In high school, I was friends with a girl named Laura. She was absolutely beautiful: blond hair, blue eyes, great physique, athletic, friendly, a cheerleader but not pretentious or snobbish. I lusted for her but knew that I was not mature enough to date before I left high school at age 16. A few years ago, Laura contacted me on Facebook in connection with our 45th high school reunion; I had not attended a reunion since our 5th. I decided to attend because I was divorced, in a failing relationship, and I wanted to see if any of my female classmates might be single and available. When I met Laura, I was shocked. She had gained so much weight. . . it was like the photo above, except it was real and not just photoshopped. She had developed a medical problem which required her to frequently use systemic steroidal medications, and that had caused tremendous weight gain. She was still nice, sweet, very pleasant, etc. and she was single and seemed to be interested in me but I could not get past the horrible physical transformation. I know - please don't remind me - that I should not judge her solely by her physical appearance, but the idea of lusting for her was impossible to imagine. . . and I felt guilty about that. . . and disappointed. . . and sympathetic about her medical condition. Have you ever had such an experience?

But what do you look like? Lmao

I imagine you don't look the same 45 years later

That's sad you couldn't see her for her

Ever met someone years later and been horribly disappointed? (Page 3)

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Anonymous
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But what do you look like? Lmao

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  Okay. Now, what will you do without an ass? :) :) :)
  
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Smelly12 Follow
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Nope

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Anonymous
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You sound like a pig 😊

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- Cuppo_Mode
  
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  Haha, but you don't just sound like a pig, you ARE a pig
  
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Anonymous
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Looks shouldn’t matter.

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  Why should they not matter? If we are looking for a partner, why should physical attraction not have any place in our decision?
  
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highjinx Follow
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every time.

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Xper 3 Age: 41

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I imagine you don't look the same 45 years later

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  None of us do. And. . .
  
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sibu1 Follow
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I am depressed

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kama_7 Follow
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I am that someone

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Xper 4 Age: 55

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That's sad you couldn't see her for her

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  Why do you think that I did not see her as she was? "She was still nice, sweet, very pleasant, etc. and she was single and seemed to be interested in me . . ." I recognized her good qualities. Is it more socially acceptable for me to pretend that I am attracted to her even though I am not attracted? If so, I don't care, because I don't maintain relationships for the purpose of getting approval from others.
  
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- KandyKane1
  
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  "I could not get past the horrible physical transformation"
  
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  Did you learn that trick from the media? Take a comment out of context and spin it in a completely new direction?
  
  As I said previously, and will now say for the last time, I still saw her for all of her good qualities but the change in her physical appearance was sobering. Want to spin that comment?
  
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I'm disappointed too

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I don't do shallow

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  That is very virtuous.
  
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