What is your biggest turn off in a partner?

[EmilieL]

My ex boyfriend was comparing me and his ex girlfriend even though he was saying "you are way better than her" it was turning me off 'cause I was feeling like he can't get over her and just using me to forget about his past rs. That's the reason why we broke up, just leave the exes in the past.

[MannMitAntworten]

Till I read the body of your post I was going to go with foul oder... but damn, I have to second the being compared to an ex as well. I effing HATED that. A woman I was seeing years ago would continuously contrast me with her ex-husband. It would be all my positive characteristics she would this with and go something like, "Yeah, my ex would do the same, but he turned out to be an asshole." As if my being a certain way was going to translate to my too being an asshole. I could not take her anymore and ended things. It wouldn't surprise me if I am yet an another 'asshole' she contrast some other poor guy with. In fact, after a while of this I began to doubt whether her ex was the asshole in the relationship as she was quite a difficult woman and very critical of everyone... including her family. Which were frankly great people. Anyway, yeah, I have to agree with you.

[NYCstreetPhotog]

Now I'll admit, I don't come from the most refined upbringing, and I still make social faux pas, but my ex would constantly correct me, in front of her friends, family, and at fine dining establishments. It got so bad on one trip to visit her mother, I was so flustered I acted like an ass, inadvertantly. I understood she was trying to help, and she just wanted to make sure I made a good impression, but afterwards i told her I'd be better off if she would instruct me in private and not in front of the people I was supposed to make the good impression on.

[R_ūshī]

I didn't like him choosing football over everything.

He once wanted to wish me happy birthday at midnight and forgot to do it because he was watching football.

On the eve of his A levels, he didn't know much about math because he had shirked most of his classes (to play football). I decided to help him that night. He gave up because he had to watch football that night🤦‍♀️

[EmilieL]

Omg...

[Bloodcap790]

He's a man of culture I respect him

[StephenCF]

Goals before hoes

[R_ūshī]

@Bloodcap790 Oof

Memes is culture. Football isn meh :)

[R_ūshī]

@StephenCF I'M NOT HOES OKAAAY😤

[Cynicaldreamer]

Someone that's too passive. He agrees with everything you say or do just to keep you happy. Even if he doesn't agree with you.

Guys- it's okay to have a backbone!!!

[Bloodcap790]

Majority of the women leave is when we grow one

[edwilliams580]

I agree

[Jamie05rhs]

@Bloodcap you're right, but I think them leaving is probably a good thing in the long run.

[Hypnos0929]

You say that until a dude disagrees with you on something you think is important or says an "I told you so".

[Desconhecida]

I hear you. When someone doesn't shut up about other person or try to compare me with them

[Lynx122]

When she's too passive and I don't know what she wants. It's hard to lead when she doesn't communicate and is just looking at you expecting you to know everything. I'd rather have a "needy" girl at least I know what she wants and that she's into me and I can still say no if it beomes too much but some girls just leave everything up to the guy or only communiate in code and then are still disappointed when it doesn't work out how they wanted it. It, feels like you're swimming in an endless ocean and you have no destination it sucks to feel like that.

The second turn off is people who have no interest in new things or are just generally dull. That's about it.

[The6ix]

Yeah, I agree. When you first get to know someone and then take things further I think it's somewhat expected if someone during the beginning stages of relationship mentions "hey i love you your awesome more so then my ex". But if the person keeps bringing up their ex then yeah it's a little fishy. It's unfortunate you went through this but maybe he didn't realize what he was doing. Talk things out and then you can make that decision whether what he is saying is genuine or not, but you have to firm you don't want to hear about other girls, especially exs because like you said that's for the past.

[AiahZ]

Tie between arrogance and cruelty (to anything). No matter how handsome a guy is, an attitude or enjoying hurting things makes him loathsome to me. On the other hand, I've come to find guys my girlfriends find unattractive VERY SEXY because they were confident but humble and/or compassionate.

[Robertme]

First of all a man wouldn't try to hurt a woman that's trying to help them both move along and life together and his attitude or his outbursts and things like that I think would mitigate a little yes he might have still hate you or whatever but if a man can see that his woman is trying to help him to be better I'm better man helping him to achieve the things that he wants to achieve I believe that he would bring her along and yes he may you have some attitudes but you know what I did to changes feeling changes feeling say that if someone is helping me to to do what I want to do with my family would you think that person would just heard his name no I don't think so but then again I'm just an average man but we have some cycles out there and it just don't care they don't care how much a woman helps they don't care how much a woman's trying to take care of the house keep the house clean keep the children's dress make sure they have warming things that they need he has some mental problem and you know what she ate to kick into the curve

[Robertme]

One word respect

[AiahZ]

@Robertme "One word respect" Hear, hear!!!

[gullryvia]

What are the physical turn offs?

[AiahZ]

@gullryvia That question to me? Uh, generally speaking, I like athletic guys. (NOT big, bulky, musclebound figures, by the way.) I think that's a pretty common taste though, no? And even though I don't want to buy into stereotypes of what "masculine" is, there are ways many guys behave that really do it for me. And I don't think this is a cultural artifact b/c I've traveled to lots of different parts of the world--Asia, the Middle East, North Africa, Latin America... And there IS a way guys all over the world tend to act, carry themselves, that's different from the way we girls do. I find it very erotic.

But I don't have any immediate turn-offs I can think of. How about you? What're immediate turn offs in women for you?

[gullryvia]

What are some of the immediate turn ons about/in men according to you?
Turn off... how about Balding/bald head? Grey beard? Hairy balls and buttocks on men? Skinny built? Short height?
Just curious what's your height?

[AiahZ]

@gullryvia I'm 5'10". Kinda tall for a girl. I've never dated a shorter guy--but not because I mind. None has ever come up to me and I happen to have gravitated towards guys that are taller. Now I'm going to change that just so I'm not one of THOSE girls...

I'm not ageist. I have an innocent crush on my prof I work for this year. He's like 48 or 50... One of the most brilliant men in his field. He's married. And I've been seeing this kid for the past three months--very casual--but still. I wouldn't threaten anyone else's marriage or relationship. But I know I don't exclude guys b/c of their age. Well, they have to be over 18. And I don't mean to stereotype, but I prefer mature guys, so they're usually older than me. I don't want to feel like a big sister...

Other than those, no, I don't think I have categorical turn-offs. OK, being very large. That's a sensitive one in the US because so many Americans are overweight. I don't know what to do about that...

Your turn.

[gullryvia]

My turn.. hmm... can you pm me... i can't since i am level one only.
by the way you are so tall scary and intimidating TBH. How short can you like a male? What's your built... skinny?
Tall ladies are so beautiful and hot but so intimidating as well 😆😔

[ohshee]

I would have done the same thing never ever do that it's about you and him and know one else make ur own moments. That's what makes you smile every day thinking about you and wanting to come home to you Not coming home to you,, to act as if ur his ex. Sorry but he's a fool

[kales96]

In my opinion: a turnoff in a guy would be drugs and someone who smokes. Mine uses psychedelic drugs only. Not any others. None of the shit he takes are addictive, but I know when he’s on them and it scares me enough to a point where I told him “look I love you, but I don’t want you being on drugs when you are with me” he also smokes which bothers me too

[brendon76]

I agree that’s a pretty big turn off for me as well. I prefer not to hear anything about the ex. It’s in the past and I feel it should stay there. There are always pluses and minuses, and many differences but we don’t all need to hear them. I had an ex who did the opposite by trying to tell me how much better she was than my previous girlfriend and that was just as much a turn off.

[nomadia]

I understand your view. Women don't like being compared to an ex. Men do it all the time but we don't need to know. This raises a red flag that he may be still dealing with hurt from the past. He may not even know himself. But always being told and compared to an ex is a red flag.

[BadzGoneGoodz]

I hate liars! Especially when they make you feel your crazy for assuming your gut instincts and make you feel bad to find out there cheating and your assumptions were right the whole time to show no remorse fuck you jeanna fratus

[soleil2666]

I try not to partner up with anyone where there are ANY turn-offs.
Obnoxiousness of any kind is an obvious no go - the primadonna/I am fabulous look at me types.
For a more normal girl, the usual turn off is her obsession with her friends and their opinions/approvals (as soon as she wants one I think she has no idea who she is nor what she wants - and I am never trying to impress a group/loathe group-approval bs (even if they were to be approving, why would they be in my bed?))

[GonegirlInterupted]

Yea. No one likes being compared to exes, but my biggest turn off personality wise is cockiness and superiority complexes. Appearance wise is definitely bad hygiene. But I get what you mean! Don't compare me to anyone!

[Ephermerallhama]

I think a lack of trust or overtly exerting control or just being way too possessive or jealousy would be major turn offs. People are sometimes just too different and they'll only realise it once the whole "magic of love" filter fades, that's the reason why I would prefer something slow and long term rather than brisk and chaotic.

[HikerDude]

Clueless arrogance. I was hooking up with this girl in college who was about 25 pounds overweight, and she actually thought she was more attractive than most of the girls in her dorm. I told her to lose weight before she even tried to compare herself to fit girls.

[R4vedave]

Bigotry, rudeness, egotistical behavior, smoking cigarettes, hard drugs (I. e meth, heroin, crack), or incompatible music tastes.

[ThisAndThat]

What is my biggest turn off? My biggest turn off is the consequences I could end up facing if I dated in a system that's against men. Therefor I don't have a partner and I won't have either under oppressive laws in a male oppressive system. That's the whole reason I've been a MGTOW monk for the last 33 years and will remain one.

[Sir_Flerrin]

Well played, I must commend you on your conviction and willpower I can only assume it was a lot of hard work for that sort of strength, although I don't agree with you or at the very least not yet.

[ThisAndThat]

@Sir_Flerrin Yeah it wasn't easy considering my attraction to the opposite sex never knowing a time I wasn't pulled to them and I can remember being in my crib literally wanting out. According to GAG, your INFO I was your age when I went MGTOW Monk long before the acronym existed. I was cheated on by the second girl in my life after putting up with the first as long as I could, the second one's mother and aunt putting her up to cheating and her doing it because they thought someone else had more money than I did. So I decided to go my own way 33 years ago. I had always wanted and intended on still having a family of my own one day. But then about a year and a half ago I was introduced to all the misandry against us, the Metoo Killallmen Castrateallmen etc etc. I've seen the TV host agreeing with our mistreatment and the women in their audience cheering it on. Then considering men have no rights, not believed, while women despite their constant lying are always believed, the fake propaganda rape culture, the courts rigged against us, my dignity was stolen, I considered all these things to make my decision as a MGTOW Monk a permanent life long decision. Like other men that are literally millions, I have decided to make my move to the east and get out of the western countries for good. And even then, most likely I will remain a MGTOW Monk 4 Life. Beware, the entire western system is against men and that means you too. Read Isaiah 4:1 and Isaiah 13:12. That's MGTOW taking place no doubt about it, that's the future of the west right there.

[winterfox10]

A woman who is too dependent on her friends' opinions.

[Synikal]

Someone who clearly values what her friends or fans think but never what I think. U happy with me. I'm not putting u in a bad shape or anything. Clearly looking out for u making. Enjoying us. But u decide u have a world to please. There is a reason why being wanted FEEDS the ego and being needed FEEDS the soul. Ur not dating fans. Ur dating me. Personal experience. But yes. Sorry question hit heart strings.

[CandyCaneZoe]

I hate arrogance. When they think they know everything or how it should be.

[WCBD4U]

Ego/ too much pride to admit when she's wrong. Excuses.

[Rapidash]

Smoking, recreational drugs... just killing your own body is a bit unattractive... and many other things but they are more complex and cannot he a definite turn off without some sort of context.