Would you date someone out of pity?

[ITGirl95]

Would you date someone out of pity?

[looneymalooney]

It would be more like, I already like that person at least sexually and wouldn't mind having sex with her anyway.
I see she's in a bad place in her life and as per experience, good sex, does bring some good vibes in someone's life. So if until that point I wouldn't have really pursued that much for having sex, if I see her interested, I provide it. Guess it would be a white knight for the sex sid only. You need it, let's get down.
But only if she would initiate or show some signs.

On the other hand, if I don't feel attracted to that person at least sexually, if I don't like that person's energy, then no.

On the other hand, I fucked someone out of spite. this hot girl, got mad at me one day for some idiotic reason and really pissed me off as it made no sense. I did not have any feelings towards her.
But for some reason, it triggered me to want to sleep with her badly. It was some sexual tension in the air at least on my side and my way of getting back to her for lashing at me for no reason.
Sex was nice, lustful, don't imagine I beat her up or anything. :)

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Creep lowlife

[smileydrb]

I have. At the time I was in High school she two years younger and I knew she liked me and it was not mutual. So she kept telling me she needed to talk to me.
This went on for a few weeks, so I got annoyed and asked her if she wanted to go out with me and she answered yes I chickened out and did not tell it was not mutual. This went on a few months till she broke up with me. I was relieved.
Good news, we we're not intimate. All's well, ends well. Never again

[SueShe]

You are making no one a favor by dating out of pity.

You are not helping the other because he/she may start to like you and want more than just a date and you are perhaps betraying or cheating yourself for not having the courage to say no, knowing that sooner or later you will have to break this date if you do not wish to continue the relation.

You already know in the beginning that it is out of pity your are dating this person and you know that this will not lead anywhere. So why start in the first place. You are showing a lack of character and let yourself be pulled into a situation without happy ending.

[Mamamialetmego]

You sound reasonable girl.

[SueShe]

@Mamamialetmego thanks ;-)

[nomadia]

I did once out of pity. Never liked him broke up 6 months later. I did it cuz he was suicidal after his father's death and a friend asked me to talk to him and he thought it was a date and i didn't know how to turn him down knowing all that so i just went with it. We never even kissed, i just hang out with him and was there for him when he was down up until he was back to himself and then i broke it off.

[Iwant2kno]

No, because that would be playing with their time and their feelings and I can’t set aside my self love and self respect. Pity is feeling superior or feeling ur in a better position than another person, and to me we are all equal with the same fate which is death. So instead of pity is just not my style. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[MollyTheOriginal]

Hell no. I can't imagine being seriously a) that hard up or b) that low in self esteem that you would honestly go through with that. If none of that is enough to stop you, the prospect of hurting someone else emotionally should be.

[OlderAndWiser]

Absolutely not? At some point, do you say, "I'm sorry, but I've only been dating you out of pity, and I've now found someone else who actually does get me excited?" How do you respond when they tell you, "I love you?" What good does it do to deceive someone with a web of lies which, sooner or later, but obviously collapse on itself?

Never!

[CallMeDave]

I did it once and it was a mistake so I'd never do it again. The girlfriend of a guy I knew had a sister that apparently was really interested in me and the guy and his girlfriend were pushing me to date her. At first I said no, but they really wanted me to give it a try and I was single at the time so eventually I decided it probably couldn't hurt anything and went on a date with her.

It wasn't horrible but I really didn't feel anything for her so it didn't feel right. Then at the end of the night she moved in for a kiss and in the process bit my lip to the point that it bled a little. That didn't help me develop any attraction to her!

The next day I called her to let her know I just didn't feel anything and there wouldn't be a second date. I think that hurt her more than if I never went out with her at all so I'd never do something like that again.

[NavyVelvet]

No, but I did date a guy in college who I was not interested in, but I had no other offers, and the men at my college, in general, had bad attitudes, and this guy did seem nice. However, I wasn't attracted to him. It was okay for the first two dates until it seemed like he had feelings for me, and I didn't so I ended it. You can really only feign interest for a date or so, and even then, it's stringing the other person along. This might be different if you're in high school and looking for a date to prom or something, and if you bring a guy friend, not out of "pity", but due to the fact that he's a good friend and you want to go with him because it will be fun. But no. Don't ever date someone that you pity. Dear God. That's right out of a teenage movie.

[marleyanna2016]

No. I would rather the person be hurt for a short period of time by me not returning the feelings and get over it and meet someone else than to date them, knowing that I’m not attracted them and then them find out and be hurt for a long period of time

[DontEscapeFan]

Depends on a number of factors

I would NOT if...

I am currently in a relationship already
The person happens to be below the legal age
The person happens to be already taken or recently broke up
I suspect this person may only be getting involved to use me for money, status, revenge or to fulfill some other type of need/luxury instead of dating me for who I AM
Im certain they are a narcissist or some other toxic/demonically possessed type of person

I MAY if (and all clear from the above)...

I knew beforehand their recent break-up came from someone I knew wasn't right for them
They happen to be the same gender
Have some type of disability

I probably would if...

I have a good feeling about them or have a strong intuition to give them a chance
They are equally as independent as I am and neither of us are too dependent on the other
I've known them for a long time
They are the opposite gender

[Drowningkingfish]

No, that's stupid - you don't share the same common bond or infatuation in the person. Imagine if you get married to this person out of sorrow, and your kids found out that they were created as props for a stage to their mother. It's equally as taunting as a fake apology.

[Anonymous]

No. I have pitied guys i've gone out with and I didn't want to see them because I saw them as a waste of my time and I know what other guys I can easily get therefore I wouldn't settle. It's not my problem that they're the way they are so why should I even care and pretend to like them.

[Andytherese]

I wouldn't, you would be encouraging their feelings, and they will possibly grow more, it's better to know the truth, you're not interested, you could reject them with tact, and kindness, you don't need to be rude, but its important to be honest.

[hellgirlpeep]

I did it once and I felt awful. He wasn’t attractive and was very pervy but I felt bad for him so went on a date. BIG MISTAKE!!! He made my skin crawl and made me so uncomfy. So don’t date someone out of pity.

[RolandCuthbert]

It is funny a lot of guys here would not date someone out of pity. But some of these dudes definitely would like to receive that pity.

[Hiopdtgy]

Most dude in gag are shallow and undatable many of them are incel maybe because of high standard that they can't match

[brebre234]

No that could seriously backfire. I dont understand people who does this. I actually had someone date because of this. I cussed them out and they learned their lesson lol 🤷🏽‍♀️

[ChocolateBrowny]

a lot of people here say no but when a guy or girl's broken up they get with someone asap and the one accepting it is doing it in pity (rebound) lol

[katkittie55]

No way. Not only is it a turnoff for me but you're leading someone on who you never have any intention of being with anyway.

[BrittBratt2416]

No, that's waste of time and will just result in pain in the end. It's best just to say you aren't interested.

[Gistboy]

You sound enlightened

[AuroraRoseat]

I've done it before and it isn't fair to you and especially to them. Don't do it.

[meenarai]

It’s wrong but I have done this because I felt bad to say no to him. Eventually I broke up because I couldn’t pretend to like him anymore. It’s wrong and no one should do it.

[TacosRAwesome]

Have done it a couple times in the past although it wasn't exactly pity. It was more along the lines of not being into someone but giving it a shot anyway because you never know.

[Angel_Devil]

Hell nah! That could do more damage if they find out someone's only dating them out of pity. Plus I wouldn't want someone to date me out of pity either.

[ikEVERYTHING]

I know a lot of people that have done this and I hate that with a passion, that's fucking with someone's feelings and just the thought makes me wanna kill myself

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

Absolutely not. Dating should be taken seriously and with somebody you're willing to live for life with and possibly have children with. It is not a game.