@HitGirl_007 I presume that "dating" means you physically spend time with the person, so I also presume you're somewhat local to one another? If that's the case, even if you ghost them on line they could find you in person and confront you. If you're talking about some other kind of "dating", then I completely don't understand !! :)
@HitGirl_007 Again, I'm presuming the pity date is with someone who rarely dates, if ever, and gets no attention. Then someone takes you out and you like them, then you get ghosted. That person could easily want to know why and find the person to hear it from them live. Remember the personality you're dealing with is likely an insecure, low self esteem one, in my scenario. Maybe they'll be too scared and drop it, or maybe they'll want a confrontation. I don't think everyone who's ghosted just accepts it and fades away.
Not everyone that has low self and is insecure rarely dates if ever and gets no attention, one should never assume.
You canβt make someone tell you why they ghosted you. Even if you want to know. Even if the date went well and they seemed to like you and then they fucked off.
Even if you get asked out a lot and get attention as you say being ghosted hurts like shit when you actually like the person.
Especially when you are this person that is so insecure but no one has any idea on the outside as you donβt look like it.
But you never get the opportunity to know. You just donβt. Ghosters are just that for a reason. They are assholes, they are cowards, they donβt give two fucks about the other person aka you as they donβt want to see you again.
Donβt give those pricks the satisfaction of letting them win again by chasing after them and hurting yourself further. When you still will never get the answers you want.
You just have to accept some people just donβt like you for whatever reason. Some people just used you for whatever reason. But there are some good people out there and you just have to hope and wait to meet them and spend your time on them not the ghosters
@HitGirl_007 That's a very good dissertation on ghosting and those who do it, but I fail to see how it pertains to the question of "would you date someone out of pity"? Anyway, my answer is no, I wouldn't. Nor have I ever ghosted someone.
Maybe we should all go home and practice having orgasms cos if someone can't give themselves an orgasm how on earth do they think they give anyone a great sexy night?
I got my plan, always lots n lots of towels and lube n make damn sure i cut my nails short π€π€π€π
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Out of compassion, sure why not if I knew this can be someone I could bring myself to peck or kiss going about my regular day.
No way
If I don't find him attractive then I'm not going to date him.
Not going to lead him on.
Pull yourself into a situation where the other person will get hurt more? No nothing good can come out of that kind of relationship
no, I would only date him if I see myself with him forever.
I don't do that.
Disrespectful behaviour all around...
Never. It wouldn't work for me. You find out too much the hard way.
I did once and that is the only pity date I remember going on
That's really stupid. How will you explain that when they figure it out... and they will.
Itβs called ghosting
@HitGirl_007 I presume that "dating" means you physically spend time with the person, so I also presume you're somewhat local to one another? If that's the case, even if you ghost them on line they could find you in person and confront you. If you're talking about some other kind of "dating", then I completely don't understand !! :)
Why would you bother going to find them?
@HitGirl_007 Again, I'm presuming the pity date is with someone who rarely dates, if ever, and gets no attention. Then someone takes you out and you like them, then you get ghosted. That person could easily want to know why and find the person to hear it from them live. Remember the personality you're dealing with is likely an insecure, low self esteem one, in my scenario. Maybe they'll be too scared and drop it, or maybe they'll want a confrontation. I don't think everyone who's ghosted just accepts it and fades away.
Not everyone that has low self and is insecure rarely dates if ever and gets no attention, one should never assume.
You canβt make someone tell you why they ghosted you. Even if you want to know. Even if the date went well and they seemed to like you and then they fucked off.
Even if you get asked out a lot and get attention as you say being ghosted hurts like shit when you actually like the person.
Especially when you are this person that is so insecure but no one has any idea on the outside as you donβt look like it.
But you never get the opportunity to know. You just donβt. Ghosters are just that for a reason. They are assholes, they are cowards, they donβt give two fucks about the other person aka you as they donβt want to see you again.
Donβt give those pricks the satisfaction of letting them win again by chasing after them and hurting yourself further. When you still will never get the answers you want.
You just have to accept some people just donβt like you for whatever reason. Some people just used you for whatever reason. But there are some good people out there and you just have to hope and wait to meet them and spend your time on them not the ghosters
@HitGirl_007 That's a very good dissertation on ghosting and those who do it, but I fail to see how it pertains to the question of "would you date someone out of pity"? Anyway, my answer is no, I wouldn't. Nor have I ever ghosted someone.
Because our reply back and forth got off topic to the original question when other things got brought up.
I answered the question in my original post.
No. I'll befriend sad people, but I only date happy girls.
No.
I do know a few women who are very attractive and so arrogant about it they consider every date to be out of pity.
Nah it would never work out have you done it before
Nah. If she doesn't have what I want, need. I'm not wasting time on her... we could still fool around tho... lol
No, and I don't want anyone to date me out of pity.
No one will do. There is no love. But if he or she is horny then they will compromise
Maybe we should all go home and practice having orgasms cos if someone can't give themselves an orgasm how on earth do they think they give anyone a great sexy night?
I got my plan, always lots n lots of towels and lube n make damn sure i cut my nails short π€π€π€π
I can have sex with myself for hours now n then, I just think if you are gonna do something do it right us know n I hate quickies!
I would want to cuz if that sympathy... but I can't
I've boned a few fat/ugly gals because I felt sorry for them. But never "dated" them.
That's how I ended up with my 1st boyfriend.
No way
depends
No. That doesn't even make sense to me.
Yes but only if they were good at pleasuring me.
really? what kind of pleasure do you want from them?
@ChocolateBrowny Butt pleasure mostly.
eh you mean kissing and licking your assh?
@ChocolateBrowny I don't usually put an 'h' at the end of it but yeah.
haha whatver floats your boat i guess, can't see how an upset guy will just do that