I think this argument is/was unnecessary and pretty childish. You guys are dating for a month! Quality time is nice but come on, people have lives too. You can’t expect a grown person to throw their priorities (like move into their home) aside for a girl. I believe that people have to earn being a priority. You’re in the beginning stages of dating, obviously you guys don’t love each other and are just vibing each other out. You blew it out of proportion and the fact that he’s trying after you were insensitive and made it about yourself. This whole time, all I read was about you you you. You wanted to see him. You got mad. You broke it off. You want an apology. Yet in the same breath you’re saying that He is not putting effort when he clearly went out of his way to clear things up with you. You’re right, there should be boundaries and limits. He shouldn’t take you for granted. So make yourself unavailable as well. He didn’t say he was partying with friends. He was moving into his apartment. You could’ve even offered to help him... instead you got mad and threw fit because you didn’t get what you wanted.
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You actually sound all kinds of crazy in those... I genuinely can’t beleive he kept trying as long as he did.
You keep saying that quality time is important to YOU and that he’s failing in that, but I think you’re failing to see he had something else going on that HE felt needed to take precedence. I hate having people in my home when it’s a mess, I just won’t do it until it’s my version of perfect. He wasn’t asking for forever, it was a few measly days and it looked like he still tried to keep up the communication with you.
Given this was a relatively new relationship and not years into commitment your reaction and expectation is really over the top - the text messages are just reaffirming that crazy
From reading it all, seems you both handled the relationship and breakup wrong. You went for the attack, putting him on the defensive. Could be in his mind he was giving what he could, and your expectations where beyond what he was giving. At what point did you tell him that you would like to talk face to face, as you are concerned about your relationship? Seems you made decisions that could have been inaccurate assumptions. Maybe they were right. But you never rationally discussed them, giving him an opportunity to figure it out and step it up. Sometimes timing is a bitch and you all could have been victims of that.
He didn't do anything wrong. He was too busy to see you and you were too impatient to wait until his schedule clears up. You had a right to break up with him but he also had a right to wait until he had more free time before arranging to meet you. He has nothing to apologize for because he did nothing wrong. If you were tired and sleep deprived - would you want a guy who forces you to see him simply because he thinks his needs are more important than yours?
Yeah. I think you're incredibly self-centered and the weak-willed guy is better off without you. He'd be best if he grew some balls cut this travesty off before you dragged him all over like a cheetah with a dead carcass, but then again not very many women are as psycho as you are, so, chances are, he will be much better off with almost anyone else.
You definitely over-reacted and you come of a little crazy.
Of course moving in and unpacking is going to be his priority! Just reverse the roles. If you just moved and had boxes everywhere you would want to get rid of them ASAP.
You could always have offered to help him unpack, that way you could have seen him as well.
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Stay strong girl. My ex was a lot like this. Never really did anything wrong, but the little things added up. I always made time for him, but he never really reciprocated. Turned out he was cheating. While your guy probably wasn't doing this, it sounds like he really wasn't invested in the relationship as much as you were. Don't let him turn the tables on you. He's only freaking out now because he realizes he was taking you for granted, and he's trying to save face by acting like you were being unsupportive. The thing is you sound like you were very supportive. Giving into him is just going to lead to a dangerous cycle. Maintain your self worth and don't give into this guy - you deserve way better.
I would say if you know what you're looking for and he wasn't on the same page as you it can be hard to make a relationship work like that regardless. People can change of course but most usually like to stay who they are (I sure do). I would say you made the right call based on what you are looking for at this moment. Maybe since he was moving here wanted some time to relax and enjoy his own space while moving in, but that was what he wanted. Maybe now here's had time to make himself comfortable with how his place looks and is all settled in he's ready to focus on you but that's a decision for you to make if you want to continue. As others have said there seems to be more backstory to this. Best of luck
You dont have feelings for him and your mad yet you still fight with him? This doesn't make sense. My ex i cut off all ties and dont talk to her. I blocked her on everything. You obviously want him as a friend but you say otherwise.
Seems like there's a whole lot more to the back story. Ultimately dosent matter. It's in your past, move on
You totally started the conversation in a provocative manner so it yeah I believe you were too harsh.
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