If you're drunk and kiss or worse with someone is it cheating?

[FrenchGirl2]

Never happened to me but to a friend. The debate is on. To me it's cheating. He kissed, touched and almost slept with the girl if my friend didn't surprised him.
Kiss while drunk is cheating?
Sleep with someone while drunk is cheating?

Totally

Nah

Other

[holograph]

I believe that, while people should be free to enjoy alcohol, people should never get drunk. And if they do decide to get drunk, they need to realize a pattern of behavior that happens when they get drunk a certain level (even if they only find out because others tell them the next day). And if they're doing such things, then they need to stop drinking so much. And if they don't then, well, being drunk was no longer an excuse because they know what happens when they get drunk. If someone gets drunk for the first time in their entire life and cheats, well... maybe I'd be a little bit more forgiving. But I think that if someone gets drunk and cheats, 99.999% of the time, they've been drunk and caused problems in the past and should have known better.

[SuperManiac]

To me, anything which violates the partner's trust in a sexual way is cheating, whether it's spurred on by intoxication or mental illness or anything else. In the same sense, if someone shows up really late to work, it doesn't matter to me much what the reason for it is. Either way, they failed in their responsibility.

[SuperManiac]

I'm a bit ruthless here sometimes when it comes to accountability, but I think we have to strive to judge ourselves by our actions and the consequences they have on others regardless of the circumstances, regardless of whether we're tired or ill or upset or drunk or anything else, because there's usually something to learn, and some way to avoid making the same mistakes in the future, regardless. It's like if someone has a habit of cheating when drunk, then they could at least learn to take it easy on the drinks.

[FrenchGirl2]

You are totally right. I don't think you are ruthless

[SuperManiac]

Similarly, if someone has a mental illness like a "sex addiction" or whatever, then seek therapy and possibly medication. It can't be justified as a reason for doing these things since otherwise, the person receives a get out of jail free card to keep making the same mistakes over and over and over.

[SuperManiac]

Cheers. It's something I've learned to apply to myself. One lesson I learned that was kind of ruthless one time was that I was in a former workplace and a very loyal colleague of mine (QA guy) became chronically ill (diagnosed with type-2 diabetes). And he started showing up late to work all the time and missing it, and I felt bad for him and was willing to pick up the slack on the QA. Then they fired him eventually and I became angry. But in time I started to realize it's like he was failing in his responsibilities, and he was becoming unreliable to everyone there. I still felt bad, but these days I've come to realize like we can't get too lenient here. Even with a heavy heart, too much compassion and sympathy can start to become a bad thing that causes more net harm to others.

[FrenchGirl2]

I don't support heavy drinking. My mother is an alcoholic so I understand

[SarahsSummer]

umm, drunkenness doesn't excuse cheating. Just like accidentally sitting on a dick doesn't.

[hahahmm]

Even people who are mild sluts have the self-control not to kiss & cheat while drunk, if they want to.

Even just flirting is a form of cheating and makes you a filthy slut

[FrenchGirl2]

I personally think he is a son of a bitch who should move to an other city because if I find him he will be traumatised

[boggboss]

Yes its heating if you break the law whilst drunk are u excused?

[FrenchGirl2]

Thank you! He is like "I wasn't myself blababla" you accepted the drink that made you trashed you shouldn't be excused

[boggboss]

It's just a bullshit excuse

[FrenchGirl2]

Agreed

[jjsyke]

Contrevercial i know but being drunk enough means you have no control over what you do. As long as it means nothing and doesn't have any bearing on your actual thoughts its alright

[Guanfei]

Wrong. When you're drunk, you just have less morale limits. You just care less about the consequences or if it's good or bad. But in the end, you're always conscious and you know what you're doing.

[jjsyke]

Nah i mean plastered so you have no idea whats going on

[Guanfei]

Well then it's not drunk sex, it's rape.

[jjsyke]

If your a drunk guy? doesn't work that way.

[Guanfei]

Of course it works that way. Either you can stand and therefore you're conscious enough, or you're so wasted that you can't even stay awake. Therefore it's rape.
Rape is forced sex, so a girl could do it to.

[GreatnessBack]

What do you mean worse?
And yes, it is.

There was a time when you could have said no, like getting drunk in the first place.

[FrenchGirl2]

Having sex.
Yeah he was trashed out

[Guanfei]

Si t'es en couplé, oui. Être bourré c'est pas une excuse. En fait y'a aucune excuse pour tromper quelqu'un.

[FrenchGirl2]

Ouais bah je vais devoir consoler ma pote

[Guanfei]

Un mal pour un bien. Personne ne mérite de se retrouver avec un rat de ce genre. De là, quand elle sera passé à autre chose, elle ne pourra que trouver mieux.
En attendant, soit aussi adorable et gentille que tu l'es ici quand tu me supporte. Non, même plus que ça. Ça l'aidera à passer ce moment.

[FrenchGirl2]

Ça va ce faire avec des mojitos, de la glace et de la merde sur Netflix

[Guanfei]

Putain faut que je me trouve une fille qui me trompe, comme ça on se fait ça aussi tout les deux.

[FrenchGirl2]

T'es con 😂😂

[monkeynutts]

I'm a little old school, in the fact that sleeping in bed with another when you are in a relationship is inviting trouble, I don't think it is a good idea. I dumped a girl for doing it, we got back together but our relationship was never the same.

[Miristheiss]

Absolutely.
Being drunk or not has nothing to do with it.
I may have ended things just for going out alone and getting drunk.

[Liam_Hayden]

If you give attention to another that you have promised to your SO, then in my opinion that is cheating.

[legalboxers]

anything "Drunk" sex, kissing, hooking up is cheating

[Dongtai]

Yes. Being drunk doesn’t rob of choice.

[Fuentes]

Why would it not be cheating?

[PrettyRegular]

Yeah I think it still is.

[Anonymous]

Yes alcohol is NOT an excuse for poor judgement.

[needhelp777]

Yes it is

[Smf1989]

Any sexual act is

[Guitar97]

Nah. It’s all good.