Am I a Lesbian?

[Anonymous]

Ever since quite a young age, I have generally had a slight attraction towards girls. When I was 16, I 'fooled around' with 2 guys I went to school with, but I wasn't turned on, nor did I enjoy it that much. When I was 19, I got my first girlfriend. We had fun at first, but we split up within a few months because we had a couple of problems and I wasn't sure if a girl-girl relationship was right for me personally. I've never gone all the way with a guy either (penetration) which makes me think if I was that keen on guys, I would have got that part over with by now. There was this girl at work I really fancied when I was 21 and I think she may have fancied me back. Unfortunately, I lost my job a week after we had this really deep conversation at a party and I have barely heard from her since. I think about her a lot and what could have been, had I not lost my job. On the odd occasion, I do see a guy where I think 'he's nice-looking.' But it doesn't happen too often and it's always hippie guys with long hair I tend to look twice at. It didn't occur to me until earlier that maybe every once in a while the reason I find hippie-ish guys with long hair good-looking is because they remind me of a girl in some way? Not trying to be rude to guys who do have long hair, I'm just talking about 'resemblances.' The real question is, am I a lesbian, or am I bisexual? I don't really have any guy-friends and I tend to fantasise about women more. I did have acouple of dates with this guy in the last year to test the waters a bit and I have to be honest, something didn't feel right. Although, that could have been because he just wasn't my type of guy if I was to date one? The thing is, I'm not sure I can picture myself in a long-term relationship with another woman. I don't know if my family/friends would accept it either and is that maybe why sometimes I don't accept myself?

[Gedaria]

I often refer to my second wife, but you remind me of her as a young woman. She told me she was more inclined to women than guys. Her family pressured her to marry this lad. They had 3girls in quick succession. She loved the girls but was getting more distant and annoyed with him. Then he moved out went with this girl.
A girlfriend of hers needed some where to live so they ended up having an affair. The both of them are really getting on well, but one thing that the wife didn't like was her using of drugs She would clear off to a friend's and get high.
Only one weekend she had a visit from the police, firstly to search her room for drugs to tell wife that she had died from a over dose.
That's how I met her at the funeral.
Why am I telling you this, follow your heart, whether it be a girl or a guy, it's your happiness not your families...

[Yellovv]

What makes any different if you are lesbian, I like lesbian girls, specially when they kissing and touching each other but you need to attract to men as well..

[NicolaJ35]

Could you really not see yourself in a relationship with a girl or is it that you are scared of people's opinions?

It appears to me you are definitely more interested in girls in every way

And, I wouldn't blame you for that because it's how I am too

[NicolaJ35]

Thanks for MHO

[gandolph3]

you may never know till you try both then decide

[gandolph3]

Give it a shot what do you have to lose

[asshole_]

if not bi

[Anonymous]

lesbian