Have you ever rejected someone because you thought they were out of your league?

[just_girl]

[Anonymous]

Sort of.

But it wasn't due to her being high up the scale in terms of beauty, it was the fact that her beauty had attracted men of means through her entire adult life. She was accustomed to a lifestyle I had no desire of helping her maintain. I had known her a little while, and was aware she was with a wealthy guy only for his money. She split with him to try and coax me into seeing her. I knew she couldn't give up the money. Within weeks of my rejection she went back with him and married him. I know it would have happened eventually as the money was more important to her.

[dr1fter]

Nooope. No one is really out of anywone's league... unless one were to look like Gollum lol. It's all about self confidence and self worth

[just_girl]

I agree with that.

[dr1fter]

The part about Gollum or self confidence and self worth?😂

[just_girl]

Both haha.

[anonuser0831]

Yeah. I didn't openly reject him, but looking back on it now, he was very clearly into me but I was too blind to see that, and a couple months later he got a girlfriend but strangely continued to give me signs that he liked me.. I guess I didn't react quickly enough, but to be fair it was at least a couple months lol 😅

I think I was just so confused at the prospect that this attractive guy is into me and couldn't really put us together in my mind

[jennifer_bloom]

I haven't done that - but there were times where I rejected a guy that was out of my league because I didn't care that he was out of my league or because he thought that being more attractive than me gave him the right to disrespect me or ask for sex. I don't know why I like some people and not others - but I rejected a perfectly good guy who was good looking and smart and nice and rich and I have no idea why! I just wasn't attracted to him.

[Logorithim]

No. If she is that interested, I must be doing something Right.

[Chaz269]

I've never been approached, let alone by someone out of my league. Women monkey branch up mostly, and across sometimes, but never down. Well, sometimes down, but it's usually a poor choice on the rebound or under the effects of drugs and/or alcohol. Then she just files rape charges and puts it all behind her. That's why if a woman clearly of higher status than myself came onto me, I'd just disappear without a word. That's a no win situation for most men.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

I've never had a chick outright reject me. Ever!

But being "one of those guys that has lots of options", or "too mysterious" and so on... A lot of chicks I wanted to show a good time ruined it for themselves!

[Anon-ymous1]

Out of my league as in, *below* my league? Yeah, I have... but not a girl who was *above* my league. Why on Earth would anyone reject someone who's ABOVE their league, yet interested in them?

[just_girl]

Makes sense, but not to everyone.

[Kenni]

Lol no. And that is total bullshit to me. If someone out of my league wants me, meaning they're too good for me and actually can make me a better person, I'd be stupid to let them go, let alone REJECT them.

[Curmudgeon]

Yes, because I KNEW i was being "led on" by someone who had no real interest in me. It took her aback that I rejected her first. I was wise to what she had in mind.

[ATuairiscean]

I don't believe in a leagues but if I did I reckon with most of my relationships I was punching above my weight looks wise but I have a very strong personality so maybe that is what evens it out.

[LeFrogDog]

I actually have in the past. I was going through I a lot of self confidence issues. Essentially I had little value in myself.

[Renegade_man]

Yep and a few i didn't even try to know better I pulled a 180°

[just_girl]

What does that mean?

[Renegade_man]

I was meaning some I really liked and thought they was hot as hell but I didn't even try to get to know them and when I said I pulled a 180° I mean I avoided them completely

[jessicake]

I’ve rejected both people that were immature and not well liked and other people who were more outgoing and well liked

[mihaialex]

No, but i kind of keep a distance from the girls that i consider way more beautiful than i am. Honestly i dont think it is really healthy to have a really good looking partner compared to you, because you think that you are ugly and he/she can leave you at any time for a more attractive person than you. Guys are known to go for a girls looks, as opposed to girls who goes for what a guy is made of (his character, etc) for a serious relationship.

[Burgerboy21]

I have rejected someone out of my league, but not because she was out of my league; I just simply didn't like her.
Yes, she was good-looking, but there's much more to relationships than just looks, and her personality/behavior turned me off.

[Lance1965]

No that would be crazy. If I am lucky enough to have a very good looking girl talking to me I am not going to throw that away without good reasons. Saying 'she is too good for me' is weak.

[Factshurt90]

All the time actually when I was in high school. Apparently I was a lot cuter than I felt.🤷🏾‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Yeah I’ve rejected a guy because I thought he had tons of options so I didn’t trust his motives.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Shame you girls do that. Been there myself... Many times. She gets asked out, ditches the chance, tries in her own little way to chase you back. By that point my interest is long gone.

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas kind of proves her point though that you didn’t like her that much too.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Not necessarily. A lot of girls believe that by testing a man's manhood it'll make the man *prove* both himself to her, and reinforce her desirability. Most males fall for this age old sexual gender dynamic all the time. But for men like me, we simply don't grovel at the pedestal of what is, frankly, just childish behaviour, let alone a mark of the actual worth of the woman.

There's been a lot of girls I've found highly attractive, but they ruined it themselves with silliness lol.

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas it’s not childish, it’s a mistake to misinterpret it as that. If she feels he has many options it’s not exactly a wise move to throw herself at his feet if she’s not looking for something just casual. What is wise is having his realistic interest level and motivations first.

[Opinion Owner]

*gaging

[FreshOutaIdeas]

A lot of people much older than myself would mistakenly think I'm still young dumb and naive, but relative to my own age group I speak from a fair amount of experience.

I would still wager that it is childish, the sort of behaviour I describe is all rooted in insecurities. As you seem to demonstrate yourself, the view which you take is solely one dimensional. Your right, no girl (or guy) worth their weight in salt should "throw themselves" at anyone. Equally it's not only guys that should make their intentions clear, but women also, both genders admittedly can be as equally flakey at times.

Where I'm coming from is that I'm simply the kinda guy that goes with the proverbial flow, whether the chick in question is looking for a hit and run or actually wants to "get to know me", I'm down for it. I've got many examples in which the girl was unclear in her actions (one night or more (?) right?), but then got upset when I moved on swiftly, using mind games to hook me back.

That said

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Let me rephrase, I mean that you speak from only a woman's perspective. And as I said in my first comment, women have been conditioned to function on certain illogical double standards.

And noooooo I'm no MGTOW either. Hate them cop-outs!

[Opinion Owner]

I think you’re underestimating the value of intuition! It’s not childish, it’s actually the opposite of naivety if something feels off. I’ve dated good looking guys who I had ridiculous chemistry with who have put me more at ease. My gut instinct hasn’t failed me yet so I’m not about to change that now.

Also both women AND men function on double standards. Is it ideal? No. Is that just how it works? Yes.

[Opinion Owner]

No point in pretending that isn’t how it works. Use it as you’re strength instead. Traditional values aren’t a bad thing.

[Opinion Owner]

*your

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Lol. I've seen in (mainly older and less... screwed up) generations of women that certainly do exhibit an uncanny intuition - it's always the brunt of many a mans banter! That said I've also seen a great many girls (across the generations) show themselves to be hideously... if not naive, then outright stupid in their decisions on the "sexual marketplace".

I can't tell you how many girls I've had my arm over their waists, literally telling me how safe and secure I make them feel (in the literal even more so); it helps being a near 300lbs brick wall with tatts and a "Zeus" beard... right? But simultaneously I cannot even begin to describe how these same girls absolutely *MELT* after a short while.

Once they realise that not only am I somewhat a "caveman throwback" that actually can fight, protect and provide, but that despite coming from a hard background I am also, dare I say, intelligent with it (done the whole university thing)... They get insecure and unduly unravel the rs (more)

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas cool story bro. Back to reality.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

It's normally been the case (specially in recent times) that the girl got freaked by the speed and pace of my lifestyle, the other women who'd never normally say boo to me, but themselves get jealous at whoever the chick is I'm with at that time (but have just met her in a bar the same night ffs). Coupled with the fact that I practice the masculine virtue of "stoicism" , something which women seem to both love and completely NOT understand what that entails at the same time, it's too much for them to handle basically - they get insecure.

What kills it for me/them is when they then resort to the shit testing (I'm sure you won't deny) to see "how much he likes me"; I'm far too astute for this shit and just switch off from it. That then registers to them: "HE DON'T LIKE ME"...

When they're wrong.

As for "it is the way it is", men like me challenge that and never have nor never will buckle to it. It is only accepted by emasculated beta males, which most of my gen. are...

[Opinion Owner]

There’s nothing you’ve said that’s impressed me yet, quite the opposite from what I’ve heard so far so I’d say these girls are naieve. Personally I prefer more well rounded men.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Well okay... There I was thinking we were having a "discussion". I'm not trying to impress anyone here darlin'? I understand you might disagree but you gotta tell me why. Not just cast off what I said, which gives me the impression I've actually struck a cord.

[Opinion Owner]

@FreshOutaIdeas to be honest you came across as arrogant so I simply lost interest (perhaps it’s the lack of tone in writing), but it’s late here so I’m off to bed and will reply once I get some free time.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

I look forward to your reply.

Don't confuse arrogance with honesty though, I'm blunt in my views on all things dating and hitting the sack with the fairer sex. Just think women (and men) are and have been on a bad course.

[Anonymous]

yes, I rejected a guy cause he was well know in the town and was handsome and I thought I am not pretty enough for him. That he can have someone much better.

[bigandbeautiful]

I was always rejected on how I looked. No I never rejected no one

[genericname85]

i was never knowingly aproached by someone i thought to be out of my league.

[Mexicoman101]

I never do that, its only when I don't find them attractive or have good chemistry going on with me.

[bambo15]

I have dubbed people, specifically popular girls, only because their minds are weak, if you sit on a couch all day, sleep and watch only jersey shore, you got problems, regardless how beautiful. Find a hobby, caus you bore me.