After first date, who's supposed to call/text? And when?

[Anonymous]

Ladies and gents, what do you think?

[Dylan1989]

All this ''who supposed to call, and when?'' business is really pathetic! (Sorry dude, I'm not taking a stab at you personally, I just want to get my point across). Way too many people on this website ask this type of question and can't think for themselves! They ALWAYS have to follow rules and can't think and act based on their own judgements.

Yes, it's important not to call too soon incase you come off as desperate or clingy or whatever. I completely agree with that. BUT, if the first date went well then either the guy or girl can call call/text to let the other person know they enjoyed themselves. People (mainly girls) should stop waiting around for the person to call/text first. The ball is in the girl's court as well as the guy's at this point. If you don't show interest, how is the other person supposed to know if you want to take things further or not? If a girl I went on a date with enjoyed herself I would like her to let me know this so that I could possibly ask her for another one. This is why so many dates/potential partners lose interest so easily. Lack of communication, society's rules and pride to some extent I guess!

Anyway, to some up, either a guy or girl can text/call first as long as they don't go about it in a clingy or desperate way.

Sorry again man, didn't mean to sound rude. It wasn't aimed at you personally.

[ItalianBro]

Did you tell her you were going to call after the date? If you didn't than she might call you to thank you for the nice date or tell you how much fun she had but you might as well do it because girls were brought up learning that they don't have to do anything at all in dating.

They expect you to pay, initiate calls, initiate asking them out... make them think that your chasing them and girls love attention. Give them that little power of feeling important and call her within 3 days of the date. You can call and say how you had a good time and if she doesn't pick up just say you had a good time and to call you when your free. I have had girls who were to scared to pick up the phone and would text me. I would just text her to call me and she wouldn't! LOL

[Anonymous]

I think it's more common for the guy to call/text first because usually that's what the girl wants them to do. Usually if the guy doesn't call/text after a few days, they get pretty pissed even though the phone works both ways... To be on the safe side, you should call/text her first. But if you go on a second date, make it clear you want HER to call/text you :)

[Anonymous]

One of girls' BIGGEST fears is coming off too clingy/needy/desperate. I think most girls would appreciate a text from the guy the following morning with a simple:

Had a good time last night :)

The girl could always do it too, but I think traditionally, a lot of girls will wait to hear from the guy (especially if he initiated the date).

[Anonymous]

Whoever wants to or feels so inclined to send a follow-up message or call.

After a first date, if it went well, I'll usually send a text message like "I had a nice time. Good night." And then the ball in his court to ask me out again. And if he was really enthusiastic, he would have mentioned getting together again during the first date.

[Anonymous]

either one should send a text or call , however is better if a guy is the one to do so too! but again that's only my opinion ! :)

[Anonymous]

Who ever feels like it, whenever they feel like it.