Is kissing another person while you're in a relationship considered cheating?

[beebella]

Would you break up with someone over that? Does it just depend?

I think it counts as cheating and I would break up with someone over it

I don't think it's cheating and I wouldn't break up with someone over it

It might be low-level cheating, maybe?

It depends on things, Bee

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Obviously I mean in more of a romantic way, otherwise I wouldn't be asking this question. 😂

[sixofspades]

Yes it is, stuff like sexting, kissing someone else, sending nudes to someone else, flirting, hand holding, cuddling with someone else when you're in a relationship, is literally cheating. All those things should be reserved to the one you're committed to, with exception of family members - and I really hope the lot of you aren't doing half those things with your family fr.

you literally step out of the "just friends" boundary with that person at that moment, like now you're more than friend with one person and still in a relationship with someone else, thats literally being disloyal to the person you're with, like why even be in a relationship if you aren't going to commit to it?

If you're gonna go around kissing other people then you're not committed to the relationship you're already in and you're being disloyal - you shouldn't be in a relationship, literally simple. It's shit like this that gets good people hurt, and people who think it's okay to do that stuff need to figure themselves out tbh.

[TenderFantasy]

Some guys can be so greedy and selfish! Not to mention immature!

If some guy did that to me, he out and out like yesterday lol. That's just mean for him to want to hurt me on purpose like that. It just shows a total disrespect for my feelings. Also, what is he doing with me if he's going around being attracted to someone else? ? ! That means his attraction for me wasn't high enough or special enough. Also, I heard you can get mono kissing through kissing. What if that other person had it? ? ! And he passed it onto me? ! 😡 I'm getting angrier the more I think about this!

[MikeInHawaii]

Different level of affection are cultural. In Hawaii, I’ve been hugged by women and teenage girls when introduced to them.

A twelve-year-old girl kissed me on the cheek after not seeing me in a while. It was right in front of her mother, so I guess she’s okay with it.

[PamelaRivers]

Kisses on the cheek, especially from that age are just "friendly"

[OlderAndWiser]

Would you do it openly in front of your partner? Would you tell them about it or keep it a secret? Why?

[Apple1996]

It depends like like my Italian ass in laws kiss everyone that walks through the door. Its not cheating since it's family. And even with friends like a fun little kiss with a girlfriend no.
Having a romantic kiss with someone your attracted to, not family/friend then yes cheating.

[Kelly6]

Nicely explained
Thanks

[Kelly6]

I never see kiss as cheating

[Apple1996]

@Kelly6 I'd give you a little smooch if you came to my house 💋

[Kelly6]

I do same to every guest too 😆

[Pinay_ako]

Depends on the intention of the kiss. If it’s a friendly greeting with no malice, it’s okay. But if they’re shoving their tongues in each other’s mouths, 🤣 that’s a different story

[Pinay_ako]

@bibinare I’ve seen kiss on the cheeks as a greeting for some cultures. That is not cheating. Like I said if there’s no malice in it. However, if they’re fully making out or kiss romantic goodbye after a rendezvous, that is cheating! Even a hug could be cheating if it’s with a person you’re cheating with!!!

[GoodManDave]

Depends on intent (as well as where on the body) obviously.

Me making out with a woman (not my girlfriend or wife) at a bar... even if I was super drunk somehow... It's cheating.

"Breaks" are kind of a gray area. Personally, I would wait until a full breakup. I would even wait a few weeks or months after a full breakup so that it's not assumed that either person is involved while in a relationship (and hell, just to be alone and process things). But I can get how some would not view it as cheating.

[trumpets310]

I would dump her.
My then-gf kissed another guy while we were dating (back in high school). I was upset but didn't dump her right away because I told myself it could be fixed, but then she just cheated on me again. If someone cheats at all, they're not trustworthy

[peedy]

Im not going to vote on this but ill give you my opinion
In many cultures it common to give a kiss as a means of saying hello but that isn't the case in ours we reserve the kiss for the ones we our closest to, and there are different kisses a quick peck on the cheek vs a long passionate
tongue lashing etc
Its not the kiss its the meaning behind the kiss thar you are questioning i dont know what happened or the meaning behind the kiss you're referring to only you know that and in the end are you going to be honest with yourself and you partner or lie and hide it
What kind of person do you want to be your the only one that can answer your question/pole

[anon1903]

Obviously! Sexual or romantic — kissing someone who's not your partner is cheating.

But, there can be an exception. Say, if somebody else came onto my partner. If they didn't push them away, we'd have a problem but if they did, I wouldn't break up.

[Whatever2929292]

I have to say that depends. Kissing a family member... unless there is weird shit going on then no that is not cheating. Kissing a friend platonically some people just do that nothing romantic depends.

A romantic or sexual kiss... That is cheating

[Ninania]

Depends on the agreement you have with your spouse. Cheating is whatever breaks the contract of the relationship - meaning it's something you agree on upon entering the relationship. Some people seem to think there are rules set to follow in any relationship, but truth is it should be negotiated every time to set expectations and be sure you want the same things.

[Blackcosmo]

Romantically then yes it's cheating. If it's like a friendly peck on the cheek as friends it's fine but on the lips is a major red flag.

[Xoirwinkan]

I do think that's cheating, because that's a level of intimacy that you don't have with just anyone. That's why a handshake isn't cheating, while caressing is. It's not the specific act of sex that is cheating in my opinion, but the decision to allow yourself to perforate you normal boundaries of social distancing with someone else than your partner. I'd say hugging is justifiably questionable.

[Hanrej]

It depends on what you've agreed upon. People usually don't talk these things through wich is just dumb. They assume everyone reasons the same way they do until they themselves find themselves in a situation where they may have cheated.
Set the rules and if later down the line you feel different or want somthing else, talk and set new rules. The key is talking and agreeing.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Totally depends if you feel you need to hide it from them, if so... then yeah. If I kissed someone then went and told my husband about it and he was like, wow cool... I don't think that would be considered cheating.

[Anonymous]

There are different gradations of cheating. For me once you fool around with the genitals that’s the point of no return.

Kissing is bad but might be forgiven depending on the circumstances. It really depends what my partners attitude is about it. If they like act like they made no mistake then that blatantly means they have no respect for me. It’s dumping time if that’s the case

[SaartjieJane]

Yes I would. I don’t care if it was “just a friend” and “nothing serious”. You best bet believe I’ll dumb a guy the second he kisses someone else. Don’t even care if he “jokingly” kisses one of his guy friends or something.

[IveGotNoName]

The meaning of the word "cheating" isn't consistent for specific instances. In some relationships an arm around someone else's shoulder is cheating, in other's, sex isn't even cheating. Cheating is whenever you've done something with someone who isn't your partner that you feel you need to hide from them.

[SkyCastle90]

Depends on the type of relationship. If the relationship is mutually monogamous, of course it's cheating; if it's polyamorous, then you just got to communicate with your partner.

[uniquelyseasoned]

That’s all I’ve done and I’m married. I definitely consider it cheating. I get the thrill but it’s very disrespectful to my partner. And if he were to have kissed someone else I’d definitely consider it cheating as well. More difficult to leave when married but if we were dating, I would have left before I kissed another just like I would leave if he did.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Definitely cheating. Depending on your relationship it may not be the reason you break up, but it'll definitely start some fights and possibly mean a trip to the marriage shrink's office.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If it was something silly, like a bunch of work friends getting trashed. I don't know it's literally just a kiss.

I care less about the action and more about the meaning.

[Guy13]

I would be disappointed BUT I would want to know. There's ALWAYS a 50/50 happening in these things. "Give me a chance" to fix... I don't know if this makes sense.