Why are men such pigs?

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guys just want pornstars and sex. I get it it's in your nature and you're wired to it, but I honestly think if the dream girl you always wanted would come along you would leave your wife or girlfriend even worse cheat on her for that person. all guys want 1 thing (women can be JUST as bad I know. ) you guys follow half naked chicks on insta or social media (all I wanted was to find a guy who didn't do this. I didn't succeed because they dont exist.) I give up on true love cause it doesn't exist, cause guys want models online and want pornstars. when they see a women that's attractive they STARE even if they are married or have a girlfriend then they tell their friends who are also guys saying how hot and sexy she was. also guys love strippers and they always go to the clubs. I hope you have fun with your p0rnstars and hot ladies cause there are some amazing girls out there. (but I dont deserve one cause I'm ugly and fat, and I don't know if I'm even a good person) from what I see from guys online, in real life this is how they are. Now I'm gonna get the guys who say they aren't like that, but GUESS WHAT? THEY ALL ARE.
Oh disclaimer, women are assholes and can be worse. I just hate people in general. i am gonna be 30 waiting for the right one. I dont think I'm gonna find him now a days.. I guess getting married, having kids and growing old were stupid goals. I WANT A DECENT MAN. but nobody likes me, just like the people about to comment on this post do.. why is it like this?

backbone1 · Accepted Answer

Well I've been asked this question by many different people on many different occasions. What I feel what it boils down to is a combination of a few factors. 1 as you mentioned men are wired to look at women our main purpose on earth genetically speaking is to put as many babies in women before we kick the bucket. 2 and this is without a doubt your baising this on your own experiences with men which you acknowledge. There's plenty of committed elationships that go on for years and beyond. The only thing is that the break ups due to whatever reason gets the most attention. 3. Not all men want pornstars or stripper. I personally dont find ether attractive in the slightest just because of what they do, it's a turn off. I will admit that I can admire them in the physical not that I'd pay to see/meet them. 4. Now this is probably the most important one and may not apply to you who know, but you may have this perspective based on the type of guys you go for. I know several women who like to confide in me and complain about they're latest breakups. Most of the time the guys all tend to have the same bad tendencies with slight variations. In they're mind they're the right guy (just unbeknownst to them with the wrong intentions). With all this being said I do appreciate you taking the time to admit that women can be just as bad (Although in my opinion worse). I sincerely hope that you find the right guy for you and will be more then happy to reply to any other questions that you may have. :)

Atryn · Accepted Answer

This is hardly true, i have been posting this all day, i prefer a girl with a good personality over looks any day. When i am in a relationship i put everything into it, so i dont want a girl i don't love, im happy with or without sex with my girlfriend, i just want to be able to spend time with her, hold her and wake up next to her every morning. We both enjoy the sex that's fine but if she wanted we could stop and i would be perfectly happy because i was with her. She means the world to me and i would never in a million years think about cheating on her, i don't ever want to hurt her like that. I am 100% loyal to her, will do anything for her or let her do what she wanted to me. Decent guys do exist, seems you just haven't had any good luck and meet a lot of assholes only looking to get off. We are out there, and when we find that special girl we will do anything to keep her happy and keep the relationship going strong. She is the world to me... and i could never hurt her like that. I'm sorry you have had enough with the shitty guys but don't give up

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I hear what you’re saying. Finding someone decent and good in this world is hard. Young guys especially are wired to want sex and they chase the slutty girls and want to sext and watch porn, etc. However, not all guys are like that. If you read through the posts on this site, there are a lot of lonely guys who lament not having anyone. They don’t think any girl would want them or their penis is too small or they don’t know how to approach a girl. What you’re feeling isn’t unique. I went through several disastrous relationships before my current boyfriend. Guys would tell me they loved me while they were sleeping around behind my back. It was devastating. However, I met my current boyfriend and we clicked right away. Things have been very good for 2 years and we’re talking marriage. It can happen. What you can’t do is give up on humanity. You have to keep putting yourself out there to find someone good. I know that can be hard. My mother met my dad at 34 and had me at 36. Sometimes it happens later for some people. Don’t give up. Also, why not be proactive and ask a guy out? A lot of girls grumble about good guys not asking them out. Look for the guys who aren’t loud or confident by nature and make contact yourself. It’s scary as hell to do that but I guarantee there have been guys who have looked at you and were interested but were afraid to approach.

Horror_lover · Accepted Answer

Seriously not all guys are like tha. My dad never cheated on my mom. Guys at the gym called my dad gay just because he wouldn't look at other women, or go to strip clubs. My dad hates clubs.
My boyfriend thinks porn is stupid and he knows I want to wait til after marriage and accepts that and still wanted to be with me. I told him when I first met him and we've been together for 2 years now. He thinks the WWE diva girls are sexy which I don't mind. Hell I can name every actor or singer that is better looking than my boyfriend. He looks at other girls, I look at other guys and we will even tell each other about it because we will tease each other, because no matter what he chose me and I chose him.
You will find someone, don't give up yet.
And being " fat and ugly " isn't the reason.
My boyfriend met me when I weighed 250 pounds and I'm 4'11 so my weight really showed. I'm also not that cute and guys will still flirt with me and ask for my number. I also don't wear makeup, I wear sweatpants and sweaters. I wasn't expecting to be with anyone because I didn't want to have sex right away. I was willing to accept that I will be single but I found my dream guy.
Trust me it will happen.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"all guys want 1 thing" If a girl engages in such over-generalizations and has condemned all members of my gender, there is not much reason for me to want to be with her. Your erroneous conclusion becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. . . for you. Other women find good guys and have good relationships.

"I give up on true love cause it doesn't exist" That is your perception.

"I'm ugly and fat" Perhaps this is part of the problem. You could lose weight if you wanted to do so.

"I WANT A DECENT MAN" You have already decided that all men are indecent so why don't you give up?

btbc92 · Answer

It's not their nature. It's learned behavior. Society have screwed us up. No longer about moral godly values. Sadly when your of godly values it will leave you single in the sea of worldliness.

RobLovesDemi1234 · Answer

God you are so wrong on this I don't even know where to begin. Men don't want pornstars (trust me i know i used to talk to a lot of them and they were ALL jerks and complete liars acting like they were single when they were married and lied about it) and SOME men (not all) don't want strippers (because A LOT of strippers are ugly as fuck) so right off the bat you are dead wrong on EVERYTHING you just said. What guys want are attractive women who are loyal and who will make good mothers and NOT screw them over in a marriage. But so many guys have been burnt by women in bad marriages and unable to see their kids that they think they want pornstars and strippers because its safer BUT in reality pornstars are one of the biggest asshole type women you will encounter. I'm not going to divulge any names since i dont want a flame war or get sued for slander but the ones I used to know i dont talk to anymore because they were god damn jerks and there was a lot of them i talked to but never once fucked. as for strippers every stripper i used to see in my early 20s was ugly as hell but the waitresses were hot as fuck. Guys want an attractive woman someone that will be loyal and make a good mom to their kids. If you feel conscious about how you look do something to change it. Diet and get better eating habits and quit feeling sorry for yourself. Get a better change of clothes and appearance wise. Make your hair more desirable. Learn to respect yourself more

Rocky_Jocky57 · Answer

You sound just as bad as the men who say women aren't shit. Stop with this gender baiting shit. There will always be shitty people in the world, male and female alike. There are plenty of good fellows looking for a decent relationship and im sorry, but any non asexual male, is gonna want sex, just let him know you aren't easy and if he's willing to wait, go about it when you are comfortable.
So many men just want a decent girl as a partner, and they really don't just want sluts, it's this type of talk, that has us all pointing fingers, just get tour mindset straightened out, and nobody is obligated to be with you. Your body probs isn't the issue either. If you are unhappy, work on yourself first, before you let someone else in.

GraveDoll · Answer

My father is far from a pig. Frist man I ever loved and he help me understand a lot how the male mind works and accept things I will never understand when it comes to guys. such is life

I also have never dated a pig. Out of all the guys I have met and dated I met ONE true spawn of Satan. He still wasn't a pig though. just mean as the devil. He never cheated though.

I can not agree with any of this. Most guys are actually more forgiving towards our flaws than actually, GIRLS are. Not sure where you got this or where you dating. Why are you dating the same type?

But i love men flaws and all. They are no different from any other human.

kiddbrawlic · Answer

First off I understand what you mean some of us are pigs but not all of us. I personally just want to have a relationship built on trust and understanding. I want someone I can joke with and cuddle, watch movies and wrestle with each other. I want to send her flowers on Tuesday just because. Not all guys are assholes but it is thanks to those assholes that the good guys get pushed to the curb. i wish I can have a girl who wants the same thing I want but the truth is they are either with their true love or with the asshole so I'm shit outa luck lol

yucychan · Answer

Why are you so negative?
You based your assumptions on what you see from guys online and you assume this is what they are in real life. I'm not gonna say what you said are all untruths but I feel you are not seeing the big picture. Guys boast a lot, it doesn't mean that they're gonna do everything that they've said.
And I hope you can focus on yourself instead of berating all men. That's not helping anything.

ThatDude29 · Answer

I always fear such posts. I won't disagree with you but i know many can be pigs. Its easy to become hurtful and resentful towards men and frankly i don't blame women that do. All i can suggest is to give yourself time and focus on other things in life for now. Reading your post you actually seem like a sweet person that wore her heart on her sleeve, its normal, we all went through that. I was with a girl and we respected each other and she had no ill feelings for me even though we parted ways.

If we hate, it ends up as one vicious cycle. Use this experience to become wiser about who you choose but don't seal off your heart and become cold, we have enough of that in this world. Be strong and keep your chin up.

devilish-cutie · Answer

life is hard and we are not all lucky
but dont generalize so much - there are good people out there, guys and girls, you haven't met all of them to make such claims that all are bad
world would be far worse if everyone was so terrible as you say
" I'm ugly and fat, and I don't know if I'm even a good person" - you should focus ysf on this, try to make ysf the best version you can be, try to dedicate your life to something you like and if love happens great, if not well fuck it

little_bird1 · Answer

You have 3 choices:
1. Stay the way you are and settle with a nice guy who you're not attracted to
2. Stay the way you are and be single forever
3. Hit the gym, become hot, score a guy you're attracted to and deal with the fact that you only got him because you became what you hated.
It's just the way it is.

holograph · Answer

There are unfaithful men out there, but plenty of unfaithful women too. I know men who had kids and then got cheated on and now they're broken up and paying child support. I'm not particularly sympathetic for you when you're trashing me without knowing me, though. Work on that attitude. You won't attract a good guy with that poor an attitude. Otherwise you could try becoming asexual or homosexual.

Adam1978 · Answer

First of all any relationship where looking is forbidden is doomed from the start. No one can be hold to those standards unless you live alone in the middle of nowhere. Aslong as they keep picking you are golden. We all need to compare and see and learn otherwise how will we know that we made the right choice?

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

*hugs* its okay it will pass. You can't control a human on to staying loyal to you. When you find they done something you don't like give them the consequences. Try to live in the moment in the relationship.
Yes I won't lie men look and do things that aren't the best.

Anonymous · Answer

Title: men are pigs

Asker: “(but I dont deserve one cause I'm ugly and fat, and I don't know if I'm even a good person) ”

In a situation like that, I would work on myself and happiness. By dropping the heavy pounds, boost my confidence and be the next America’s Top Model and land a gentleman 😉😎.

tzdc21 · Answer

If you wonder why "nobody likes you" maybe it's because of the things that you say. You come on here and say men are such pigs, and say some other stuff that puts ALL men in a degrading and negative light, what do you think is gonna happen? Lol. Come on now.

6lacier · Answer

Spent all the years at school plus early 20s crushing on girls in the most innocent way imaginable. But guess what? Girls don't respond to guys like that. It's all good and well to complain that men aren't romantic and bla bla bla, but who do girls actually choose? They choose bad boy fuck bois who don't give a shit about them but are good in bed. You can't have your cake and eat it.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Please STOP your diatribe now!

There are tons of beta males who want to spoil you and even bow down and lick the fuckin crust out from between your toes. Even fat chicks can post a pic and have like 50 dudes in their inbox, ready to give them the whole Gott damm world. But those aren't the guys you women want. You want us tall, hot, dominant, player bad boys don't ya? You're laughing cuz you know I'm DAMN RIGHT!

>;-)~~<

El_Heffe · Answer

First of all you must seaze all of your self bashing as that's a glaring error. You will never find the right guy, when it's you who is responsable for yourself image. Secondly we do exist. I am the type of guy you have been looking for. I don't follow models or porn which I find ridiculous and highly sexist.

Now I am most likely way to old and way to far away. But if there is me there must be guys on your area.
Do not give up on yourself. And don't give up on finding your own.

ajjax31 · Answer

I don't agree all men are like this. I've been cheated on by every girl I've been with including the mother of my child. I prefer very, weird things sexually and I work a lot. I think it's either a chemistry attention or possibly they're just bad people but not every guy is like that. I'd leave a girl if I wanted to cheat

Nathaniel16 · Answer

Okok lets just start with bitch shut it pleaseeee you write stuff like this and the wonder why men treat women as if they’re retarded, you say that as if it’s every guy even and everyone is the same. If you ever would’ve dated you’d realize that guys are also a lottttt more flexible on their ideal girl while many girls will reject someone because they aren’t as tan as they want.. oh and I have no clue who u are cus ur ass went anonymous but fuck you... you could’ve said it in such a nicer way

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