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Well as far as guys are concerned they won't mind fooling around or having sex on first date but it comes with its own cons. You do loose respect when you end up doing one of such stuff and end up been taken up granted. Most guys who end up sleeping on their first date never have a successful relationship with that partner coz no one wanna end up being used or being a sex toy for a stranger or even worst in some cases if guy is from same school or college their bragging makes you a point of interest for talks in a bad sense. Since you are mature and adult it was your personal decision so no one has authourity to question your decision but see normally girls don't go on a guys room/house for first date even when the guy is familiar, they prefer a public place. Every girl has a date rule which maybe be anything from 3-8 depending upon their personal choice. They mostly don't find themselves comfortable getting physical with someone they are just in knowing phase. Rest it's your life and your choices, so no one can tell you what to do.
Good luck
It's kind of ironic, since some guys desperately want girls to fuck them on the first date, yet they judge them for it.
Some guys don’t, because they want to keep you around for more rounds and continue what you’ve already started and tempted them with.
Some guys do, they’ll ghost you or give you the hot and cold behavior while disappearing soon enough.
He’s probably comfortable inviting you back to his place because you’re probably not the first girl you took to his house that he wanted to make a move on. The cycle continues till he comes across a female that tells him “No” than he’ll either stick around and figure what’s so different about her or continue the same cycle.
Yes. They see you as "the whore," or "the girl was the easy fuck." You go from girlfriend material to fuck-only material, fast.
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s That one totally depends on the guy.
It depends not on your acts but how you act
I am ashamed to admit this is a recent thing for me.. I went on a date, and it went well, we were heading to the train and shared a few kisses, and that's great, but we stopped in a park to just chill and cuddle, and to be frank she thought it was appropriate to unzip my trousers and stroke my... Now if it was a girlfriend, that would be great, but this was a first date, and while initially I liked her, I didn't like the fact she was so willing in that department, it actually came off as rather desperate and I am a bit out off by it.. and to be honest, most of the time I'm always being a bit I appropriate myself (only a tiny bit on a cheeky level), And i sometimes feel I am on the receiving end of how I am currently feeling. The sad fact is, I can't help how I feel, and I guess they can't ether, shame because it's always the nice people who either act like this with me, or me act like this with them, I am not desperate, and I'm sure they aren't too, but that's I guess how it comes off when someone does things like that so fast.
I dig a girl who is honest with how she feels and chooses to express herself however she is comfortable.
If we are into each other and she wants to fool around then I respect the fact that she knows who she is and what she wants.
You want something go after it. i like a bold nature in my woman.
Any insecurities if any is not about her but about me.
In short I respect her once she is honest with herself, and I won’t or don’t lose respect for her if she chooses tofool around.
LIfe is short, live.
Fooling around doesn't change anything. If he respects you, not much you do will change that.
It also depends on the guy. I for one, accept that girls like to have fun too, so i wouldn't judge you for doing that. But not everyone thinks that way. There are lots of men out there who would consider you a sl*t for doing something like that.
I wouldn't worry about it.
Honestly as a guy. I have had a girl who was very, VERY forward when we first started dating. Where she was very "handsy" with me on our first date in Fort Langley (It was winter at the time so the whole place looked like a 50's Christmas movie at the time). In that instance I didn't lose respect for her, we ended up going out a few months after that, but at that moment I did find it a turn off and it was one of the main reasons why we ended up breaking up.
Personally I would say wait about three dates. It's sort of the unspoken code that you're supposed to make at some point after that. But as for going in on the first date I'd say that's a bit intimidating. At least in my opinion.
Well we at least know what he is interested in for sure - sex. Well, if she fools around on the first date lets multiply that by the number of dates... But as long as you put out he will stick around, at least until he gets a better offer on the table.
No. Not necessarily. Depends on. the guy. If he looks like a player, you might want to go slower. That won't keep him, but it will reveal his true intentions.
If he DOESN'T look like a player, and you feel that he isn't pushing you too hard, you can make out, foreplay, sex, whatever you feel like. I don't think guys shame girls who go to bed on the first date. They shame girls who go to be on their first 40 first dates (meaning they aren't loyal or reliable).
Yes no doubt it doesn't matter if you think no the guy won't lose respect for you he will from that point on.
I would wonder what's the guy thinking after the first date, I'm sure he'd think how many other guys been there before him, whatever respect was to be gained takes a hit starting with the first date, once it's done you can't change it and it will never go away.
That depends heavily on the guy and his morals and openness. I think its hypocritical of a guy to lose respect for a girl on the first this if he is the one that initiates it.
If i really like a girl and she's compatible enough for me to want to be in a serious relationship with, sex isn't going to make me think differently of her. I'll liikely know by the end of the date if we are compatible. There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to have sex on the first date in my opinion.
It takes two to tango so he shouldn’t lose respect for me if I sleep with him on a first date because without his cooperation there wouldn’t have been sex in the first place !
To be honest, yes. I'd lose respect because the first date is meant for the two people to first get to know each other. If you fool around with someone you barely know, then I would think that you set your standards too low and treat your body like a free-for-all. But I think the same way of guys who do it too.
Pretty much. I’ve done the same as you. Apparently it’s alrigjt for guys to do but not girls.
My opinion we respect women that go for what they want in all situations and if they lose respect for you because you were enjoying yourself and doing what you want to do that person is not for you
Kind of yes. Good chance he thinks you’re easy. I mean for me if a girl gives me oral the first night I’m thinking next time I’m going to plow that field like a farmer plows their corn. I’m not thinking potential girlfriend after that, cause it makes me wonder how many other dudes did she blow on the first night.
I have had dates do nothing and others that ended with fun, usually the ones where we fool around a little ended up going out with more and actually having a relationship. I didn't loose any respect for them either way, just took it as they were intrested and pursued a follow up date with them sooner.
Oral with someone you have no idea about their sexual history with? You guys are nuts!
The way I see it is someone has to earn the privilege of all of that, and show they are clean and trust worthy. Maybe you feel you lost respect for yourself...
You are overreacting. Some may, but you don't want those guys anyway so it's no loss. You don't want to date a misogynistic asshole.
Depends on the intent... If you both truly have strong feelings and you both feel it's right... have fun he'll still be there for you if his intent is booty call on demand then he never had respect for you...
It depends. If you are a virgin, or you make all men you date wait. Then I would look favorably on you and be more interested in seriously dating you.
If you fool around regularly on the first date or have been with a lot of guys, if you don't put out on the first date I would never call you back. And even if you did, I wouldn't be interested in something serious but I would probably be interested in casually dating you.
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