So before my boyfriend and I became official he and I were seeing each other consistently and I remember during the 2nd month that we had been seeing each other, I asked him “what are your kinks?” And he replied w/ something like “I don’t really have any I never cared to look into that stuff. I just never really cared for sex” and I was like? Bc I’ve never been give an answer like that and we were having sex often the first 2 months then it became like once every week after that and personally I enjoy having sex so once a week is truly not enough for me but I wasn’t gonna demand more I just wanted to see how things keep going. When we have sex it’s good, he isn’t quiet when we fuck and I know he enjoys it but he rarely ever is the one who wants to have sex it’s usually me. Whenever I want it he’ll usually give it but there’s been about 3 times that he’s groaned when I’d ask and that honestly bothered me but I didn’t bring that to his attention Bc I didn’t feel like discussing that. So this post brings me to last night. Well, the night before I asked him for sex and he was like “do we have too? I’m tired.” And I said “okay… well, can we do it in the morning instead?” And He was like “yea If we have time” but I knew that we wouldn’t have time so we didn’t have sex that morning either. Then, last night we were in bed watching stuff on YouTube, I figured “we’re comfy, it’s close to bed time soooo-“ I asked him “can we have sex?” And he groaned and was all “you always ask right before going to sleep” and I was like “? Well when am I supposed to ask?” Bc I’m afraid of asking any other time Bc I already feel like he doesn’t even care enough about sex to have it so I just turned the other direction and he pulled me in to cuddle and then yea we had sex. My question is: do some guys just really not care for sex the way the majority of guys do? or what Bc this is so frustrating to me that my boyfriend doesn’t “need” sex as much as I’d ideally wish to have.
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To add to this post: my boyfriend and I have been together since the end of March (That’s when I made things official w/ him) although we were seeing eachother and talking to eachother on a healthy basis from jan-March [before becoming official] so we’ve technically been together since 2021 started. I don’t believe he’s doing anything dishonest because we’re good to each other, we don’t mistreat each other @ all and we laugh a lot together and I know he loves me but
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But the fact that he isn’t sexual is a head scratcher for me. I’m not his first girlfriend either, he’s had like 4 ex’s before me lol he left all of them except the last one but she left him cuz he couldn’t move in w/ her but I don’t think she cares she left Bc of her leaving for that reason & he said he didn’t feel bad for leaving any of the previous exes so I feel like they must’ve hurt him by cheating or something. He knows he never showed enough love to them so he thinks that’s why
