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Why did he make me pay for drinks on our first date? (Page 2)
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Women are asked out on dates more often than men and they are also paid less on average. Therefore, it is fair for a man to pay the tab. But, it is not really gender, the one who makes more money should treat because it less impact overall. If all is equal, share the tab. You should do whatever you do, with a discussion first. .. ie. I will get the first round, the next is on you, okay?
I think there's only one problem.
You don't like him, so don't look for any further excuse.
You have to accept he is not the right one and go on.
There's no need to hear from someone that he is wrong
I'm sorry, I think I was pretty rude.
Just don't insist on someone if you don't feel really confortable with that person.
I did the same mistake.
I was meant to be just an advice but said pretty rude, sorry.
You weren’t rude at all 😃 x Thank you for your reply x
He made you pay for drinks on your first date because he's cheap. The only reason to let a girl pay for drinks on the first date, would be if she is a heavy drinker, and just won't stop. You don't have an obligation to pay for someone to get drunk on a first date.
Honestly chivalry should have been exercised here.
Anytime I ask a woman to join me to any venue I expect to pick up the tab. It's kind of a courtship thing. If you can show that you have the ability to take care of yourself and her then your chances increase exponentially. If not then probably had no business asking anyone out. Besides he probably sleeps on a sofa bed in the storage room above his parents garage or in the basement. He probably had a man bun too... lol
Some guys don't believe they should pay for both drink/meals etc. now And they DON'T have too (: they are EXPECTED too tho in most cases like yours. Maybe he just wanted a free drink.. After he saw their was no connection? Just forget about him
men should be paying for a date always, our sad gender ambiguous world is up against thousands of years of courtship
I do like when they pay for a meal / date don't get me wrong (': BUT i meant they don't technically "have" too i feel like they should forsure tho pay for the 1st date (imo)
Unless im dating a closet feminist im opening the door for her, pullin out her chair payin for her dinner and making he feel special.
Girls wanna feel like they are your everything and they deserve to feel that way.
Men are designed to provide and protect i have a problem with the emasculating beta role i dont wanna be ‘that guy’
Some might say girls dont like nice guys, they like jerks which is somewhat true but if you are confident, successful and a gentleman that respects your self worth thats a winning combination
Sounds like the whole picture was consistent with that jackass. For the first few dates whomever asks pays, PERIOD.
I don't know why you paid for his but there's nothing wrong with paying for your own. You're both adults, not like you're teenagers anymore.
You didn't having a good time though so at least there will be no repeats
I happen to Agree with you. If you ask a Women out, Especially on the 1st Date you should always pick up the tab. Why he acted that way? Seems he just don't Get it? Lol
Because he's either a clear ass or he didn't like what he saw and was making sure he didn't see you again. Either way his behavior is indefensible.
I wouldn't waste any more time thinking about that loser. Just consider the drinks tab a small price to pay for a big education on the kind of guy he is and move on.
I wonder why there are so many who pays for date type questions recently, like suddenly random people across the globe just start acting the same way in the same scenario or maybe y'all are just shills of this site asking repetitive trending questions again and again to drag this topic out and get some traffic
Does it matter? You had a bad date, just take it as an indicator of what type of guys to avoid in future
If he was a real gentleman, he would've offered to pay first instead of making you pay. He was a cheapskate looking for free booze.
That’s not a date, it’s a meet up. Had he connected with you he would have asked you out on a first date
Sorry but he sounds like an asshole. Don't go out with him again.
He asked YOU out. That means HE pays. Then all he does is talk about himself? Fuck that.
That's awkward. I guess he wasn't trying to impress you.
Fuck this guy. He would NOT get a good night kiss from me.
I think he should have too. Who knows though. Watch and see if he does this again, maybe he didn't think anything of it.
So basically you had a date and you paid for both, you and him?
That's absolutely not correct. I hope you have no intention of seeing him again.
Maybe a narcist, because narcist are adult selfish 3 year olds in thought life. he's probably a ongoing drunk. Maybe poor and a good lier? Next date, pay for yourself. You won't have hard feelings after wards.
Narcissist*