consideration.

elementalist · Answer

Not that law should dictate who we find attractive, but merely at a legal level, if you're both over age 21, anything is fair game. The rest is merely context because business contexts typically (but not always) dislike co-workers and subordinates having relationships. That aside, our society tends to make relationships where ladies and guys are within 5 to 10 years of each other.

chrisbigman · Answer

It's not uncommon (for young girls/women to be attracted to older men), if that's what you're referring to. In fact, it's not uncommon for younger adults in general to be attracted to older adults. Though, typically people prefer or tend to date someone closer to their own age.

blessedtostress2015 · Answer

no its not weird some men older than you are more mature... well sometimes even older guys can be immature too... and you probably like older guys to cause physically their body changes looks more manly and stronger that pre-adults men

Afrajakia · Answer

Not weird. I personally passionately love it. When the man is double in age, he can dominate me as he desires__ Which I prefer in a perfect man.

Kaprim · Answer

It is not weird and there's nothing wrong with that it's just your affinity, even some men get more attracted by older ladies instead of ladies of their age or younger. More to that, the more men get old the more they're handsome, so it's not strange.

puffynips · Answer

I don't go out with boys my age because of all the weird questions asked on GAG.
To be a good example of why.
Older men are set up usually in Bussniess and you become a moving part of there life as they become part of yours.

Golden_girl85 · Answer

Not weird at all, majority of my relationships or men I dated have beeen 10-15 years older. It’s about maturity and age really doesn’t have anything to do with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I love a silver fox, dad bod and well dressed 40 something man, that’s why when I saw my partner I wanted him there and then and 4yrs later he is quite simply more gorgeous. Luckily it turns out he is a nice guy too! 🙌🏻
Only downfall is that I feel I’m in my prime sexually whilst he enjoys a steadier schedule shall we say. He always say he is one lucky guy though😊

Anonymous · Answer

Normal. Even successful women are

menina · Answer

It's not weird, you like who like. Just make sure that they're not interested in you just because you're younger and that they're not using you.

Goodwifie · Answer

It's Okay for now at your age but if you do settle down with a much older man the age difference between you two will be more prominent as the years go by.

irrationalabsurd · Answer

There is nothing weird about it. Often at young age we find strong attraction towards opposite sex on account of their maturity, prowess, and the way they sometimes understand us and deal with us. A short term association might be symbiotic to both but a long term relationship needs to be addressed after going through all pros and cons.

shades777 · Answer

No. Thats what nature intended. Older men on average have more resources which is what women ultimately seek in a partner.

Men want young beautiful healthy feminine and fertile women to build with a family with.

Its always been like that.

Raybob · Answer

All through history of man, age difference was never a problem. Genesis 25 Abraham married Keturah after Sarah died. She was young enough to bring him 6 more sons. He was 115. Look at President Harding, was in his 70s in office and married 2nd wife 25 years old. Look at Willie Nelson, celebrating over 30+ years marriage, he was 56, she was 26.

Ki_Wavy · Answer

nope. i have a fantasy of having sex with a man who's between 35-45 and i'm 20. not sure i'm necessarily attracted sexually, but i'd always like to try. i don't think you're weird.

ImSoSquishy · Answer

10 to 15 years is still not so bad compared to like people in their early 20's dating people who are already in their 60's because it just looks like they're gold diggers even if they're not.

pitzi · Answer

No ) : older men are really attractive... like 35 and up up up

mikeygolfs · Answer

No it is not weird. Perfectly normal. But make sure you are careful and get to know the person and that they are std and sti free before getting intimate. Us older guys have a knack for carrying sti s and stds.

DanielOfTheNorth · Answer

I'm attracted to older women.  I mean I still am attracted to girls my age, or younger, don't get me wrong... but the thought of mature women... There is a reason they are called MILFS

Sarisalive · Answer

I don't think it's a good idea, since you guys are at completely two different places (regarding age), but... I wouldn't say it's weird.

LuvAsh · Answer

No, you just get along with people in that age group. I get along with people older than me too for some reason. I had this friend who was like 40 years old and me and her were like best friends. It sounds crazy but its true lol

demonics · Answer

I too am sexually attracted to paid off houses, property owners, senior leadership, and 6 figure incomes.

straightupdude · Answer

I think it's pretty normal. No worries there. As long as the maturity level isn't out of whack then it's fine.

GetzRekt · Answer

Yes, we're shit. (not talking on behalf of all the other older men here, before they get their panties in a bunch).

Anonymous · Answer

Well, my girlfriend is 25, almost 26. One of my friends who is 21 has expressed an interest in dating me. I look pretty good for my age; I probably look about 10 years younger than I really am. But I wouldn't worry; you like who you like. :)

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

... No.

Lance1965 · Answer

Not weird. I am only attracted to much younger women, like 20 years or more younger. I have never met a woman my age that I am attracted to. I wish I did because we would have more in common but it just never happens.

MARIA904 · Answer

It's not weird. I once dared a guy 10 years older than me. You go for who ever makes you happy. Screw everyone else's thought on it. It's your life!

Anonymous · Answer

I think because of the maturity and the rising potential of having a solid “father figure” of the elder males, you find them immediately attractive. You might be preferring easy going and sedate men which are mostly seen in elder groups. You are free to find attractive who you want. Everyone has different desires and tastes. Just make sure you stay away from married men and you good to go.

Celq532 · Answer

You like mature man. That's all. Just like some older people prefer lot young people because of youthfulness/more innocent or whatever it may be. Every body is different. Definitely not weird.

Anonymous · Answer

My parents have a 33 year age gap (my dad being older), so age really is just a number when it comes to love

alrightyyyyyyy · Answer

Nope, not weird. People have their preferences. As long as you aren't underage, which you aren't thankfully, I don't see what is the big deal. People usually associate wide age gaps with sugar daddies so there is some stigma around that.

TripleAce · Answer

It still doesn’t mean it’s always a good idea to do what you feel drawn to...🤪

Anonymous · Answer

It's perfectly fine... When I was dating guys my. Age I h Never keep a. Relationship for more than a month... My curent boyfriend is 10 years older than me and we soon celebrate 2 years anniversary

Selena2418 · Answer

My ex was 15 years my senior, and it was the best relationship I ever had... I totally get it.

babyyellow13 · Answer

You could just be more mature than others your age. Perfectly normal

cavmanier · Answer

It's pretty common of course. I met a 50 girl yesterday that is married to a 28 year old guy too.

windknowsmyname · Answer

Well no, you are who you are, nothing can change it.

Pandora91 · Answer

I know how you feel... Im 27 and I like women in their 30s because usually (but not all) women my age only like to party and get pissy drunk where as older women are more simple

nicknicknick23 · Answer

Everything that's uncommon sounds weird. So yes it's weird but not unacceptable. Even I'm attracted to elder woman more though the range would be upto 8-10 years, which I believe would differ depending upon your age as well as your likings.

Johnnie1000 · Answer

Not a problem. Its about mature age and taste and not calendar age.

sunsetwalker · Answer

I think age has no place in love. when your over 21 then go for it your own personal lives no one else's.

shy77 · Answer

i think a lot of us are attracted to older men because of their maturity and their confidence in themselves is very appealing

albionin · Answer

Well it probably says you value maturity and maybe didn't have a positive male in your life growejng up and are alwsys looking for that missing piece?

Jerre · Answer

No not at all. I think most younger women think an older guy will treat them as they should be treated - like a woman and not like a fuck toy younger men and boys treat you.

akumetsu · Answer

Same here yo. I never had a relationship and it seems Im attracted to mature women because to me Ill be less likely to be hurt and or use by that age range than younger woman. That's my mindset.

baelen7 · Answer

Well i wasgonna say in attracted to older women but not 10/15 years older... like max 5 6 years older than me. I don't think that's weird tho. You're free to like whoever

JJ_the_Carpenter · Answer

Well many women like older men. Figure they can be better at taking care of them and more mature. Both can be true but isn't the case seems to be a individual case by case.

And you don't know why or can't explain it?

Anonymous · Answer

Funny. I'm in my 30s and most of the girls I date are in their 20s. Had a 1 year age gap once (me 35 her 21).

If a older man is still in shape/good looking it's a sign he has good longevity genes. Subconsciously many young women notice this.

WhoKnoes · Answer

Its only weird if you make it weird. Its your happiness that matters here. I think most girls like older guys (or its the car. Chicks dig the car)

fawasroshan · Answer

Everyone has Thier own fantasy... it's is it life.. so do what your heart enjoys

lycan71 · Answer

It's not weird at all us older men have our shit together and know how to treat a women x x x

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

To me yes, but I'm also attracted to things people think are weird, so I won't judge.

Is it weird that I'm attracted to older men?

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