I'll stop being ridiculous and over dramatic when the morons who claims to be my friends I will stop harassing me about this, try to "help" me and overall refusing to understand. I don't know what goes through their heads to even think they are helping instead of doing what I actually ask them.
And as side note, I find it quite funny that if a girl would have made this rant everyone would have stuck with her but if I do it I get called "suffering" and "hateful". I don't hate anyone, I'm no MGTOW or any other stupid political label, I'm just someone who wants to be left alone to do his job. That's why I left my girlfriend and my sister, to be in peace and alone, not getting jumped by "friends" who thinks a place has freed up on the bandwagon.
I think you are right on that, but they won't let me on this one. I just want to drink, play cards and chat, but they insist on presenting me girls or talking about it. I don't understand why they care that much, after all they always swindle me of some 50-60€ everytime we play.
It don't matter if you ever going to date again or not. What do matter is that your happy and trive doing something on your own. The more desperate someone is to not being alone the grater the chance is they will do a mistake and fuck their life up even if it's just for a moment. Also it greaten the chance to date someone completely wrong for you just so you're not alone. Being alone don't mean your lonely, having friends and hobbies and a balanced life is more important then to date someone. If you find someone you are curious about then by all means try to see if it will work. I have not dated for 2 years, that's because I don't see the point if not everything is perfect, I need to feel I'm falling in love and I need to feel they are to, they need to be intelligent, interesting, creative, beautiful, healthy and living close by, if not I will not even try.
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Because society is incredibly conformist and narrow-minded. they think that everyone has to act in the same way. If you don't conform/fit the norm, everyone judges and critisizes and pressures you to act like the norms dictate... they don't care about your happiness, they just care about not disrupting the order of the world.. See the answers in this questions? Most of them say you''ll change your mind later and give you unsolicited relationship advice... there's no explanation... it's just the way society is
It’s basicly up to him or her whether or not a person wants to date. You can’t make someone want to. That’s a decision a person makes.. it doesn’t mean they have a problem maybe they don’t want the drama or what ever the case maybe they don’t want to get involved again who knows. Dating can be fun & the chance of meeting your future husband or wife. Dating is one of the best ways of getting to know someone. The main thing is go have fun time together. If your not into it don’t let someone pressure you. You have the final say.
It's because its seen as you're not socialable so you're seen as negative. But to the contrary the majority of people see it this way while the real minority doesn't. Because when all is said and done the end result is what's wrong with you why not what's right with you? They may have had qualities or characteristics that are unbecoming or not conducive for a healthy and nurturing union. If you continue to meet said people then sooner or later your routines will have to change in order to have a better selection of people who fit your category.
Because the majority of society feels the need to be in a relationship because it makes them feel secure and complete. Which there is nothing wrong with that at all. But for those of us who prefer being single and going at our own pace, being told we are "afraid of commitment" or "we just want to sleep around" is just ignorant. Those reasons may be true for some but there are plenty of other perfectly good reasons not to date.
making a decision to not date can be a wise one but to add... "for the rest of my life.", thats what gives people pause. Here's an analogy you may or may not relate to. In the past when I've gotten really drunk and sick, I've vowed never to drink again. Well, while that didn't hold true, I have gotten smarter about my alcohol intake. Dating is similar.
People are always going to be a risk to have them in a relationship. It's a part of life. I don't like it, either, but your choices are have a close intimate relationship with a person or spend the rest of your life not knowing a person that closely. I choose the latter.
It is a good thing to be fine with being alone and having more time for yourself, figure things out, work on you career. Not dying to pursue a relationship or wanting to be on your own for a while is completely fine but shutting out the possibility of dating if someone special comes your way can be destructive. Be open to life and what it brings your way.
Cause if u refuse to date people will immediately judge u and think that u only want sex. I just don't understand that about this world everyone is so judgmental
Part of the reason is that you get troll comments. You can prevent those users from posting as Anons : "If you want to block an Anonymous user, just click (or tap, for mobile) where it says "Anonymous" on the post and click "Yes" to Block. They will no longer be able to interact with you anonymously on that post and all future posts."
In short, it makes people feel like they aren't good enough.
As for your situation, I don't think she seems like the kind of person you should be dating (if you want to at all). Her pressuring you to go out with her, especially after a break, is a bad sign. Also nitpicking little things like having a drink with breakfast, unless you have an issue with drinks, is also kinda iffy.
If you feel like you need time off from dating, maybe even permanently, that is your decision and you need to make it clear that it is your choice. In my opinion, I think you should try not to think in absolutes. Don't date till you're ready, if that's never great, but don't deny yourself.
It is seen as a negative thing because people will always try to force to do things that you dont like. They see dating as the norm and expect you to be a part of it. If not, then they'll try to draw you back into the pack without caring if it makes you happy. That's the purpose of the shaming language you get like "you hate women". And calling you mgtow is a badge of honour. A real man always goes his own way. If a woman loves him truly then she'll follow him. See how that woman acted like a bitch during breakfast. That was her way of testing you on your masculinity and how much you put up with other peoples bullshit or not.
It is positive. Focus on yourself and don´t let others influerence you. People should stop hating on people that choose to be single. It´s not a personal attack to any gender it just means that he wants to take his time and do his own thing. By the way who pushes and pressure someone that just get out of a toxic relationship is rude. That is not cool.
If it has been months or years and you still refuse to date, then I agree that it is slightly negative unless your refusal comes from a positive place (eg focusing on work).
Sounds like you are trying convince yourself it's good to be single and not want to date ever again. It doesn't sound like you are trying to convince anyone else other than yourself.
Sounds more like hurt than anything.. It wouldn't be bad if you actually just wanted to focus on betterin yoself and yo career.. But the way you word it, sounds like you just need to heal from gettin burned... Cause you say never again..
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Dude, you're being ridiculous and over dramatic. Cool your jets.
I'll stop being ridiculous and over dramatic when the morons who claims to be my friends I will stop harassing me about this, try to "help" me and overall refusing to understand.
I don't know what goes through their heads to even think they are helping instead of doing what I actually ask them.
And as side note, I find it quite funny that if a girl would have made this rant everyone would have stuck with her but if I do it I get called "suffering" and "hateful".
I don't hate anyone, I'm no MGTOW or any other stupid political label, I'm just someone who wants to be left alone to do his job.
That's why I left my girlfriend and my sister, to be in peace and alone, not getting jumped by "friends" who thinks a place has freed up on the bandwagon.
I think you're 22 just out of a bad experience and you have a very long life ahead of you.
Try to do something to distract you from overthinking this to death.
I think you are right on that, but they won't let me on this one.
I just want to drink, play cards and chat, but they insist on presenting me girls or talking about it.
I don't understand why they care that much, after all they always swindle me of some 50-60€ everytime we play.
Get rid of them.
I'm considering it.
After all they are happy I left my ex because she's Georgian and they are Russian, I should have figured that out.
i am with ur opinion @MlleCake
It don't matter if you ever going to date again or not. What do matter is that your happy and trive doing something on your own. The more desperate someone is to not being alone the grater the chance is they will do a mistake and fuck their life up even if it's just for a moment. Also it greaten the chance to date someone completely wrong for you just so you're not alone. Being alone don't mean your lonely, having friends and hobbies and a balanced life is more important then to date someone. If you find someone you are curious about then by all means try to see if it will work. I have not dated for 2 years, that's because I don't see the point if not everything is perfect, I need to feel I'm falling in love and I need to feel they are to, they need to be intelligent, interesting, creative, beautiful, healthy and living close by, if not I will not even try.
Because society is incredibly conformist and narrow-minded. they think that everyone has to act in the same way. If you don't conform/fit the norm, everyone judges and critisizes and pressures you to act like the norms dictate...
they don't care about your happiness, they just care about not disrupting the order of the world..
See the answers in this questions? Most of them say you''ll change your mind later and give you unsolicited relationship advice...
there's no explanation... it's just the way society is
It’s basicly up to him or her whether or not a person wants to date. You can’t make someone want to. That’s a decision a person makes.. it doesn’t mean they have a problem maybe they don’t want the drama or what ever the case maybe they don’t want to get involved again who knows. Dating can be fun & the chance of meeting your future husband or wife. Dating is one of the best ways of getting to know someone. The main thing is go have fun time together. If your not into it don’t let someone pressure you. You have the final say.
It's because its seen as you're not socialable so you're seen as negative. But to the contrary the majority of people see it this way while the real minority doesn't. Because when all is said and done the end result is what's wrong with you why not what's right with you? They may have had qualities or characteristics that are unbecoming or not conducive for a healthy and nurturing union. If you continue to meet said people then sooner or later your routines will have to change in order to have a better selection of people who fit your category.
Because the majority of society feels the need to be in a relationship because it makes them feel secure and complete. Which there is nothing wrong with that at all. But for those of us who prefer being single and going at our own pace, being told we are "afraid of commitment" or "we just want to sleep around" is just ignorant. Those reasons may be true for some but there are plenty of other perfectly good reasons not to date.
making a decision to not date can be a wise one but to add... "for the rest of my life.", thats what gives people pause. Here's an analogy you may or may not relate to. In the past when I've gotten really drunk and sick, I've vowed never to drink again. Well, while that didn't hold true, I have gotten smarter about my alcohol intake. Dating is similar.
People are always going to be a risk to have them in a relationship. It's a part of life. I don't like it, either, but your choices are have a close intimate relationship with a person or spend the rest of your life not knowing a person that closely. I choose the latter.
It is a good thing to be fine with being alone and having more time for yourself, figure things out, work on you career. Not dying to pursue a relationship or wanting to be on your own for a while is completely fine but shutting out the possibility of dating if someone special comes your way can be destructive. Be open to life and what it brings your way.
Cause if u refuse to date people will immediately judge u and think that u only want sex. I just don't understand that about this world everyone is so judgmental
But I make it clear I don't want sex either.
No matter what u tell them they are still gonna be judgmental towards u
Part of the reason is that you get troll comments. You can prevent those users from posting as Anons : "If you want to block an Anonymous user, just click (or tap, for mobile) where it says "Anonymous" on the post and click "Yes" to Block. They will no longer be able to interact with you anonymously on that post and all future posts."
In short, it makes people feel like they aren't good enough.
As for your situation, I don't think she seems like the kind of person you should be dating (if you want to at all). Her pressuring you to go out with her, especially after a break, is a bad sign. Also nitpicking little things like having a drink with breakfast, unless you have an issue with drinks, is also kinda iffy.
If you feel like you need time off from dating, maybe even permanently, that is your decision and you need to make it clear that it is your choice. In my opinion, I think you should try not to think in absolutes. Don't date till you're ready, if that's never great, but don't deny yourself.
It is seen as a negative thing because people will always try to force to do things that you dont like.
They see dating as the norm and expect you to be a part of it. If not, then they'll try to draw you back into the pack without caring if it makes you happy. That's the purpose of the shaming language you get like "you hate women". And calling you mgtow is a badge of honour. A real man always goes his own way. If a woman loves him truly then she'll follow him. See how that woman acted like a bitch during breakfast. That was her way of testing you on your masculinity and how much you put up with other peoples bullshit or not.
The tendency of hating what they can't have. Don't give it to them 😎 you're the ball holder now.
Good work on regaining your testacles. Never give them away. They're yours.
Your crazy female friend doesn't seem like someone, who you should give a chance but i have to agree, that liquor on a breakfast is really not cool.
I love women and i think MGTOW is ridiculous.
It is positive. Focus on yourself and don´t let others influerence you. People should stop hating on people that choose to be single. It´s not a personal attack to any gender it just means that he wants to take his time and do his own thing. By the way who pushes and pressure someone that just get out of a toxic relationship is rude. That is not cool.
If it has been months or years and you still refuse to date, then I agree that it is slightly negative unless your refusal comes from a positive place (eg focusing on work).
I just want to focus on work because it's more productive.
Because you'll end up alone with your 1000 cats who'll eat your body when you are dead
Seems a good deal honestly.
Sounds like you are trying convince yourself it's good to be single and not want to date ever again. It doesn't sound like you are trying to convince anyone else other than yourself.
I am convinced, now I'm just considering burning bridges with most people - it's safer that way.
I wish you luck and happiness then :)
Thank you!
Cats are magnificent animals
Sounds more like hurt than anything.. It wouldn't be bad if you actually just wanted to focus on betterin yoself and yo career.. But the way you word it, sounds like you just need to heal from gettin burned... Cause you say never again..
I think people automatically get defensive as a result of rejection, and it can be taken as a personal attack which can be a blow to their self esteem
it's good to focus on yourself first. but when you achieve everything what you can, you should open your heart to find someone who suit with you.
Opening the heart is a risky luxury though.
yes. but when you get older, who's going to take care of you? no wife, no child?
Don't know, people I'll pay I guess.
what if you're poor? or no one wants to do that even tho you told them you'll pay them?
I'll die alone but at least in peace and no danger.
you'll feel lonely.
My safety is more important.
no one going to kill you xdl
Killing no, exploiting and taking advantage yes.
it's because you let them before marriage. before marriage, those aren't your responsibility