Well I think this is one of those "could be" a few things that will all be assumptions from us because honestly he's the only one who knows. But, I'll offer some thoughts based on experience.
1. Most people (men and women) do compare the opposite and think about the opposite sex as a natural process. We are born with a hard wired brain that assesses many differences for breeding. We look for physical characteristics that represent good breeding genes (hips, lips, height, etc.). We do this regardless of we are aware. Women check out women too. We may not be competitive naturally but we instinctively check to see if another woman looks better than us. Men check out other men. You noticing him doing it could be that, indeed he's being obvious or it could be that you are unaware that you have honed in on it and can spot it a mile away! So it could be your eagle eye noticing what he's not even aware he does.
If it is you, try making an effort to not think about it and when you see a girl you "know" he's check out, look away instead of "catching" him. Do this a little while and you'll get out of that super in tune state and stop noticing so much.
It could be that he's still looking for better options. This makes us want to run thinking about because it threatens our happiness but the fact is, it's possible. He can be a wonderful man, loyal as hell but still in the back of his mind still not be sure he's found his forever girl. Women do this too. Doesn't make us bad people. We are human. I've been with 2 men who did this. One I divorced. I don't hate him. He just wasn't ready for forever. How can you blame someone for how they feel? We try but it's not right.
Since talk have been "dating" for so long without a wedding I'm thinking maybe the last is the issue. Maybe he doesn't think you are ready for commitment and he's thinking of what to do next? I don't know your situation but I'd say if you make him feel ashamed, he will never admit to you. You have to be completely open and accepting of ANY reply he gives. Even if it hurts, he has to feel safe telling you. He may really not realize he's doing it. But safely discussing it may allow him to realize WHY he thinks he's doing it so you know where to go from there.
Hope you will put your hurt away (i know it hurts, I've been there) and be loving and open and talk to him about it. Good luck to you both ❤️
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He playing you girl. Not only is he sneaky, but he's doing something that you have admitted you disliked without consideration to your feelings. Doesn't sound like a good relationship ship... And I wouldn't personally have taken him back. Most times than not, forgiving cheaters will just give them leeway to do it again. As they now have security that you'll forgive their infidelity. I'd tell you to drop him like a hot potato.
I think its ridiculous that guys think its okay to check women out in front of their women. Like wtf dude, sure do it when she's not around but you're with YOUR girl. Respect her you dweeb.
"... and i call him out all the time..."
there's your rub right there... you are just making it more fun. What would freak him out and probably stop it is if you encouraged it. but you women, you just see black and white. i forgot what i wrote to someone about this topic... its gotta be in one of my takes... about how a guy looks at another woman, NOTHING is going on in his mind, then you the girlfriend start going at him about the woman he looked at and even worse start comparing her to you... like "is it because she's prettier"..."is it because she has bigger boobs"... etc... all things that probably never crossed his mind... till you said it. Now he is thinking, damn... she WAS prettier... She WAS watever... and then he leaves you for her and you wonder why.
Lol... you women entertain me... start shit and then are surprised why there is a reaction. You want him to stop looking at other women... encourage it... and watch him panic stop.
Uh because 1) he's male and 2) he wants to.
That's it. You don't own his eyesight. Yes, please, PLEASE continue to "call him out" on it so that you can continue to show yourself to be the emotionally insecure person you are, and he will leave you and find a better girl. Please, for his sake. And read this.
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He still has the right to look at other women, that doesn't mean he's disloyal, looking a picture of a women in a newspaper also isn't disloyal. It's completely normal for him to look at other girls in public even in a relationship, I do it also.
because he isn't gay, that's what men do.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos&t=56sWe are men. We are visual. There is no big science to it. We just like to look at attractive women.
Guy's always look, but it doesn't mean that they are disloyal
Cuz he's disrespectful
All guys do that
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