Who should text first after a date?

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Who should text first after a first date?  A guy or a girl? Explain. 😅

Pasiton5 · Accepted Answer

Really does it matter, is your ego that inflated that is he it she don't text me then I'm just not going to talk to her again or him so childish, get over this kind of behavior, thinking, if you why it has a great time who gives a damn who is the first to say morning how are you I had a great time last night, what is so difficult about that, get off this kick in who do what first, so dumb you like some one tell them, they either like your ass to or don't, but either way your not stalking them spending ask your time wondering do they or not, we have a limited amount of time here why water it on such, nonsense, so stop it, with the who does what first, and quit trading ask these, this is how to do it books, his to blah blah blah, those people who wrote them have no clue only guessing saying what they think you want to hear it start a trend for one purpose make money, they care nothing about you but what's in your wallet, follow your own instinct not what some writer claims is the way it should be, unless they are God, then I would listen but another person trying you how to live your life come on, you want to be hip cool with it in the now, be your damn self what works for one won't for another, remember that, and cut ask this nonsense out your into some one just tell them

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

If you want to see the person again then go ahead and text them. If you are trying to play the "Who should text first" game you might lose out. Just be authentic.

PeytonVB · Accepted Answer

I think there should be an equal effort made to keep in contact with each other if you’re really interested. Tbh I don’t feel as if it’s fair to always have the guy doing things first but I guess in a way, it shows that he’s interested and wanting something with you. (May not always be the case)
Then again I had messaged my fiancée first after our first date, he took me home and right as soon as I was ready for bed I texted him first.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Whoever feels like sharing their feelings! Guy or girl. Doesn't matter. If a good response comes from it, you're on a roll for the next date! If nothing, well, that speaks volumes too!

Apope16 · Answer

Why can't girls text first so a guy doesn't seem easy?

Look. Whoever invited the person on the date should technically text first after the date. Then the person who invited should request for a second date if they like them. It could be a girl or guy. Most cases it is a guy. But wait until the next day to text her. Dont be needy.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Obviously, neither one wants to text first and appear to be too eager or too easy, so I think both should wait for the other one to call. After one week, give up on the other person and move on to your next first date.

HugoThe2nd · Answer

The girl, assuming the guy was the one who asked her out.
The guy already made it pretty clear that he is interested in her with the action of asking her out.
Now it's her turn to express how she feels about it and to either OK more dates or say she have had enough.

TruthBringer · Answer

I honestly never had this issue. In my case, the girl always texted back first. But that's most likely because:

1. I told her to tell me when she got home safe.
2. We've already decided on going on another date after having a good connection. So the ego is not an issue anymore.

If you're in this position struggling to find out who should text first, then I doubt you had good chemistry, to begin with. It also shows a level of immaturity there.

ohshee · Answer

For me I don't really care about the protocol or what's right what's wrong or what people think. If I like you, then I'm happy I'm excited and and I want to hear your voice so I won't text you I called call you and say, hey how are you, can we go out again

guitarguy1995 · Answer

Who ever didn't pay? Then it's just chasing them. Their needs to be some sort or appreciation or reciprocation for the act and feelings if the feelings are there. (Not anything sexual)
If the person doesn't text back after then you know then it's not worth another date.

slatyb · Answer

It doesn't matter. Trivial things like this won't make or break a relationship.

Any guy who would think that a woman is "too easy" is not worth dating, so never worry about that. Do what you feel and if the guy doesn't like it, he's not the guy for you.

RingOfFire · Answer

In my world the girl needs to contact me first because I am the one who initiates, arranges and pays for the date. By contacting me afterwards, she is offering a small token of her appreciation to show that she thanks me and is interested in seeing me again.

Anonymous · Answer

After the date? If one person has decided there shouldn't be a 2nd date, they should text first and as soon as possible, so you don't leave her waiting around or she doesn't let him fret over whether he should ask for a 2nd date or whatever.

If both think it went well, then I don't think it matters, so long as one of them does before too long.

The_Maphio · Answer

Irrelevant. The point is to see each other again. Immobility because you're too busy considering which gender should make the move could lose you a potential relationship.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats a pointless question. No one should be thinking about any of that. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them. It does not matter who texts first, and it does not make it seem like anything.

HippoDino · Answer

Whoever is mature and likes the other person will message the other whenever they feel like it. It isn't a complicated game. If you like them and want to see them again message them.

HawkPerception · Answer

No one should be expected to text first based on if they're a guy or a girl. If you're interested in talking again, then shoot them a message. It's literally that simple.

ZackBan · Answer

In your context the girl is always the one invited? Makes for a shitty dating experience.  Me I think it shouldn't be a rule, whoever has something to say first should text

Kaneki05 · Answer

If your interested in them it don't matter your gender just hit them up and see if anything more can happen.

ImSparkly · Answer

Whoever asked the other out should call or message saying they enjoyed their company and propose a second date, with time, location, and activity.

kingofthellamas · Answer

Wow, I love your dusty old assumptions here Girls, cause they’ve been invited (welcome 2021, how about the other way round?) Guys, so it doesn’t seem like a girl is easy. (WTF!!!)

Avicenna · Answer

It doesn't matter, and my advice would be not to wait for the other person to text- go ahead and be the one to initiate

SandandWaves · Answer

it doesn't matter who does it. you do it because you like him/her, no need to wait around.

rjroy3 · Answer

There's no "should" to this. Just be real. Say what you want to say in person, then a follow up text won't matter

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

It doesn't matter who does. It's not a power play, so if you want to say something, go ahead when you feel it's right. It's 2021, opportunity is equal, so don't be afraid to speak up.

serious · Answer

Either of them can. There should be no ego or pride in this.

beldath · Answer

I'm always the one texting first. Would be nice if they did from time to time. If nothing else to say they aren't interested.

pigoat · Answer

Girls don't have to do a damn thing That's what's wrong with this world Also black people  Lmao

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Either. There are no rules. I do know usually after dropping ‘her’ off typically she will immediately text saying thanks and whatnot.

DizzyDesii · Answer

We usually both text eachother when leaving the date 🤣 Neither of us wait days or whatever

Srij23 · Answer

Because I am all for equality and I don't think dating should follow draconian Victorian era rules of chivalry. I love if she texts first. Also it confirms I can take the relationship forward rather than fretting upon how the date went.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

The guy should always text right after the date so that he can get documentation from the female that she had a good time and everything was consensual. That way, he has a defence if she has morning after regret and decides to scream rape.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

It should not matter who texts first. If you want to text whether the other person has ir next then go for it.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

The person that wants to text first. Anything else is just game playing.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no "who first". It's important BOTH show interest! That means BOTH have to text first sometimes.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It doesn't fucking matter. If you had a nice time just say so.

Voulezvous · Answer

If the guy really likes you, he will send you a text. But seems that men nowadays like to be chased...

EaterPeter · Answer

There should not be set rule for that. It should not be too long though. Under 48 hours if I may say.

standardguy · Answer

Best if the woman texts first. She has to show if she is still interested in the guy after the first date. Normally the guys are still interested.

JamieLoves · Answer

I’d call , only after a fuck. If a guy doesn’t call her the next day, you’re fucked! This is a Fact !!!

Y2KxD · Answer

If the guy texts first, she gonna loose interest, and if she doesn't text you soon after, it means she isn't interested in you or sees you as a free meal ticket

Asianguy123 · Answer

it's not like 1950's where women stay home caring about their kids and men work outside until he comes back late afternoon. unless you want to be traditional

Wise4myage · Answer

The guy should, but not right away or he will make himself look desperate.

Bakcula · Answer

Depends if she sucks my dick... If she does not then let her text.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

How about whoever feels like it? Enough with those infantile games.

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

To me it does not really matter who makes the first contact. If you enjoyed yourself and would like to see the other, again it really does not matter.

Anonymous · Answer

You can play with your 25 cats soon, if you keep playing games... Just text him back and stop listening to stupid 'game' advices...

Anonymous · Answer

The first person to have the inclination to do so. One thing for sure is that the person hesitating is weak.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

If felt it went well and like them go for it guy or girl

Nazgol · Answer

Guy for the reason u said and having to be the initiator/traditional thing to do

Russwill · Answer

This way guy knows that she liked him enough to pursue something more and he don't seem pushy

najekim · Answer

I'd say the one who was invited to go on the date regardless of gender. At least a simple thank you.

Anonymous · Answer

LOL of course men votes for girls to text first. It’s not enough being in the company of feminine energy and the potential of some pussy, BUT they want to be the ones acting like women. Are they really men or gays or boys?

Leacoh · Answer

If it went well and both enjoyed it, either person. Doesn't matter because you will both want to see each other again and be happy to hear from them.

BlackPrince12 · Answer

I guess whoever is more interested or wants another date

Alpha4U · Answer

Her. and its better not the day after we went out...

modelUN242 · Answer

I usually let the guy do it.

NorthShoreCalling · Answer

If you enjoyed it then just do it.

lucyloo76 · Answer

The guy he is doing the chasing

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If you want to text then text. Don't play games

K-I-S-S · Answer

Whoever gets to their phone faster.

KatherineJ · Answer

Whoever wants to text first

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Whoever is good at communication 😜

dudeinohio · Answer

doesn't really matter at all

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