I would think nice girls want a nice, normal boyfriends. I am not a great or successful person and I dont even have dating experience. I can't really offer the kind of relationship she'd want
Nice people don't finish last. Nice Guys™ and Nice Girls™ do because they are expecting intimacy based on just being nice, which is expected of everyone. I think a lot of them can have the perception that these other people are 'bad' just because they've already come to the conclusion that they themselves are the only nice human being on the planet. Which in itself is ridiculously narcissistic, which is not attractive in any way.
Because nice guys and nice girls both have the same problem; they don't make the other person value their kindness. If you're a real bitch, like a genuinely unpleasant person, to MOST people, but then you're kind to the person you have a crush on: that person is going to feel a lot more special than if you are nice to everyone.
The same dynamic with men. “Nice” guys (or girls) are nice because they are needy and no one loves them. They are suffocating and always available. Human psychology has us valuing scarcity (aloofness, disinterest) as a challange that needs to be satisfied. True good catches for a mate are challenging because they have a lot of suitors vying for them and so they are socially “more expensive”. Like a ferrari. Everyone likes a ferrari.
The problem I think is that nice girls believe that if they throw in a bunch of niceness then equal niceness gets returned to them. A lot of nice girls lack self respect and just accept shit because that's what they believe they can get.
Nice girls are highly desirable but at the same time most guys don't want a doormat, or obedient behavior. I can only speak for myself but I think nice girls can find guys but they often are too shy and rely on hints.
It's not the nice girls, it's the socially naive girls. They're not bad, we all have our types, but a person can adapt, you don't need to act like a bad girl, or a goddamn motorcyclist from a movie. But you can act badass, hard to get, nice, less all sun shine, be smart and whatever else you choose
You just have to find someone that is vibing with you. Me and my partner we are both nice, we both like harmony and sex and we just wanna have a good time.
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I would love a nice and caring girlfriend, but I dont even show up on their radar. They know they deserve better.
Why do you think that
I would think nice girls want a nice, normal boyfriends. I am not a great or successful person and I dont even have dating experience. I can't really offer the kind of relationship she'd want
Firstly self love is important. You should believe you are great person and a great catch.
I dont want to lie to myself. I do have some good qualities but there's a reason nobody wants to go out with me
Nice people don't finish last. Nice Guys™ and Nice Girls™ do because they are expecting intimacy based on just being nice, which is expected of everyone. I think a lot of them can have the perception that these other people are 'bad' just because they've already come to the conclusion that they themselves are the only nice human being on the planet. Which in itself is ridiculously narcissistic, which is not attractive in any way.
Because nice guys and nice girls both have the same problem; they don't make the other person value their kindness. If you're a real bitch, like a genuinely unpleasant person, to MOST people, but then you're kind to the person you have a crush on: that person is going to feel a lot more special than if you are nice to everyone.
The same dynamic with men. “Nice” guys (or girls) are nice because they are needy and no one loves them. They are suffocating and always available. Human psychology has us valuing scarcity (aloofness, disinterest) as a challange that needs to be satisfied. True good catches for a mate are challenging because they have a lot of suitors vying for them and so they are socially “more expensive”. Like a ferrari. Everyone likes a ferrari.
here's a question, do u nice girls care if a guy has slept around? Cause us nice guys dont want a used tissue lol
I think it depends from girl to girl and their value system
Give me a ratio
Ooooo I like how this question has been flipped on the opposite gender lol. Looking at the other side of the coin
And our side of the coin is pretty much the same as your guys side of the coin 😅
Ha, understanding issues one coin at a time
I love when women really tramples my heart and doesn't say what she wants. Love it.
Jokes aside, I wish I could find this nice girl you speak of. This edgy girl you speak of sounds unstable. :-)
The problem I think is that nice girls believe that if they throw in a bunch of niceness then equal niceness gets returned to them. A lot of nice girls lack self respect and just accept shit because that's what they believe they can get.
Same reason nice guys finish 10 rows behind the nice girls that finish last
Yeah it is basically the same reasoning
You can be a nice as you want as long as you do the naughty stuff in bed.
Cheers to that 🍻
Simple
Its not about edgyness its about saying what you really think and having your own opinions that you stand by. Guys want a partner not a puppet.
Being kind is good, and is desirable to men. being accepting of everything is not.
I understand but being nice doesn't mean being accepting of everything.
Exactly.
Nice girls are highly desirable but at the same time most guys don't want a doormat, or obedient behavior. I can only speak for myself but I think nice girls can find guys but they often are too shy and rely on hints.
Because all the bad girls and slutty girls are ruining things for the nice decent girls.
It's not the nice girls, it's the socially naive girls.
They're not bad, we all have our types, but a person can adapt, you don't need to act like a bad girl, or a goddamn motorcyclist from a movie.
But you can act badass, hard to get, nice, less all sun shine, be smart and whatever else you choose
But in the end, it's just us.
So don't forget yourself for others.
Oh but as I’ve mentioned before they marry good girls sleep with bad
This goes both ways , basically the person that actually has a heart gets shit on
Because they give a lot and expect people to give back. Which they don’t and nice girl seek that validation. Resulting in neediness from partner.
Lol I don't agree. Nice girls just need to pick the right guy but they'll have plenty of men to choose from.
You just have to find someone that is vibing with you. Me and my partner we are both nice, we both like harmony and sex and we just wanna have a good time.