Guys, When would you expect a girl to sleep with you?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy and I like him and we get on well. Two dates in and we have had a good kiss and hand holding.

So the question I’m not thinking is... when will he expect me to sleep with him?

I’ve only had one boyfriend and sexual partner in my life and I am 29. I loved him and I am glad I waited.

I am very attracted to this new guy. I know there’s no right and wrong. Shall I just tell him I’m not looking to do anything with him until I know him better and see what his response is? I just feel like... even if he likes me... why should he be willing to wait when the majority of girls these days will just sleep with a guy straight away

[Anonymous]

When it comes naturally. You are having good time, both are smiling and if both are turned on, go ahead.

As far why he should wait to sleep with you, because why not? there may be many girls willing to sleep with him on day 1, and of course he is free to go to them if he wants.

[LoU_Hades]

From his perspective soon as possible.
If you want more than a short adventure let him wait a month, while dating him and showing you interest. If he is only into sex he starts to lose motivation after few dates that don't end with sex. If he really likes you, he will wait.

[Asker]

Great advice thanks. Was thinking of saying something to him so he knows I’m not gonna rush in?

[slatyb]

Wrong question. Have sex when you want to have sex. If that’s not going to be soon then tell him how you feel.

Don’t have sex because you think it will lead to commitment.

[Asker]

Hell no... I know that doesn’t work 😂 I’m thibking of just telling him it won’t be until I feel a real connection there and seeing if he runs for the hills!

[Derick529]

Usually guys wait for women to give signs of sex. Most of the time girls wait until they're very comfortable with the guy and knows him for a while, that way they know his personality. Having said that there's guy who might be expecting sex on the 2nd or 3rd date, as long as you let them know when you're ok with it (if you want to take things slow), that's what truly matters.

[ImagineSketchy]

I have never liked the phrase "sleep with". I don't sleep with people. I like my bed alone and without another in it.
By the 3rd or 4th date, it could be expected to have sex.

[BlazeCraftWorks]

When we really connected and like eachother. Mutual and deep trust and some kind of close relationship

[Pejtu]

Third date rule
No sex on the third date ok im moving on gurl

[Asker]

You’re obviously just looking for sex rather than a relationship

[Pejtu]

No u wrong but im not going to wait like 2 months because its meaby not even worth the wait

[Asker]

That’s a shame. You could be missing out on someone amazing and a wonderful connection. Is that your girlfriend in your pic?

[Pejtu]

Yes we are together since almost 2 years

[Asker]

What number date did you sleep together on? Did you not think... how many other men have been there done that with her? (A lot)

[Pejtu]

This may shock u but she was a virgin before she met me and out of 140 ish matches on Tinder she only went on a date with me
So i guess she had reasons to come drink that stupid coffe in Starbucks
I had like 87 ish matches and i only asked the girl out twice because the others were just too dumb after talking to them for like a day or two to even ask them out
On The 4 th date actually 3 weeks after we got the match

[Asker]

She was a virgin... ok I’m sure she was telling the truth and have that up on date four 😂

[Pejtu]

Yeah keep saying shit
I know it better so well all u can do is stfu at that point

[Asker]

I have lots of girlfriends and none of them lost their virginity to someone a couple of dates. That obviously might have happened for your girlfriend I’m just saying it’s highly unlikely. Girls generally value virginity highly and it’s not something they give up easily. That coupled with the fact she was swiping so much that she racked up 140+ matches says it all... sorry but it actually is unlikely

[Anonymous]

As a man I never expect to get sex from a woman. It's up to them and I will only make a move when they are comfortable. Be honest with him and don't let him force you.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Asker]

Yes I’m going to tell him on the third date that it won’t be happening until I feel a real connection? Not sure how to say it not sounding like I don’t fancy him

[Opinion Owner]

Try to get across that you thought about it and let him know that you only want to take your time and really get to know him, not that he is not appealing or anything. I hope he understands and I wish you the best of luck :)

[bamesjond0069]

You should make him wait as long as you made the 1st guy wait. Making him wait longer will make the man feel disrespected. Making him wait less time is disrespecting yourself.

[Liam_Hayden]

I never presume or expect anything when dating. other than good manners.

[COMMODOREII]

When she is comfortable with me and wants to do it.

[koifish]

If he is a good Male then he will wait until you show signs and your completely ready