My boyfriend has been ignoring me for 2 weeks? What should I do?

[Liliane96]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4years. Last time that we had a a fight was 1year ago. Things have been going so good between us and he told me 8 months ago that he is ready to start a family. So we have been trying. But this last month his mum who lives abroad has gotten ill n it has been really stressing him. I have been trying to be really supportive n be there for him. But all of a sudden he dropped me of at work n now I haven’t heard or seen him for the last 2 weeks. I have called he doesn’t pick up, I text him he opens my messages but doesn’t reply. I’ve tried going to his dads place wea he lives but nobody was home. I just dnt knw what he thinking n whether I need to keep stressing that it has smthng to do with us? Or do I keep calling n texting him to show him that I care? Or will this push him more away.

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He definitely didn’t travel to his mum, cause that’s like an 9hour flight and with corona over hea it’s not possible.

[Battooot]

His mum is sick and could die at any moment!!! His dearest person in the world. The one who raised him all his life and stood by him and watched him grow. Is now far away from him and SICK. Can you even start to imagine what kind of thoughts and pain he is going through right now? That his mother could die at any moment while he is NOT even there beside her. That she could die without him telling her good bye or seeing her one last time! The feeling of being useless as he can't do anything to help her or be with his most precious mum in the time she needs him the most! The frustration and sadness.

Thats a lot to deal with for a man. And he could be in a situation of sadness and pathetic state that he doesn't want you to see him like that!

Just give him sometime. He needs time for himself. Let him be alone for a while.

Stop messaging him completely. Let him miss you. Right now you are just making it harder for him and not making him miss you. Leave him alone completely no contact at all for a whole month. After 1 month, if he doesn't text or say anything. Then maybe it was all a lie and he wanted to dump you.

I know this is extremely difficult and frustrating for you. But you have to be supportive and also patient. And give him benefit of the doubt. Best of luck!

[Battooot]

can you update me what happens in the end? curious !

[Anonymous]

If he's super stressed, he may have gone into his man cave (wherever that is) to try to get his mojo back.
If your relationship is as good as you say, he'll be back. You won't scream and shout. You'll act concerned. In time he'll explain. You'll move on with increased confidence.
In the meantime, I don't see there's much you can do other than try not to worry. Trust he'll return.

[Killer-Queen]

I'm so sorry but he broke up with you without even telling you, and I'll be honest, this is what happens when they've already begun seeing someone else. You need to start the grieving process and that means you have to stop trying to reach out to him. If you continue to do so, he will think you are pathetic, desperate and you don't know how to take a hint. Trust me, he will just feel sorry for you and think you're pitiful. It's probably the worst feeling in the world and a terrible spot to be in because it's betrayal - it sounds like he has been lying to you. I'm really sorry you're going through this, but there's nothing else it could be.

[Killer-Queen]

By the way, I speak from experience. He's at least weighing his options and is too much of a coward to tell you so he's just ignoring you. Don't ever let a man treat you like this.

[Battooot]

You gotta learn to give people the benefit of the doubt and not judge so early. Otherwise this will cost you a lot of pain and misunderstanding in your life. Thats a promise.

[Killer-Queen]

@Battooot I'm just being honest. It's good to be emotionally prepared because these things can and do happen.

[Battooot]

Emotionally prepared sure. But already assuming, thinking, and most importantly ACTING in a way that this is what actually happened. Big NO. Big big NO NO

[Killer-Queen]

@Battooot My opinion.

[Battooot]

so is what I advised you.

[Alyssa11]

I would give him the ultimatum. I know he's going through a lot but that is unacceptable. 2 weeks!

I'd say something like "Hi. I love you and I am really worried about you. You know I'm always here for you and supportive of you throughout it all, but I need to know if you're okay. As your girlfriend of 4 years, I don't think it's right for you to ignore me for 2 straight weeks. Please get back to me and tell me what's going on, otherwise you're hinting to me that there's a bigger issue."

And don't continue in your RS as normal without a reasonable explanation of what was going on those 2 weeks!

[Alyssa11]

Thanks for mho and good luck!! Hope everything turns out in your favour (regardless of the outcome, I'm sure it will!)

[AmandaJenny]

That’s rude. When he comes back (if he’s not upset) then give him a piece of your mind but let him explain to you why he didn’t even tho it’s no excuse. It’s not nice what he’s doing to you. Maybe you should hire someone to see if he’s still alive, I hope he is. I also hope he’s no wanted criminal.

[Liliane96]

I will definitely give him a piece of my mind.
Am scared of myself smtyms that am going to text him out of frustration n anger. N say smthng that I will eventually regret.

I just dnt understand the mind of a guy smtyms.
He is alive, heard from a friend of his who spoke to him like 6days ago n didn’t hea from him anymore for like 3days.
N he checks my snap stories but doesn’t reply my messages.

[sherlocked04]

i suppose he's travelled to his mom and probably things have gone downhill and he probably just needs some personal mind space right now. wait for him to contact you. you've already shown that you're there for him, you can't do more than that. now it's his turn when to reciprocate the same

[Liliane96]

He definitely didn’t travel to his mum cause it’s 9hour flight and with COVID 19 cnt travel all that way.
So it’s just so fucking frustrating that I keep texting but get no reply.
I dnt wanna sound desperate by always checking up on him. But I also dnt want him to now think I dnt care about him cause am not texting him anymore. Pppff

[sherlocked04]

you just have one option i suppose..
just send him one final text asking him how he is and saying that you're there for him always and that if he needs someone by his side he could count on you and meet you and just hug you and cry it out if he's sad.
and well, then just wait for his reply. you could only give him his mind space right now other than that and well I'm sure if your relationship is as true and pure as it sounds, he'd surely come back soon

[Liliane96]

Oke thank you I will do that.
So I shuldnt mention the question why he is ignoring me?

N by the way on Snapchat he checks my stories but doesn’t bother replying to my texts

[sherlocked04]

just start with "i don't know what have i done for you to ignore me but I really love you and i miss you and ik things are tough right now..." and just continue the way you'd want to go ahead with it.

he's just keeping track of how you're doin but probably isn't in the positive mental frame to talk to you thinking that he could ruin something good if he snaps at you due to his issues. just assure him that you're there for him and he can trust u

[sheikalana]

He's probably dealing with a lot in his mind. Give him some space do not contact him again and wait for him to get in touch with you once things get better on his side.

[hucknorris]

Ask him if their is something that he has done that he feels he shouldn’t tell you. People sometimes commit hatful acts in a relationship and then withhold them, which is what breaks up the communication and brings distance to the relationship. You guys are going to have to divulge each other’s transgressions against the relationship if it is to continue, especially for him.

[Wise4myage]

I get the feeling him and his father have traveled to where his mother lives, and even though its no excuse to not contact you, try to be patient. I say send one last text and let him know how much you care and wish he would reply.

[Liliane96]

He definitely didn’t travel to his mum cause it’s 9hour flight and with COVID 19 cnt travel all that way.
So it’s just so fucking frustrating that I keep texting but get no reply.
I dnt wanna sound desperate by always checking up on him. But I also dnt want him to now think I dnt care about him cause am not texting him anymore. Pppfff🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[Wise4myage]

Thanks for the reply, not sure what else I can tell you.

[Avicenna]

Wait for him to contact you. The bill is in his court.

[msc545]

I think he's probably just preoccupied with his mother's problems and this would be a bad time to continue bothering him. If and when he feels like it he will come around.

[_Just_A_girl_]

Dump
And move on 4 years of life wasted why. You don't deserve it.

[Sweetheart666]

Leave him alone. Either he will come around or he won’t.

[Dave31989]

to be fair, there's a pandemic. noone should really be seeing each other

[SandandWaves]

do your own thing... live life..

[Korbzilla]

Break up. Easy as 1 2 3

[Anonymous]

That is really odd behavior

[Liliane96]

Very odd, I dnt understand him

[Opinion Owner]

Neither do it

[spartan55]

Break up with him.

[rachidcheko]

Any girl here want to speak with me

[jimmy2]

Well tell him goodbye for 2 weeks