"Men say they like nice girls, but they simply don't respect the ones who are too accommodating and bend over backwards for him when he doesn't deserve it."
You didn't met the men who said so and hold onto their words.
Give me a nice girl any day at any time. I'll love her with all my heart ♥
Its about confidence. Being nice is not bad being taken advantage of is. If he doesn't respect you then obviously you should reconsider.
Bitches don't finish first, last thing guys want is drama. But you need to be confident and independent. respect yourself and respect others, and expect same in return.
Nice girls finish first, but they also get used first. Which makes me sad, coz that's how nice girls turn cynical and stop being nice girls. So then when Mr. Right comes along, he's probably too late already, coz some fuckboy ruined her for other men. :(
I also agree about your point on setting boundaries. Jordan Peterson has a talk about how very agreeable people (women especially, who tend towards agreeableness in general compared to men) should practice being less agreeable and saying "no" to things they don't really wanna go along with. Tolerating an inch of mistreatment invites a mile, which is how it always seems to start.
but sometimes nice girls can just turn "bad" from unresolved childhood stuff, or hanging with the wrong people. My ex was a total sweetheart for the most part, but last couple months of dating she took on this "bad bitch" persona coz she liked the attention it got. We discussed in some time after breaking up, and she described it as feeling like "that's how I had to be in the world to be taken seriously by other people". Nice girls just need to remember that there are people who value a sweet, kind-hearted personality in a lady.
I'm tired of this stupid "nice" people finish last nonsense. There's a difference between being stepped on and walked on by idiots of society or having a back bone to stand up for yourself yet giving back and helping others. I'm 30 and I have dealt with the dramatic, bitchy girls... I am tired of them because I don't want to take care of them because they act like children. I want a girl good girl who I find pretty and she's down to earth.
This is weird. At the end of the day people would say nice guys and nice girls finish last. It doesn't matter what your gender is being nice at the end of the day usually leads to being taken advantage of unless you realise when you are being taken advantage of and respond appropriately.
So I would say nice people who let themselves be taken advantage of finish last, while nice people who bite back when being taken advantage of find someone.
Bitchy girls finish first if you just wanna get laid, but I'm personally repulsed by girls who sleep around. Bitches never finish last with me because they never even cross the starting line. I avoid them like the plague. You can't finish last if you never start, but you never finish first either.
"being TOO nice in the past has gotten me screwed over a lot" Think of all the good guys you friendzoned in favor of the assholes who treated you like shit. Women love to be abused, guys. Don't fall for it. Treat her like a sex object and she will run back to you with tears in her eyes asking for more abuse.
Second picture is a little dumb in my opinion, decency and independence have little to do with each other, you can be a good person and not be afraid to be without someone and vice versa. Just enjoy life and the right people will come along eventually, so don't worry about it.
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(25-29)
+1 y
Yes because some guys will take advantage of that and exploit her.
I have people pleasing, codependent tendencies and get walked all over by boundary-pushing people. I’m not as bad as I used to be, but it’s hard to get rid of a behavior I learned my whole childhood.
Yes If they are taken for granted. But that goes males too. Some people let others walk all over them cause they are to nice. But generally being nice is obviously a good Thing as long as you know when to stop
I've dated tons of bitches, trust me at the end of the day they are super depressed and angry, you may not see it in their instagram posts, but those of us near them certainly see it in person.
Yes and no, I think that "nice people" in general tend to lack behind others. As for nice girls, guys really like nice girls. They are innocent and cute, guys love innocent and cute girls.
If you are nice. You should look for a nice guy. Usually that is not the case. So they make you a doormat. When that happens just stop being a doormat and find someone else who can be equally nice to you. If you do not, you just stop being nice and that is why nice people have gone extinct
I’m sorry I love nice girls. You got to know what type of guy you are dating. Some like mean girls, and their are others who love nice. Me I prefer a nice woman.
No. That "nice guys finish last" crap isn't true either. If you think the only reason why someone didn't like you is because you're "nice", then you have some self exploring to do.
No it won't. But you have to watch out for a good power balance in the relationship, I've unintentionally mistreated a girl who 'was too nice', she was lovely but just not for me and I should have breaken it up sooner. But now I'm in a relationship where my girlfriend is incredibly nice, thoughtful and caring but wouldn't consider her 'too nice'. For me she just has that great balance. 👌
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
108Opinion
Bitchy girls finish last, literally nobody wants them lol
Which one do you prefer : Smart but kind of Bitchy VS Smart but kind of innocent? ↗
"Men say they like nice girls, but they simply don't respect the ones who are too accommodating and bend over backwards for him when he doesn't deserve it."
You didn't met the men who said so and hold onto their words.
Give me a nice girl any day at any time. I'll love her with all my heart ♥
Its about confidence. Being nice is not bad being taken advantage of is. If he doesn't respect you then obviously you should reconsider.
Bitches don't finish first, last thing guys want is drama. But you need to be confident and independent. respect yourself and respect others, and expect same in return.
Nice girls finish first, but they also get used first. Which makes me sad, coz that's how nice girls turn cynical and stop being nice girls. So then when Mr. Right comes along, he's probably too late already, coz some fuckboy ruined her for other men. :(
I also agree about your point on setting boundaries. Jordan Peterson has a talk about how very agreeable people (women especially, who tend towards agreeableness in general compared to men) should practice being less agreeable and saying "no" to things they don't really wanna go along with. Tolerating an inch of mistreatment invites a mile, which is how it always seems to start.
but sometimes nice girls can just turn "bad" from unresolved childhood stuff, or hanging with the wrong people. My ex was a total sweetheart for the most part, but last couple months of dating she took on this "bad bitch" persona coz she liked the attention it got. We discussed in some time after breaking up, and she described it as feeling like "that's how I had to be in the world to be taken seriously by other people". Nice girls just need to remember that there are people who value a sweet, kind-hearted personality in a lady.
I'm tired of this stupid "nice" people finish last nonsense. There's a difference between being stepped on and walked on by idiots of society or having a back bone to stand up for yourself yet giving back and helping others. I'm 30 and I have dealt with the dramatic, bitchy girls... I am tired of them because I don't want to take care of them because they act like children. I want a girl good girl who I find pretty and she's down to earth.
100%. It’s about being kind AND having backbone to support your values.
This is weird. At the end of the day people would say nice guys and nice girls finish last. It doesn't matter what your gender is being nice at the end of the day usually leads to being taken advantage of unless you realise when you are being taken advantage of and respond appropriately.
So I would say nice people who let themselves be taken advantage of finish last, while nice people who bite back when being taken advantage of find someone.
Bitchy girls finish first if you just wanna get laid, but I'm personally repulsed by girls who sleep around. Bitches never finish last with me because they never even cross the starting line. I avoid them like the plague. You can't finish last if you never start, but you never finish first either.
"being TOO nice in the past has gotten me screwed over a lot"
Think of all the good guys you friendzoned in favor of the assholes who treated you like shit.
Women love to be abused, guys. Don't fall for it. Treat her like a sex object and she will run back to you with tears in her eyes asking for more abuse.
Never been with one of those.
No it's the other way around in my experiences
Second picture is a little dumb in my opinion, decency and independence have little to do with each other, you can be a good person and not be afraid to be without someone and vice versa.
Just enjoy life and the right people will come along eventually, so don't worry about it.
Yes because some guys will take advantage of that and exploit her.
I have people pleasing, codependent tendencies and get walked all over by boundary-pushing people. I’m not as bad as I used to be, but it’s hard to get rid of a behavior I learned my whole childhood.
Yes If they are taken for granted. But that goes males too. Some people let others walk all over them cause they are to nice. But generally being nice is obviously a good Thing as long as you know when to stop
I've dated tons of bitches, trust me at the end of the day they are super depressed and angry, you may not see it in their instagram posts, but those of us near them certainly see it in person.
Yes and no, I think that "nice people" in general tend to lack behind others. As for nice girls, guys really like nice girls. They are innocent and cute, guys love innocent and cute girls.
If you are nice. You should look for a nice guy. Usually that is not the case. So they make you a doormat.
When that happens just stop being a doormat and find someone else who can be equally nice to you.
If you do not, you just stop being nice and that is why nice people have gone extinct
I’m sorry I love nice girls. You got to know what type of guy you are dating. Some like mean girls, and their are others who love nice. Me I prefer a nice woman.
No.
That "nice guys finish last" crap isn't true either.
If you think the only reason why someone didn't like you is because you're "nice", then you have some self exploring to do.
No it won't. But you have to watch out for a good power balance in the relationship, I've unintentionally mistreated a girl who 'was too nice', she was lovely but just not for me and I should have breaken it up sooner.
But now I'm in a relationship where my girlfriend is incredibly nice, thoughtful and caring but wouldn't consider her 'too nice'. For me she just has that great balance. 👌
No they finish either first with a good man or latter with some heart break and a good person in my experience.
Being a bad girl means your hurt way more and used. They just don't show or talk about it usually.
No some guys prefer them and seek them out. The bad ones won’t last long because you don’t like their personalities.