I am considering becoming lesbian?

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I've tried with men. It didn't work out. So maybe it's time to try with women maybe?

MannMitAntworten · Accepted Answer

I could be wrong, but I have a sneaking suspicious it doesn't work that way. Granted Intend to friend zone every damn woman in my sphere so maybe I am the wrong one to chime in on this point, but at the same time, I do have my reasons. Which frankly isn't purely just for my benefit. I take 'them' into account too and consider, "Am I a good fit for them and a good fit for them at this present moment in their life?" I have to ask myself the same question of them. OftenI find myself with three "No's" and one yes to those questions. On rare occasions I get two and two, but still not a resounding, "Yes!" on all points. This hasn't stopped me from dating - granted I do get a feeling there is a level of insanity in is humans for even pursing this crazy thing called, "Love". Thing is, seeking the "One" is a life long journey which only one of the two can 'usually' answer since when we think we find the one it never is truly answered till we carry one another through life. One being carried through death and the other carrying the other through death. Perhaps nutty to think of but it is the only way we answer the life long question of who our, "One", is. It takes living, Life to answer this question.

Never give up...

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Um... maybe try it with a woman and see how it goes. My wife is bi, but it's not all that because she can't pull pussy as easily as I can. My lesbian friend would snag chicks from me, but I guess that's just a jab at my wife for not doing what's pretty easy. I say try it... see how it feels... and if it feels better, roll with it. Or, like my wife try it, like it, but not have the guts to fucking pull the pussy... sort of like all these dude beta cucks that only want pussy, and are just desperate.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Understand first that I am not judging you... from your other replys you are very sensitive.
1) God never intended for gender to be a choice. He made you the gender you are for a reason.
2) Giving up on men is not a good idea, girl. God made you for a specific male, who will love you, tolerate you, and attract you. Open your eyes, clear your head (and heart), and then work on yourself. No, I'm not saying change to attract a guy... Not at all. But seeing your replays to some other users on this question leads me to believe that you are not used to be nice when people cross you. That us so unattractive, and a change in that area would grow you, mature you, and make you more interesting and datable.
Don't ruin yourself. Grid made you for bigger things than being lesbian. You can do great, biflg, beautiful things with Him in your corner. Do the right thing.

jazminburchell03 · Accepted Answer

Women aren't so much better than men. Women still cheat. women still lie. Women still steal. You don't just become lesbian you either like women or you don't. It sounds more like it's time for you to sit back and think about what it is about you that attracts the type of men you attract or why it didn't work out learn from it and try to do and be better.

AbleLearner · Answer

Do you not like men, or are the guys idiots or not performing in bed or what? Are you actually sexually attracted to other women?

Maybe you should post more details of whatever problem you are experiencing.

If you want an honest opinion, I think this is an Objectively Wrong decision, and you probably are not thinking this through clearly enough, and hopefully you are not trying to make this decision following a recently failed relationship with a man. I had a cousin who decided she wanted to become a Lesbian after ten years married to her male high school sweetheart, and having two children. Now she and her lesbian partner have been together for about 12 years since then, but I would not recommend this to anybody, and I have always been disappointed in her for doing this, because she clearly was NOT a lesbian when she was younger. She allowed some physical abuse in her marriage to twist her self-image, and I think she has settled for less than God's best for her because of it.

DLFisherman · Answer

if I may, have you wondered what excally you didn't like, was it the sex or the relationship part? have you talked with guys on here who are neutral who might could give advice as to what the others were doing wrong? I was not that great the first few times I had sex. Before trying with women I would try to figure out what might be the source of things. Were there common things that did or didn't happen that you wanted to?

Finn95 · Answer

I wouldn't say you should call yourself a full lesbian just yet. Maybe be bisexual for a while, and if you find yourself preferring women over men to an extent that you simply only feel attracted to women, then it'd be safe to say you're lesbian.

FatherJack · Answer

Just be happy being single and solo , I will never enter the hell of another relationship , not strictly solo , but a single FT working dad , despite the drawbacks , am far happier single... so much less stress and aggravation !! Only do so if you are truly attracted to your fellow females , also most women can very happily do without sex , so glad that's me now , mostly rid of that annoying male biological curse !!

Unit1 · Answer

I feel ya. Women can frustrate me so much, that I genuinely considered becoming homosexual. But that simply isn't working for me. I have a deep desire for women, not men =/

Gods_Gift · Answer

Are you actually sexually or romantically attracted to women? If not it'll be a waste of your and their time. "Attraction is not a choice" - including in terms of orientation.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

Go for whatever makes you happy. You aren't gaining anything or losing anything.

RHK36 · Answer

So the problem with finding a good man can't possibly mean you're at any fault. So much that you think you'll fair better with the ladies? Good luck 😬👍🏼

seeknluuve · Answer

Maybe u just need a little of both

orangecherry · Answer

I think you have to like girls first or it will be very unpleasant for you. I'm not a lesbian but I have done a few things with girls. It was okay but not something I want to do all the time.

UglyestGuyEver · Answer

and people tell me being gay isn't a choice... ii knew all along it was... that whole "we were born this way" defence is jus bullshit in order for them to continue their sick and perverted practices

Pamina · Answer

You can "try" women all you want, but unless you've been bisexual all along, it's not gonna work.

Passinggas · Answer

Have an ex that is a solid lesbian but she still craves some dk once in a while. So yeah, go for it if it tingles your twat.

HeyMikie · Answer

It could just be that you haven't found the right guy, but don't be afraid to experiment. Give it a shot and see what happens. I know several women who have done this. Most of them went back to men.

RedThread · Answer

Are you even attracted to women? If not then that won't work

David_Kek · Answer

You could, but it might be worth asking yourself first if you'd be going there for the right reasons.

esotericstory · Answer

Sexuality is a choice indeed, most gay people go back to being straight though. At least thats how it was before the lgbt goup existed.

bangyourhead · Answer

Eh, maybe if you like being beat by your lover. Domestic violence rates are higher for lesbians.

MoscowMitch · Answer

What would Boromir say?

genericname85 · Answer

I don't think one can just change ones sexual preference xD

NorthwestRider · Answer

You can't become a lesbian, maybe you were a lesbian from the start. Now you are just noticing it

H3LLBRING3R · Answer

Why not both at once like a lewd gladiatorial match between the pole and the hole?

Anonymous · Answer

You don't "become" it, you realize you are. You're born gay, just like you're born straight.

Anonymous · Answer

Go for it better then you becoming a bitter man hater

Dave88 · Answer

I don't know if I go that far maybe just become bisexual

nerms123 · Answer

If you are attracted then you should try it

Harmseygrace · Answer

No, that's sinning and immoral.

ChronicThinker · Answer

I don't think that's a thing.

oncpl · Answer

You should try. It may work well.

AJC997 · Answer

What were the bad experiences?

indianninja · Answer

Nooooo! Women are risky. Try with sasquach.

Dean269 · Answer

Be bisexual

Anonymous · Answer

That's a dumb idea

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