My best guy friend and I have a complicated friendship, and it got even more complicated recently. He told me about a month ago that he just wanted to be friends. Yet new year's eve, our group of friends went to a party (yes, we had beverages), and he comes to find me at quarter to midnight, we watched the countdown, and out of nowhere, he kisses me. What is going on here...?
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I may not have experience dating best friends but I do know what it's like to have a secret crush on one. My closest friend is a female and we've been best friends for almost 5 years now. Even though I made it very clear I only want to have a friendship with her there is a part of me that secretly wants to marry this girl. There was a time when I almost came close to revealing how I felt but I realized that she isn't ready to handle that situation yet. For right now I'm content being a good friend with her and if we never date I think I would be okay with that. Maybe your guy friend is in the same situation I was in earlier only he lost the will to resist? I've never been presented with a golden opportunity like your friend was, either, though.
Also, if I did finally make the plunge and kiss her I would want her honest feelings. Of course it would hurt to find out she doesn't want a relationship but it would hurt even more to find out later she pretended there was something there between us because she pitied me and didn't want to hurt my feelings. I could recover if she just didn't feel the same way and we could still be best friends. However, I wouldn't be able to recover if I found out the one person I trusted above all others lied to my face about how she felt about me. That would definitely ruin the friendship.1
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