What qualities make a girl “datable”?

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lacaras · Accepted Answer

Honest, modest, loyal, likes children, smart, at least moderately physically attractive, non smoker, positive attitude at least most of the time, everyone has a bad day, but I can't deal with overly negative people

blondfrog · Accepted Answer

Smart humble nourishing I want her to be sensitive and maybe even cry. Cause I am not a cryer. I also would like to comfort her. Also a beast in the bedroom would be a +. Lastly she is classy.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Hmmm...

1. Honesty and loyalty. If for whatever reason I get the impression that a woman lacks either of these two. That's an immediate deal breaker. They're key to any kind of relationship.

2. Sense of humor. That doesn't mean she should necessarily be funny, just someone who i end up laughing with

3. Seems genuine - not overly afraid to be herself, whatever that is. Not concerned with fitting into some image of what she thinks you want.

4. An interesting personality. This is completely a personality thing. Not a "she should have an interesting life/do interesting things" thing.

5. Good conversation. Ability to enjoy each other's company and have meaningful as well as completely ridiculous conversations. Not afraid to have a serious conversation.

6. Kindness, empathy. I've personally always been attracted to those who just seem to be of a kind heart. That doesn't mean a pushover, or meak or anything like that. Just that your default is to see the world through a kind heart.

7. Sexual chemistry.

8. Respects herself. Knows the difference between good attention and bad attention.

9. Not too girly. That's not to say you shouldn't be feminine, feminine is great. It's just for me too feminine and you start to seem like you might not really be a person afterall.

10. A nice bum

TheSoundOfSilas · Answer

Brace yourself, bureaucratic levels of airtight meticulousness are ahead.

My must haves are as follows:
~Similar interests (gaming, music, hygiene as an art, etc).
~Brazen and outgoing, perhaps reflected in her physique; elaborated in my preferences below.
~Considerate and sweet.
~Trusting of my judgement, but willing to question me nonetheless.
~Honest; no mind games, no passive-aggression.
~Dark sense of humor.
~Sex holds little/no importance.
~Independent.
~Older than me, even if only by a day; perhaps no older than five years.
~Roughly the same height, preferably taller on more noticeable differences.

Then here are my preferences, but they are by no means requirements:
~Physically strong; I would like to battle my partner—in a manner where we both feel safe, of course. Plus, abs of steel are just nice. As Spike Spiegel once said, "I love the kind of woman who can kick my ass".
~Atheist/irreligious; my religious composition is very… alien where I live, and given where I live, atheism would be the equilibrium between most common and most compatible.
~Brunette; truly an arbitrary and insignificant preference, but brown locks just make me squee.
~Pale; also very insignificant, it's just that my dark skin with my partner's pale skin would be very aesthetic.
~Handy assistant in the kitchen; given that I would do virtually all the cooking, some help with chopping ingredients and cleaning dishes would always be appreciated.
~Smokes; given that I'm a light smoker, I wouldn't want that to bother her, so even better if she's also a smoker.
~HUGE JoJo fan; so under the umbrella of similar interests, this is kinda necessary but so variable and negotiable that I put it here. Of course I want my partner to nerd out with me over JoJo's Bizarre Adventure, but I think I'd die of happiness if she were on the same level of shitposts and references that I am.
~Goth; also under the umbrella of similar interests, it's necessary that she be as open to my music taste as I would be to hers. But it would be even better if we *both* had the same level of appreciation for gothic rock and its relatives.
~Gastronomically adventurous; bottom-line is she needs to eat reasonably healthy. But I would appreciate it if she enjoyed Cajun/Creole and Indian cuisine, as that is what I cook most often. It would also be nice to have someone who enjoys eating really unappetizing-sounding foods, if only for the ironic value, just as much as I do, such as haggis or basashi.
~Enjoys snuggling, more than the next person; this relates to sex not being important, but also something else. As an introvert, sometimes I enjoy just spending time with a person, rather than actively speaking to them. Some friends in high school have demonstrated to me that the best way to enhance this is through snuggling, and this is no less true in a romantic relationship than it is in a platonic one.

B-radley · Answer

This is going to be different for every guy just like every girl. That being said I will give this a go.

1. Some guys want to pay for everything some don't but I would say they all agree want to hear the woman asked to help pay or a thank you for the evening out.

2. A guy wants to feel special too! He wants to think you saw something in him that you don't see in others. I. E. you have standards, personality traits you are looking for in a guy and that not just any guy would do.

3. She's friendly. She gets along with his friends and family. If she's going to be apart of his life, he hopes she will mesh with it.

4. She's caring and considerate. She has respect for him, his money and his time. He doesn't feel used.

5. She isn't selfish. If he gives her attention, she does the same. She actively listens to his stories and notices when his mood changes.

6. He's sexually attracted to her. Why date someone you have no sexual attraction for?

I hope this helped! Having trouble in the dating market?

AviationMonk · Answer

The people who I get attracted to usually have one or more things I am listing below.
Someone who genuinely smiles a lot. (This one is tricky because some evil people use this tool to disguise them self as a sheep).
We are human and it's a struggle to maintain a positive attitude so I understand that but people who smiles (oh man) I find them very attractive but I also get worried what if this is a wolf?
Also someone that is connected to nature and not following trends. (Now a days people pretending to be really into nature but if you investigate further you'll find out they are following the mass consumerism and it's all ok. Not judging them in any way.)
Someone that has their own genuine personality. Someone who is following their own path. (Even if they come off as a hard ass) Super attractive.
Also people who are great full.(Super attractive and they can't fake it for long)
I'll say Higher happiness level, Independent, honest, non-judging, amazing attitude, someone who can reason through hard times, ambitious, appreciation for good food, people, nature.
If someone possess all the qualities I've listed above then people will start worshipping them as God. So I am not expecting people to have all of the qualities.

SuperManiac · Answer

Just getting along and having a nice social interaction was enough for me. I might have not been the wisest since I consider it largely due to sheer luck that I finally met my wife with whom I was so compatible, even in the tougher times. I was never the type to be able to foresee such a thing in advance.

So just having a girl laugh at my jokes, and being attracted to her, and with her showing some interest in me was enough to invite her on a date in my past. I figure everything else related to compatibility has to be discovered in a more intimate setting.

And I didn't just arrive at these views out of the blue. I've seen some of my female friends who I thought would make the most amazing female friends show a very different character I never saw before when they went on dates in spite of knowing them so well as friends. So I always saw it as rolling the dice.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I agree with your photo choice,
If she can have fun dressed up casually, be comfortable together and not pushy, eat enjoy life, food, dessert, enjoy nature, is easy going, can regulate her emotions, good work ethic and value system, she's dateable.

I like her cone selection, but her selection of ice cream is somewhat suspect.. strawberry is a bit childish, no? Girls gotta upgrade to Raspberry Choc Chip somtime. Two scoops.. whoa... he's got his hands full with that one, that's aggressive! ;)

young_old_soul · Answer

These are all important personality traits I find attractive in a prospective girlfrend:

Shared values (e. g. religion, morals, political leanings, work ethic).
We are compatible as far as life goals (career, family plans, etc) are concerned.
Effective communication with each other (hard pass on those who think subtle hints and guessing games are valid methods of communication).
She has an interesting personality (I don't find "basic" to be an attractive trait).
She has a clear direction in life and knows what she wants.
She is self-sufficient. I won't date somebody who I know will be (and intends to be) financially or otherwise largely dependent upon me.
She is mentally and emotionally stable (I learned this one the hard way).

EmbraceThePain · Answer

So many, where to start? I can’t list them all here, but I assume other men will be different from me. I guess the one main thing would be her sexual history. I take this pretty seriously, so I ask her what she’s done and how many people she’s been with. If I don’t like the answer, I won’t berate, harass, or judge her, rather, I’ll just discontinue any involvement I have with her. This is one of many qualities that I look for in a woman.

IoffurAdVice · Answer

Open minded and somewhat talkative. Hate women who's replies usually run along the lines of "Yeah me too", "Cool", "Nice", "Ok". I rather one who loves talking about her experiences in life and her passions. Makes it easier for both parties if they just share what they would like to share so then they could see if they're compatible or not with an awkward feeling at the end.

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

I don't want a girl to be showing half her body on IG, I come across plenty of girls like that in today's modern age. I want a girl to be politically aware of what is happening in our world, a girl who cares, a girl who is also driven, a girl that communicates well and doesn't play games and yes someone I am attracted to. When I state, someone I am attracted to, I don't mean someone who is a 10/10 model, what I may find cute in a girl, another guy may find it less appealing for him, we are all different. She also has to be honest and loyal, few guys mentioned that and I completely agree.

Kay_ca · Answer

What I'm personally looking for in a woman:

Chemistry
Moderally attractive (or +)
Mentally healthy
Physically healthy (I love sport, so if she does that's awesome)
Self-Confidence
Honesty (very important)
Fun, Easy-going
Passionate about what she does (is a +)

I personally don't care about her past relationships. I prefer to let them where they belong: in the past.

Gopnik · Answer

sweet personality, funny, not manipulative, stuff like this is what i enjoy.
physically average size on both ends is alright and i it wouldn't bother me if a girl was below that.
physically wise i enjoy an attrractive face a lot more.

just_a_potato · Answer

Having a vagina? That might be a start but I don't know

needsanswers100 · Answer

In my opinion a women is datable if:
1. there is an attraction based off of a combination of her personality and physical beauty (wide range of physical beauty)
2. she is confident in her sexuality (she knows she is attracted to men and she wants to date men)
3. she likes having sex under the right conditions and with consent

Everything else is negotiable...

CubsterShura · Answer

Initially it has to be good looks and looking genuinely approachable in facial and body expression to approach her in the first place.

And then it comes down to subjective things and he might date her if he likes her.

rjroy3 · Answer

Better to narrow down to what makes a girl dateable to a certain type of guy and base it on what that guy is looking for in a girl.

For a lot of guys just having a girl who is pretty "enough" and has sex with him consistently without a condom is enough to be dateable.

StephenCF · Answer

Elegant fashion style 👗👠💄👒 Sense of humour 😂🤣🤪😜 Intelligence 🤓🧠📚 Cultural 🎨🎤📸📽📖

Anonymous · Answer

Not cruel, not someone that uses others, and (I know this sounds selfish) someone that doesn't have too much baggage... By that I mean they are convinced I don't actually love them and will do everything in their power to anger me, like destroy property or actively do things to get themselves in trouble. I know girls that are like this. I would never wanna date them.

SilverRain92 · Answer

Advanced emotional intellect, ability to hold a conversation, sense of humour, light cheering and positive attitude towards her life, taking care about her boyfriend, patience, ability to understand her boyfriend and accept most of his drawbacks, appearance (but different guys have different preferences about looks, there is no any beauty standards even though the media try to persuade us that situation is the opposite)

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

If she is bubbly, smiley, and laughs at my jokes  My jokes aren't so funny. So if she laughs, I know its just because she likes me haha!

houseofmince · Answer

Honesty, modesty, understanding, fair, humble, independent, opinionated, ballsy, risk taker, good hygiene, caring, motivated, self empowered

esotericstory · Answer

if she has a good morality and she is healthy mentally and physically. She also wants to make a family. She's feminine and knows basic life skills.

I feel like I am stating the obvious but many people nowadays miss the mark pretty big lol.

Bananaman177 · Answer

1. She has a big pet snake. 2. She will let you feed the snake once in a while. 3. She is croc-curious, if not fully down to get a croc.

turd_of_warning · Answer

It's about whether you click with the person. If you have a good time together, that's a good sign.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

One that is a God fearing Christian, smart, not needy, clean, self respect, has goals and ambition in life to make something out of herself, honest, loyal and sweet.

HeyThere94 · Answer

The following -A tomboy  -Dominant  -An Atheist -Rough -Likes adventures  -Likes being kinky -Has or wants a career -Not a bimbo -Loves animals -Wants no kids

Twenty2 · Answer

Respect, love, open! If she respects me and ready to love me (likes me) and is open to changes that will happen during our relationship then she's the best girl to date 😍

Ayer93 · Answer

Similarities are the primary reason for people to date. Similar interests, beliefs, sense of humor, etc.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Any girl that doesn't want to spend 24/7 talking about feelings or emotions or celebrity gossip is datable really... and if she's got some cakes to well all the better

DWD94 · Answer

*Obedient  *Submissive *Patient *Understanding *Kind *Loyal *Accommodating  *Fun

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Not fat, loves and wants kids, treats men with respect, doesn't sleep around. I would date that girl.

No_Archons · Answer

Healthy, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Not being a slut is number one

Vesta · Answer

Being a good person. That's all that matters when it comes down to it, for anyone

Simonsez42 · Answer

Looks and body don't last long I want someone who can make me laugh.

Lord_Thy_Gawd · Answer

XX chromosomes and not a transman Straight or bi Not fat Not a radical leftist Not entitled because she's a woman

Cowboy6666 · Answer

her good behaviour, open mindedness, education, taller height, sexy looks, longer hairs are few things I am looking in my girlfriend

TonyMetal_86 · Answer

Sweet, honest, have a sense of humor and also looking feminine and for sure not being a feminist

DDpsy · Answer

No children. Not fat. Good hygiene. Not a rude asshole.

Dolemite510 · Answer

No kids Good attitude Hard working Great sense of humor  And a cute butt is a must 😂

SAVAGEDANK · Answer

being Attractive, caring, honest, loyal, having a sense of humor, has empathy, ambition, open minded, is confident in herself, & having similar interests.  In no particular order

Anonymous · Answer

A girl I would wanna date has to be hard working, ambitious, smart, loyal, caring, dosent drink smoke or party

jimmy2 · Answer

One that loves herself, can make me smile and laugh and wants to spend time with me

Danny_11 · Answer

1. Attractive physically and mentally 2. No or little emotional baggage 3. Knows her man's value

Anonymous · Answer

a lot of guys seem to like intelligence, self-confidence, and honesty. And I have none of those qualities 😬

Andres77 · Answer

Kind and courageous. Everything else just falls into place...

Secret6620 · Answer

Good sense of humor👍🤓

Smoothing · Answer

Good personality and friendliness..

Rawkstar26 · Answer

All about the connection

ColoradoKid · Answer

Personality is a big thing that I look for.

Sweatyotterr · Answer

Compatibility probably it’s very rare

Scottydoesntknow · Answer

Being single is a strong one fore me.

Grond21 · Answer

For me, potential marriage material

Jamie05rhs · Answer

The same ones that make her marriable.

Silvius · Answer

Looking innocent, not asking money

Christina1996 · Answer

Someone that can make you laugh.

Anonymous · Answer

Not a gold digger and enthusiasm for sex

ENTP_EMO · Answer

pretty face big boobs thicc ass

Gedaria · Answer

A sense of humour, goes a long way...

Mcluven · Answer

If she has good manners.

Anonymous · Answer

Almost no girl is datable as most women are hypergamous.

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