What is your biggest turn off in a partner?

[EmilieL]

My ex boyfriend was comparing me and his ex girlfriend even though he was saying "you are way better than her" it was turning me off 'cause I was feeling like he can't get over her and just using me to forget about his past rs. That's the reason why we broke up, just leave the exes in the past.

[MannMitAntworten]

Till I read the body of your post I was going to go with foul oder... but damn, I have to second the being compared to an ex as well. I effing HATED that. A woman I was seeing years ago would continuously contrast me with her ex-husband. It would be all my positive characteristics she would this with and go something like, "Yeah, my ex would do the same, but he turned out to be an asshole." As if my being a certain way was going to translate to my too being an asshole. I could not take her anymore and ended things. It wouldn't surprise me if I am yet an another 'asshole' she contrast some other poor guy with. In fact, after a while of this I began to doubt whether her ex was the asshole in the relationship as she was quite a difficult woman and very critical of everyone... including her family. Which were frankly great people. Anyway, yeah, I have to agree with you.

[NYCstreetPhotog]

Now I'll admit, I don't come from the most refined upbringing, and I still make social faux pas, but my ex would constantly correct me, in front of her friends, family, and at fine dining establishments. It got so bad on one trip to visit her mother, I was so flustered I acted like an ass, inadvertantly. I understood she was trying to help, and she just wanted to make sure I made a good impression, but afterwards i told her I'd be better off if she would instruct me in private and not in front of the people I was supposed to make the good impression on.

[R_ūshī]

I didn't like him choosing football over everything.

He once wanted to wish me happy birthday at midnight and forgot to do it because he was watching football.

On the eve of his A levels, he didn't know much about math because he had shirked most of his classes (to play football). I decided to help him that night. He gave up because he had to watch football that night🤦‍♀️

[EmilieL]

Omg...

[Bloodcap790]

He's a man of culture I respect him

[StephenCF]

Goals before hoes

[R_ūshī]

@Bloodcap790 Oof

Memes is culture. Football isn meh :)

[R_ūshī]

@StephenCF I'M NOT HOES OKAAAY😤

[Cynicaldreamer]

Someone that's too passive. He agrees with everything you say or do just to keep you happy. Even if he doesn't agree with you.

Guys- it's okay to have a backbone!!!

[Bloodcap790]

Majority of the women leave is when we grow one

[edwilliams580]

I agree

[Jamie05rhs]

@Bloodcap you're right, but I think them leaving is probably a good thing in the long run.

[Hypnos0929]

You say that until a dude disagrees with you on something you think is important or says an "I told you so".

[Desconhecida]

I hear you. When someone doesn't shut up about other person or try to compare me with them

[Lynx122]

When she's too passive and I don't know what she wants. It's hard to lead when she doesn't communicate and is just looking at you expecting you to know everything. I'd rather have a "needy" girl at least I know what she wants and that she's into me and I can still say no if it beomes too much but some girls just leave everything up to the guy or only communiate in code and then are still disappointed when it doesn't work out how they wanted it. It, feels like you're swimming in an endless ocean and you have no destination it sucks to feel like that.

The second turn off is people who have no interest in new things or are just generally dull. That's about it.

[The6ix]

Yeah, I agree. When you first get to know someone and then take things further I think it's somewhat expected if someone during the beginning stages of relationship mentions "hey i love you your awesome more so then my ex". But if the person keeps bringing up their ex then yeah it's a little fishy. It's unfortunate you went through this but maybe he didn't realize what he was doing. Talk things out and then you can make that decision whether what he is saying is genuine or not, but you have to firm you don't want to hear about other girls, especially exs because like you said that's for the past.

[AiahZ]

Tie between arrogance and cruelty (to anything). No matter how handsome a guy is, an attitude or enjoying hurting things makes him loathsome to me. On the other hand, I've come to find guys my girlfriends find unattractive VERY SEXY because they were confident but humble and/or compassionate.

[Robertme]

First of all a man wouldn't try to hurt a woman that's trying to help them both move along and life together and his attitude or his outbursts and things like that I think would mitigate a little yes he might have still hate you or whatever but if a man can see that his woman is trying to help him to be better I'm better man helping him to achieve the things that he wants to achieve I believe that he would bring her along and yes he may you have some attitudes but you know what I did to changes feeling changes feeling say that if someone is helping me to to do what I want to do with my family would you think that person would just heard his name no I don't think so but then again I'm just an average man but we have some cycles out there and it just don't care they don't care how much a woman helps they don't care how much a woman's trying to take care of the house keep the house clean keep the children's dress make sure they have warming things that they need he has some mental problem and you know what she ate to kick into the curve

[Robertme]

One word respect

[AiahZ]

@Robertme "One word respect" Hear, hear!!!

[gullryvia]

What are the physical turn offs?

[AiahZ]

@gullryvia That question to me? Uh, generally speaking, I like athletic guys. (NOT big, bulky, musclebound figures, by the way.) I think that's a pretty common taste though, no? And even though I don't want to buy into stereotypes of what "masculine" is, there are ways many guys behave that really do it for me. And I don't think this is a cultural artifact b/c I've traveled to lots of different parts of the world--Asia, the Middle East, North Africa, Latin America... And there IS a way guys all over the world tend to act, carry themselves, that's different from the way we girls do. I find it very erotic.

But I don't have any immediate turn-offs I can think of. How about you? What're immediate turn offs in women for you?

[gullryvia]

What are some of the immediate turn ons about/in men according to you?
Turn off... how about Balding/bald head? Grey beard? Hairy balls and buttocks on men? Skinny built? Short height?
Just curious what's your height?

[AiahZ]

@gullryvia I'm 5'10". Kinda tall for a girl. I've never dated a shorter guy--but not because I mind. None has ever come up to me and I happen to have gravitated towards guys that are taller. Now I'm going to change that just so I'm not one of THOSE girls...

I'm not ageist. I have an innocent crush on my prof I work for this year. He's like 48 or 50... One of the most brilliant men in his field. He's married. And I've been seeing this kid for the past three months--very casual--but still. I wouldn't threaten anyone else's marriage or relationship. But I know I don't exclude guys b/c of their age. Well, they have to be over 18. And I don't mean to stereotype, but I prefer mature guys, so they're usually older than me. I don't want to feel like a big sister...

Other than those, no, I don't think I have categorical turn-offs. OK, being very large. That's a sensitive one in the US because so many Americans are overweight. I don't know what to do about that...

Your turn.

[gullryvia]

My turn.. hmm... can you pm me... i can't since i am level one only.
by the way you are so tall scary and intimidating TBH. How short can you like a male? What's your built... skinny?
Tall ladies are so beautiful and hot but so intimidating as well 😆😔

[ohshee]

I would have done the same thing never ever do that it's about you and him and know one else make ur own moments. That's what makes you smile every day thinking about you and wanting to come home to you Not coming home to you,, to act as if ur his ex. Sorry but he's a fool

[kales96]

In my opinion: a turnoff in a guy would be drugs and someone who smokes. Mine uses psychedelic drugs only. Not any others. None of the shit he takes are addictive, but I know when he’s on them and it scares me enough to a point where I told him “look I love you, but I don’t want you being on drugs when you are with me” he also smokes which bothers me too

[brendon76]

I agree that’s a pretty big turn off for me as well. I prefer not to hear anything about the ex. It’s in the past and I feel it should stay there. There are always pluses and minuses, and many differences but we don’t all need to hear them. I had an ex who did the opposite by trying to tell me how much better she was than my previous girlfriend and that was just as much a turn off.

[nomadia]

I understand your view. Women don't like being compared to an ex. Men do it all the time but we don't need to know. This raises a red flag that he may be still dealing with hurt from the past. He may not even know himself. But always being told and compared to an ex is a red flag.

[BadzGoneGoodz]

I hate liars! Especially when they make you feel your crazy for assuming your gut instincts and make you feel bad to find out there cheating and your assumptions were right the whole time to show no remorse fuck you jeanna fratus

[soleil2666]

I try not to partner up with anyone where there are ANY turn-offs.
Obnoxiousness of any kind is an obvious no go - the primadonna/I am fabulous look at me types.
For a more normal girl, the usual turn off is her obsession with her friends and their opinions/approvals (as soon as she wants one I think she has no idea who she is nor what she wants - and I am never trying to impress a group/loathe group-approval bs (even if they were to be approving, why would they be in my bed?))

[GonegirlInterupted]

Yea. No one likes being compared to exes, but my biggest turn off personality wise is cockiness and superiority complexes. Appearance wise is definitely bad hygiene. But I get what you mean! Don't compare me to anyone!

[Ephermerallhama]

I think a lack of trust or overtly exerting control or just being way too possessive or jealousy would be major turn offs. People are sometimes just too different and they'll only realise it once the whole "magic of love" filter fades, that's the reason why I would prefer something slow and long term rather than brisk and chaotic.

[HikerDude]

Clueless arrogance. I was hooking up with this girl in college who was about 25 pounds overweight, and she actually thought she was more attractive than most of the girls in her dorm. I told her to lose weight before she even tried to compare herself to fit girls.

[R4vedave]

Bigotry, rudeness, egotistical behavior, smoking cigarettes, hard drugs (I. e meth, heroin, crack), or incompatible music tastes.

[ThisAndThat]

What is my biggest turn off? My biggest turn off is the consequences I could end up facing if I dated in a system that's against men. Therefor I don't have a partner and I won't have either under oppressive laws in a male oppressive system. That's the whole reason I've been a MGTOW monk for the last 33 years and will remain one.

[Sir_Flerrin]

Well played, I must commend you on your conviction and willpower I can only assume it was a lot of hard work for that sort of strength, although I don't agree with you or at the very least not yet.

[ThisAndThat]

@Sir_Flerrin Yeah it wasn't easy considering my attraction to the opposite sex never knowing a time I wasn't pulled to them and I can remember being in my crib literally wanting out. According to GAG, your INFO I was your age when I went MGTOW Monk long before the acronym existed. I was cheated on by the second girl in my life after putting up with the first as long as I could, the second one's mother and aunt putting her up to cheating and her doing it because they thought someone else had more money than I did. So I decided to go my own way 33 years ago. I had always wanted and intended on still having a family of my own one day. But then about a year and a half ago I was introduced to all the misandry against us, the Metoo Killallmen Castrateallmen etc etc. I've seen the TV host agreeing with our mistreatment and the women in their audience cheering it on. Then considering men have no rights, not believed, while women despite their constant lying are always believed, the fake propaganda rape culture, the courts rigged against us, my dignity was stolen, I considered all these things to make my decision as a MGTOW Monk a permanent life long decision. Like other men that are literally millions, I have decided to make my move to the east and get out of the western countries for good. And even then, most likely I will remain a MGTOW Monk 4 Life. Beware, the entire western system is against men and that means you too. Read Isaiah 4:1 and Isaiah 13:12. That's MGTOW taking place no doubt about it, that's the future of the west right there.

[winterfox10]

A woman who is too dependent on her friends' opinions.

[Synikal]

Someone who clearly values what her friends or fans think but never what I think. U happy with me. I'm not putting u in a bad shape or anything. Clearly looking out for u making. Enjoying us. But u decide u have a world to please. There is a reason why being wanted FEEDS the ego and being needed FEEDS the soul. Ur not dating fans. Ur dating me. Personal experience. But yes. Sorry question hit heart strings.

[CandyCaneZoe]

I hate arrogance. When they think they know everything or how it should be.

[WCBD4U]

Ego/ too much pride to admit when she's wrong. Excuses.

[Rapidash]

Smoking, recreational drugs... just killing your own body is a bit unattractive... and many other things but they are more complex and cannot he a definite turn off without some sort of context.

[something_memorable]

Hypersexual. I've got a pretty low drive and most of the time i just want to kiss and cuddle. I dont want 3somes and sex swings and spit fetishes ffs😷 im vanilla and i hate sprinkles

[gullryvia]

Sex once a month is enough?

[something_memorable]

@gullryvia probably. Its not routine like that but no i dont want sex very often.

[Lmmm326]

Someone who cheats and then lies about it, especially when I can tell they are lying

[Coloradomtnman2]

I absolutely can’t stand jealousy in a partner. Talking about an ex comes in second as I find it terribly annoying

[purplepoppy]

To much excess bodyfat.
Over confident of his own ability to the point of delusion.
strong Religious beliefs.
Being a vegetarian.
And of course a tiny penis.

[Snickermarstwix]

When they fall in love me too quickly just because I'm not an asshole like all the guys she dated before so I'm like : It's normal to be respectful.
Make me think they love an idea of me, not me.

[SydneySentinel]

Laziness, selfishness

[jackfalcon94]

Preach it.. was just seeing a girl for 7 months and every. single. day she talked about her ex and compared me to him whilst saying I was twice the man he is... it still put me WAY off... you done the right thing.. go date a MAN

[Cherokeehp]

I can’t stand liars. Even if it’s something small. Why lie? If people told the truth then problems would get solved much faster.

[Browneye57]

Lying and cheating. Comparing doesn't even register, for YOU are with him now, not HER.

[Sarahr123]

I am so jealous that I’d get jealous an ex was even there so to be compared I would go fucking mental

[funkit46]

Lol easy meow 😂

[ChillMatic]

Dishonesty. I don’t think there is ever a reason to bring up an ex unless asked.

[serious]

I have always been single. I wish to remain single for life and hence this question won't apply to me.

[Clarke498]

Being too serious. People that get offended by the dark comedy i love, and not being able to talk to about anything without it being turned as an attack back. People that can't have fun, i'd stop it in minutes.

[hollyeood69]

I had a girl who didn't brush her teeth or take a shower for weeks.. that was fucked up.. I couldn't even kiss your with passion

[MyExperience]

So essentially, you broke up with a guy for complimenting you. Good job. Smh.

[EmilieL]

You don't know the whole story and also I can't take it as a compliment. It would be compliment if only he say "you are good" without including his ex

[SueAnon84]

You're right we don't know the whole story (you didn't give enough details and yes you really don't have to)... but I wasn't sure either whether you were just being too sensitive (my opinion?) and insecure? Or there really were other things going on in your union. Only you would know! And unfortunately, you can be with and not be with anyone for any reason you see fit! I am thinking though that maybe you could have talked to him more about your worries? Maybe he thought he was complimenting you, but if not, then hey...

[MyExperience]

Sorry but you only shared the reason for the breakup being his comment. And sure, Good is good but better than good is better and better can only come from some type of comparison.

[EmilieL]

@SueAnon84s I didn't even ask any questions to him about his past relationships but every time we meet our topic was always his ex girlfriend so I was so fed up with this I told him so many time that "I want to talk about us me and you not you and her" but he just didn't stop so I moved on. It's not about jealousy or being insecure think like you have a boyfriend but only thing you chat about is him and another girl I bet you wouldn't like it too... And he didn't have to compare me with someone else to compliment me.

[SueAnon84]

Oh dang! Well then better luck next time! :)

[Lunatic1]

Excessively talking about their ex or a lack of faith.

[Danny_dan92]

https://imgur.com/a/m0Gc74j

[EmilieL]

Sorry it's not opening

[Danny_dan92]

Sorry

[EmilieL]

What was it?

[Danny_dan92]

Me saying the things that are a turn off for me

[ShebaDiamond]

A male feminist or A man who thinks im equal to him.

[Cowboy6666]

very rude, racist girls are huge turn off for me.. also bad hygiene matters

[SwordShield]

I'd say being overbearing, controlling, and manipulating. Physical violence and constant insults aren't good either. I don't like people with fake personalities either.

[Nelson767]

At 103 years of age I can understand why you are scared of physical violence just a tap on your shoulder would probably shatter all of you skeletal bones.
As for fake personalities I haven't read your profile I'm still laughing 😂😂😂 at your age

[SwordShield]

@Nelson767 Bruh please end my life bruh bruh I look like skeletor but a lot skinnier and my dick is rotting

[Cloudsofnevermore]

He sounds like a douchebag. For me is lack of intelligence in a woman

[ivbnlknfru]

Absolutely, live in the present the past is over and so is she...

[Jansetta]

Not being communicative and loving and not willing to compromise in the relationship.

[JSmuve]

Probably a bitchy attitude and all that it encompasses.

[User_Friendly]

He said it once or twice? Or like his go to line? Lol

[EmilieL]

He said it all theee timee lol

[AJC997]

I guess being too short is one though I really don’t want to sound shallow. Also being hateful or judgmental and not having a car or money or goals for the future.

[Little_Meeee]

Being too short?

[KingLucho502]

For me it's a turn off when she doesn't have a good mouth hygiene.

[Texaskid1]

Bad breath.

And it sucks even more if she is hot.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The one I had anger problems, don't ever want that ever again.

[terrancemac34]

That is exactly right, some bonds can't be broken even if they are not together.

[funkit46]

10 second tommies
Motherfukers not real sure what planet their on!

[excusememiss]

What is a 10 second tommie? I've never heard of the phrase before haha

[EmilieL]

@excusememiss Me tooo I really don't get it lol

[funkit46]

First 50 dates 10 second Tommy

[funkit46]

Flighty people that can't hold a conversation

[PierreOde]

Neediness or Jealousy.
I don't need some to constantly crave my attention.
As for jealousy, if I can't talk to others without them getting jealous, it's a big turn-off and a deal breaker.

[COMMODOREII]

Yeah that's crazy. I never compare my current partners with my exs.

[ezale27]

Dirty, trashy, cold, very selfish, lazy all the time, sex addict and a pervert.

[CoolHoney]

being stupid , lier , smoker. it because my last ex boyfriend did fool me. I through he was good but turn be cheating scumbag

[DashboardLight]

''Being stupid'' is kind of a broad concept :P

[CoolHoney]

@DashboardLight being too dumb to know the difference

[Anonymous]

Possessiveness and anger outbreaks over nothing special.

[Anonymous]

Them being too clingy and thinking that because you're in a relationship with them that nothing should be private. Well if that's the case then don't tell me to look away when you're getting dressed!!! Glad I'm single.

[Flower7]

My biggest turn-off is arrogance.

[Beast_88]

If she's TO submissive I gotta have a girl who fights back a little

[Anonymous]

Them being married but trying to hide it.

[Nikki1998]

Been their.

[Opinion Owner]

@Nikki1998 I have as well

[Nikki1998]

I found out she has husband we we’re sleeping waking up who f are you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Nikki1998 In my case it was a guy who I was in an affair of sorts with for nearly half a year. Turns out he is living happily with his wife, only she apparently doesn't satisfy him sexually.

[Nikki1998]

Same here apparently he work overseas.

[Opinion Owner]

@Nikki1998 Made me feel used and dirty