Boyfriend only cares about sex?

[RyssaBear]

Hey everyone, I’m in need of some advice. So my boyfriend and I have been together almost three years. You know the whole honey moon phase where you can’t get enough of each other, it usually dies out after a while. Anyways After a couple months of the relationship I feel like sex is all he wants and all he uses me for. Whether we’re Listening to music, or watching a movie, and it mentions sex, he puts me down and says that I should be more like that. Every time I come home from work, I’m usually exhausted and he gets mad at me sometimes when I fall asleep fast in bed. Or if I say I’m not really in the mood before bed, he throws a fit and won’t even talk to me for the rest of the night and turns his back on me. He calls me whack and corny because I don’t desire sex as much as I used to. The only reason I’ve been lacking desire is because I’ve been feeling like that’s all he wants for me. he’s very selfish and cares about his own pleasure. He wants me to please him day in and day out like I’m a slave to him. I used to love doing anything with him but now I dread it because he’s never satisfied. We never go on dates, or watch movies together. He won’t even do little nice things for me once in a while like I do to show he cares. All he wants is sex when I’m around. He’s even compared me to other girls before. I’m really drained from having to give it to him all the time just so he won’t argue with me. i don’t enjoy it and he won’t listen to what I like. I feel pressured all of the time and it doesn’t feel natural. I’m just doing it so he won’t call me names or ignore me. I feel as tho this relationship has gone down the drain a long time ago. He can’t even have a genuine conversation with me bc all he talks about to me is sex. It’s so annoying. I’m tired of feeling like there’s something wrong with me. What should I do?

[chriscdi]

let that rotten fish go, many more fish in the sea, many more people that would treat you better, honestly if he only wants you for sexual activities, i think its better to just let the rest of the relationship fall down the drain, you are the only one thats trying to keep it together and he is just bashing on everything you do to try and keep it together, i think its better if you start building something with someone new that is less selfish and would care about your desires and your opinions

[RyssaBear]

That’s exactly what I’m trying to do now. I’ve finally learned that at the end of the day he will always and forever care about him self. He won’t even have a mature conversation with me because he told me he’s not a talking person. His way of getting over issues is sex smh.

[chriscdi]

broski is just thinking with his dick, putting a dick in a vagina isn't ganna pay bills or go to work for you, thats a dumb thing to depend on, i dont even know how you can enjoy sex with issues on your mind, i think those are just excuses to get in ppls pants, there's many ways to get over, not get over but keep your mind off issues, such as excercise, listening to music, even something like sleeping can help you ease your mind up and help you think of ways to solve the issue, he is just one horny bastard, yea he is pretty toxic

[PrudentGuy]

There is nothing wrong with you. But you need to work on how to express your feelings to him to save that relationship.

No, getting emotional when talking about feelings and other matters shows he lacks maturity.

He won't grow up if you feed his sexual desires. Learn to negotiate for your non material needs with sex.

Its common for girls to use sex to create love from her man. So learn this skill and start bargaining.

[0112358]

Probably break up.

But if you want to give it a last shot, sit down and talk to hmm and both of you start putting in more effort.

If either of you feels like “I don’t emotionally feel like putting in more until I get what I need” it’s probably dead. You’re both resentful and then both bitter about the others resentment.

[keepingitreal92]

he's just using your body for sex and nothing else you better dip cuz things won't change. you deserve much better.

[normalice]

You should break up with him. You have incompatible sex drives. Stop trying to make It work. It won't.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't sound like this will work out, but tell him what you expect

[Billy96]

Tell him to hit the bricks
And get to stepping
Doesn't seem like he won't listen to you, so break up with him...

[Anonymous]

What many in the comments fail to understand is that this girl is addicted to the misery, while the guy is addicted to sex. Whether she admits it or not, she is getting something out of this. Classic secondary gain here.

[Hawky_]

Call it a day. he's self centred. Who knows.. he may learn from it

[reptocarl]

Breakup because it won’t change