Do nice GIRLS finish last?

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Kaazsz · Accepted Answer

I’ve read some interesting stories from women. Especially if you’ve ever taken the time to read a real feminist forum full of feminists.

The stories of girls letting the guy their dating do insane things are endless. It seems to me like feminists are nothing but a huge group of girls with no self respect who let their boyfriend do anything he wants until it’s too late and she’s being beaten.

Some of the “little things” (or so she thought in the beginning) turn into these disasters of abuse and broken hearts. Mostly abuse and bad treatment though. But like when I read these stories, from the very first bad thing the guy does, I’m like “this is obviously someone you immediately break up with.” But it seems like, at least in feminist circles, that women are just really really good at letting a guy who is a complete piece of shit take control of their lives and do all kinds of creative abuses I had never even imagined. Granted the feminist just blame men and say we’re all evil. From my perspective it was her own fault from day 1 when he did that one weird thing... and yet you stayed with the guy.

I think a lot of the bad things guys do, is because girls just let them do it.

So yes, nice girls finishes last because if she won’t drop a guy ASAP because she thinks she can’t do any better, well, she’s fucked.

Is it the same for men? It just doesn’t feel so obvious to me when I read a guys horror story about a girl. Like I don’t draw the lines from the early offense to the terrible stuff that happens later on. But I’d like to now better about red flags and how to identify them in potential partners.

lernulo · Accepted Answer

I prefer nice girls, when I arrive at home the last thing I want to see is a bitch demanding more things that my boss.
What I have seen with most nice girls is that they usually choose the bad guy, in fact most of nice girls prefer the bad guy, so he is a type of guy who will use and delete her.
If she has problems with boundary too, then we have a problem.
As a data, I have dated many nice girls and most of them rejected me for something stupid.
I dated some bold girls and the stepped forward.

So, my advices would be:

1. Adjust your radar, if you are a nice girl and are cool living like that, search for men who shares your mode of life.

2. Set real boundaries not make as most of the other girls who make imaginary boundaries based on I don't know which criteria. It was like if I had to guess always what it was on her mind, and believe me, Im not a person who goes cracking foreign limits, if she doesn't want something I respect it.

3. Don't be afraid to love, many bitches dont know how to make it, and yes, they get the man, just to divorce afterwards. If you get the good type of guy, and love him, and he loves you, you will be the first.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would say, it depends on the guy (same about girls when guys finish last).

I had 2 friends that happened to both like the same guy (my friend) and they tried getting close to him and being nice to him and all that. Tried going through me but ended up making me look like a fool and therefore ruining our friendship. He enjoyed making fun of me but he never tried anything with them at all. He just told them how creepy they were.

If it had ended at that then I would be okay with it. But this dude had some sick obsession with me and would only talk about me with those girls. They ended up hating me and I was stuck with a guy who would not respect my personal space. He would get mad at me for telling him to stop and he removed me from social media a few times because I was "weird" but then he would try to kiss me and hug me out of nowhere.

Worst part, he used to be one of my closest friends. He knew almost everything about me... and my boyfriend. Because that was what we used to talk about. He would tell me about his girlfriends and I would talk about my boyfriend. But all of a sudden he started pretending my boyfriend didn't exist.

So I would say it might not be the norm for guys to be like this, but there's definitely some weirdos out there that won't even look at other girls because they want something they can't have.

(Side note: I had very few female friends and couldn't understand why. But people started saying I should stop trying to be his favorite so I guess people got jealous which sucked)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

in my opinion yes nice girls get preyed on and treated like garbage. If you don't act slutty (not that I am fully against it but everything in moderation) if you don't show a lot of cleavage you fail to attract the one you want. But they'll spout off about how they don't want that they want someone to connect with. No they want someone who bares a lot of skin and is hot.
Girls be underhanded trying to manipulate a man into bedding her or dating her. I've seen it to such extremes. Lying, assaulting people, the worst but because they're not nice they can cover it up with a lie without a second thought. I don't know I sort of went off here.

R_Cakes91 · Accepted Answer

@MzAsh I agree dude. I’m a naturally trusting/ accommodating person whose been screwed over, over and over again. There are people who will rip your heart out and play rugby with it if you show then that you care.

I had to start being more demanding with guys I date just so that they don’t fucking take advantage of me like that. However, I just started dating a very kind man who never makes me feel like a pushover.

You’ll find a good guy, you just gotta so your own thing for a while.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

It's the same as guys - if they have to broadcast they are nice and thinks they should be rewarded with a relationship or sex, they aren't really nice.
I met someone like that and when I understood that, I walked away and never looked back.

Apope16 · Answer

Yes. Nice girls finish last because they are the ones we marry. It may suck at first but in the end you win.

coachTanthony · Answer

Nice and needy do finish last!

RaindropSweetie · Answer

As a nice girl... It depends. If a nice girl stays sheltered and marries the first nice guy she meets, and never steps out of line, then it would appear that she wins.

If a nice girl wants to experience life, meet many types of people, and date multiple people to try to find the best fit, she will meet plenty of people who will try to use her as a doormat. At some point they will wreck her or she will have to be less nice to deal with them.

Where you live also comes into play. Nice people in nice areas will fare much better than nice people in violent and impoverished areas where it's survival of the fittest.

angecandy · Answer

Use both your brain and your heart!!! If you are too nice and dosnt use your brain, you are gonna get hurt and taken advantage of by many. But if you are nice and also use your head and is smart and capable to see between nice people and fake people, the you won't get hurt a lot. Just because you are nice dosnt mean you have to be complitely blind, deaf and mute. And there are many kind of bitchy girls ( bitchy language but has a golden heart, bitchy behaviours and fighting people but doesn't play with men, bitchy bossy mafia who take what she wants and can't be controlled, bitchy who lays around, secretive bitchy who pretend to be nice...)

ziggy3 · Answer

No girl ever finishes last. Nice or not, ugly or hot. A girl can easily have her pick of the 20-30 guys that throw themselves at her on dating sites, often times allowing them to find guys that are an 8-10 while being average themselves. Whereas a guy struggles to be one of those 30, often times having to lower their standards for a 2-4 while being average looking himself. The dating world is extremely lopsided in a womans favor. That's why you see many woman wanting polyamorous relationships but not men (unless they're a 10/10).

SirRexington · Answer

Nice girls don't typically face this problem since men are the ones expected to do all the work. Women just have to sit by and wait for a man to pick them. Men like nice girls. No hassle, no nagging, no superiority complex and little to no bitching. Also they are less likely to cheat on you if they are a nice girl. So men often prefer these types of women.

Bwyze · Answer

Nice people sure do get the short end of the stick... but when they change... they're always the ones that seemingly more negative things are said about them especially if they have goals they are trying to chase... or if the niceness slides a little and they start acting just as ratchet of the rest of the worldly people... then what more stuff gets said... it's a never ending situation... people will speak from life to death about folks... sometimes you haftah do you... whatever makes you feel good inside do it... if it taps a membrane inside of your head to where it feels/seems like you're doing the right thing... you are there... remain nice... be genuine... even though there are sometimes you may have to show that bad side... make wolves back off

Anonymous · Answer

"The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him."

I strongly disagree with that statement. Good men find niceness very attractive and endearing. It's what we fall in love with. Good men do not fall in love with bitches; weak men with no self respect end up with bitches.

If you want a weak man with no self respect, be a bitch. If you want a good man who respects himself and his woman, be very nice. Women who are nice end up with the best men.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Of course they do. She tries so hard to be with him and get her to notice her. She is so nice to him. But he is chasing some hot cheerleader so he can't see it.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a sad fact of life that being kind or “nice” can be a sign of weakness to many people. Some people realize not to take advantage of that. But sociopaths will try to exploit it (they are one out of 20 people)

While I do think nice girls have it tough. They absolutely do not have it nowhere near as bad as nice guys. A nice girl who is attractive is will be in high demand but she’s got to watch her back for douches who want one thing and one thing only. But she will definitely get plenty of dates

An attractive “nice guy” will always get exploited if he’s not careful. Women will still friend zone him no matter how good looking he is if he’s too nice. Many (if not most) will shamelessly take advantage of all free meals, favors, etc.

So nice girl finishes SECOND to last, but the nice guy unfortunately is at the bottom of the totem pole.

sapphireruby · Answer

I hope not
I think there is a fine line between being nice and being a pushover. Its not vary nice to yourself to let him cross you boundaries and disrespect you. Its also not vary nice for the guy ether because if he dose it again to a more assertive women he could get hit or worse.
I'm not always the best at asserting my self especially around people I don't know vary well, but I'm working it. Being a dormant is not nice, its just being an object.

nomazi · Answer

If you have to say you are nice, then you aren’t as nice as you think you are.
If you are nice, being too nice isn’t a good thing either; there has to be a balance. Being a push over, or bending over backwards for any and everyone isn’t good. Standing up for yourself, knowing when to say no, knowing when to give up (especially in toxic relationships), etc; that’s what will make you finish first.

ColtonJHopkins · Answer

Depends on the reason. If they are nice just because they are looking for approval and sort of expecting something in return for it then yes they do. But if they are that way because they are just genuinely a good person then they absolutely do not finish last.

SpiderLady · Answer

I actually have to agree. I've gotten into a lot of shit being the "nice" girl. I've always thought being pleasant, polite and proper was how you got people to like you. WRONG. Humans are greedy, we can't help but take shit for granted. That includes someone's kindness.

No, that doesn't mean you have to be a complete shitbag. You can still be a decent person and give where it's deserved, but you shouldn't let people walk all over you.

stardust101 · Answer

I think girls that are too nice have no boundaries so that’s why people take advantage of them. And you’re right. It has everything to do with fear... speaking up. Once she lets go of the fear though, she’s then powerful and people will take her seriously. I don’t like bitches. I can detect a bitch from a mile away. I stay away from her as much as possible but I’m not afraid to deal with her when need be. I just prefer not to, I find that it’s wasted energy I can use elsewhere.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nahh... The guys usually turn us into a freak in the sheets although we stay a lady in the streets. But sadly its easy to be taken advantage of if too nice. So get you a somewhat submissive man so that u can be nice without someone trying to run/control you

allmeAMwhoIAM · Answer

Yes I agree.. being nice all the time is a good sing that there is probably some kind of control issues in the relationship... nothing wrong with being nice as much as pos.. I do believe what energy u admit is often the same energy you receive in life so I always try to be positive.. Although a butt kisser is usually just that !.. FAKE.. and if there is one thing I dislike the most about a person it wld be that... u have to love yourself enough to drop the fear or worries and leave the person or.. like I say just be u... if yr honestly being you and someone doesn't like it they don't have to be around and there prob within is just that there problem!!!

Sufferesin2000 · Answer

Awwww your are soo sweet 😘 i will never mistreat a nice girl nice girl like that. Inn fact ill be so happy to know you you love me😊 and me too ofcourse. I just can't be mean to girls i laugh when mean girs are mean to me and nice girls o my their presence cures my depression instantly i rarely curse , get mad etcetera. Those guys are full on narcissists , my heart would be overwhelmed to have you😊. Im sorry you went trough this.

elite665 · Answer

I should hav hit only sometimes it’s the same for guys for me I finished last (kinda) only this year getting a established relationship but that’s because I was too nice I kept rejecting girl I did not 100% love cause I do not want to use them.
I mean everyone is nice to certain people it’s when you become so nice you do nothing wrong you are faces with a problem

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

Bitchy girls finish last, literally nobody wants them lol

Unit1 · Answer

"Men say they like nice girls, but they simply don't respect the ones who are too accommodating and bend over backwards for him when he doesn't deserve it."

You didn't met the men who said so and hold onto their words.

Give me a nice girl any day at any time. I'll love her with all my heart ♥

Oram52 · Answer

Its about confidence. Being nice is not bad being taken advantage of is. If he doesn't respect you then obviously you should reconsider.

Bitches don't finish first, last thing guys want is drama. But you need to be confident and independent. respect yourself and respect others, and expect same in return.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Nice girls finish first, but they also get used first. Which makes me sad, coz that's how nice girls turn cynical and stop being nice girls. So then when Mr. Right comes along, he's probably too late already, coz some fuckboy ruined her for other men. :(

The6ix · Answer

I'm tired of this stupid "nice" people finish last nonsense. There's a difference between being stepped on and walked on by idiots of society or having a back bone to stand up for yourself yet giving back and helping others. I'm 30 and I have dealt with the dramatic, bitchy girls... I am tired of them because I don't want to take care of them because they act like children. I want a girl good girl who I find pretty and she's down to earth.

StylesbyDR · Answer

This is weird. At the end of the day people would say nice guys and nice girls finish last. It doesn't matter what your gender is being nice at the end of the day usually leads to being taken advantage of unless you realise when you are being taken advantage of and respond appropriately.

So I would say nice people who let themselves be taken advantage of finish last, while nice people who bite back when being taken advantage of find someone.

ForteExe · Answer

Bitchy girls finish first if you just wanna get laid, but I'm personally repulsed by girls who sleep around. Bitches never finish last with me because they never even cross the starting line. I avoid them like the plague. You can't finish last if you never start, but you never finish first either.

TheFlak38 · Answer

"being TOO nice in the past has gotten me screwed over a lot"
Think of all the good guys you friendzoned in favor of the assholes who treated you like shit.
Women love to be abused, guys. Don't fall for it. Treat her like a sex object and she will run back to you with tears in her eyes asking for more abuse.

Therisinghero12 · Answer

Second picture is a little dumb in my opinion, decency and independence have little to do with each other, you can be a good person and not be afraid to be without someone and vice versa.
Just enjoy life and the right people will come along eventually, so don't worry about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes because some guys will take advantage of that and exploit her.

I have people pleasing, codependent tendencies and get walked all over by boundary-pushing people. I’m not as bad as I used to be, but it’s hard to get rid of a behavior I learned my whole childhood.

Mädchen · Answer

Yes If they are taken for granted. But that goes males too. Some people let others walk all over them cause they are to nice. But generally being nice is obviously a good Thing as long as you know when to stop

Ceasar97 · Answer

Yes and no, I think that "nice people" in general tend to lack behind others. As for nice girls, guys really like nice girls. They are innocent and cute, guys love innocent and cute girls.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I've dated tons of bitches, trust me at the end of the day they are super depressed and angry, you may not see it in their instagram posts, but those of us near them certainly see it in person.

smartrider · Answer

If you are nice. You should look for a nice guy. Usually that is not the case. So they make you a doormat.
When that happens just stop being a doormat and find someone else who can be equally nice to you.
If you do not, you just stop being nice and that is why nice people have gone extinct

Vick2727 · Answer

I’m sorry I love nice girls. You got to know what type of guy you are dating. Some like mean girls, and their are others who love nice. Me I prefer a nice woman.

Dinklex3 · Answer

No. That "nice guys finish last" crap isn't true either. If you think the only reason why someone didn't like you is because you're "nice", then you have some self exploring to do.

Durie77 · Answer

No it won't. But you have to watch out for a good power balance in the relationship, I've unintentionally mistreated a girl who 'was too nice', she was lovely but just not for me and I should have breaken it up sooner.
But now I'm in a relationship where my girlfriend is incredibly nice, thoughtful and caring but wouldn't consider her 'too nice'. For me she just has that great balance. 👌

loveslongnails · Answer

That would depend greatly on what your "core values" are, wouldn't they? Sometimes a girl needs to "act like a bitch for a time", but that's different from actually BEING one. In case you're wondering, I know you're not :)

CuriousAsker43 · Answer

No they finish either first with a good man or latter with some heart break and a good person in my experience.

Being a bad girl means your hurt way more and used. They just don't show or talk about it usually.

Harmseygrace · Answer

No, I don't think so. It's a matter of finding the right person. That happens to everyone, regardless on niceness and meanness.

BestUserName100 · Answer

No some guys prefer them and seek them out. The bad ones won’t last long because you don’t like their personalities.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I suppose the nice girls with weak personalities or unattractive features or both have more chances of finishing last.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I know that you are really Misticx so get a fucking life !!

mystomachissick · Answer

Nice people finish last. It doesn't matter if they're male or female. That's just how the world works.

FabianChang · Answer

It's a give and take. Treat those how you want to be treated. It should go both ways and one side should never have to over compensate for the other.

I prefer a nice girl in general and not a total bitch.

DrHonesty · Answer

Only be nice to people who appreciate it. If your nice to someone who takes it for granted then you're walking right into a mine field of problems.

Poppykate · Answer

I really don’t care. I am considered a ‘sweet’ girl. I don’t plan on changing. Don’t like bi$ches.

arabgoddess · Answer

I will continue being nice but won't allow anyone to trod on me again!

MannySimms · Answer

Considering that most men have a "recovery" time after an orgasm, it's usually best for HIM to finish last. Common courtesy.

Anonymous · Answer

That's true. The last thing I can respect is an extremely submissive woman, my ex was like that and I ended up emotionally abusing her, she was just always so caring and it kinda just annoyed me, I guess. I wouldn't want a woman who can't hold her own, who can't fight back, but just don't be too emotionally demanding or gloomy, y'know!

buttcrackjoe · Answer

Ugly girls finish last... Nice hot girls get laid, bitchy hot girls get laid The ugly girl can still get laid but she has the remnants of the hot girls.

zagor · Answer

Only if you are mistaking letting someone walk all over you for being nice. A nice person lends their friend a 20 for lunch when the forgot their wallet. A doormat supports their friends drug habit.

brunettegirlxx · Answer

Absolutely! If you reject guys all the time you are harder to get so your value becomes higher. Once you give them some attention though they never talk to you again.

leahzrc · Answer

what im nice and fuck any guy im not scared to be alone haha

BrabusBoyBand · Answer

Nice girls only finish last if the guy she said yes to is a bad boy

Avicenna · Answer

Not with me they don't. And I dont mind if she's clingy, either.

Chris006 · Answer

That is not what defines another humanbeeing at all. Not due to kindness at least. The question is very shallow and thin asked. Only very few have a logic psychologic answer to this question, if anyone at all have.

_Jay_ · Answer

if you think you're nicer than other women then that kind of places you among the ones who should finish first... in your world at least.

lyssagirl · Answer

Naw reap and sow even if ur not getting what u put in now ull get it later maybe when u need it morr

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