I'm really losing my patience as this happens prettiest often, like i said, and i think he doesn't know/care/understand how shitty this makes me feel. I tried grabbing him some beer the other day since i thought it might cheer him up/relax him after a long day, he flat out said ' i told you i didn't want it.. I was sure you were gonna do this, nevermind'. I don't bug or nag him, and i fear he will start blaming me again
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This honestly sounds like a personality disorder... which there are three classified groups of disorders. I'm not a therapist or psychologist or anything, but it might be worth spending time looking into it. I read a lot about mental illness because it occurs in my family, and almost everyone has a mental disorder of some kind since there are hundreds of them. I've also dated people with different personality disorders. It seems like depression is certainly a part of his situation. Borderline personality disorder comes to mind, which is not what most people think it is. It's a disorder characterized by mood instability such as depression or lashing out, negative self-image distortion, inability to deal to conflict or discourse meaning they can totally idealize someone one moment but when conflict or slight seperation occurs they can switch to extreme irritation and anger. Often they accuse the other person of not caring enough or not doing enough to help them or make them happy.
... this can also affect their eating habits and spending habits (excess or bare minimum)
... again I'm not a professional, but he kind of rings true of someone with borderline personality disorder, which is very common (2% of the population) and very manageable, but also very detrimental to relationships because the other person essentially is seen as responsible for their happiness... and if they aren't happy, then they will make sure their partners aren't either since they hold them responsible.