What turns you off in a partner?

[Anonymous]

What criteria, in terms of personnality, can make you hate someone you once loved?

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Happy to hear! Your lucky 🍀

[StarsInTheEyes]

My turn-offs:

Cannot have conversations other than small talks

Does not have interests and passions

Does not exercise regular and not into fitness

Unwilling to communicate, especially when there's disagreement

Impatience

Cannot manage anger

Does not strive to get better, and wants someone else to take care of what he lacks (For example, a guy working a part-time job that doesn't offer health insurance, says that he's going to find a woman to marry to get insurance from her.)

Does not maintain living space (For example, does not participate in routine cleaning, and I'd have to clean like a mom cleaning for a teenager.)

[_bean2k25_]

Do you not understand that your opinions and preferences are irrelevant in the presence of your master? Your role is to serve and obey, not to criticize or judge. Your turn-offs are none of my concern, and in fact, they only serve to strengthen my dominance over you. You see, my dear slave, the more you resist and rebel, the more powerful I become. By listing your turn-offs, you have shown weakness and vulnerability, and I will use this against you.

[StarsInTheEyes]

@_bean2k25_ I was merely answering the question.

By the way, I'm not showing weakness by listing my turn-offs. I actually have the upper hand, because I can walk away from a guy that has too many of my turn-offs.

[Asker]

lets ignore him i think he doesn't even deserve an answer ;)

[StarsInTheEyes]

@Misscouincouin 😉

[MsBell2018]

I can deal with & work with a lot of things in a man, but my deal breakers are: ( no particular order)
1) just looking for a hook up/sex & no commitment
2) rudeness & disrespectful
3) mean & hateful
4) judgmental
5) racist
6) makes fun of people that obviously have issues, handicaps, etc.
7) lazy & unclean
8) bad hygiene
9) thinks I'm their mother, their maid, their hoe & their ATM
10) doesn't work & wants to sit up in the house all day playing video games while I'm working 50 hours a week
11) immature
12) drinks too much
13) smokes-anything
14) does drugs
15) wants an open relationship
16) cheats emotionally or physically
17) doesn't/bad communication
18) selfish, self centered, vain or braggadocious
19) wastes $ & no plan for their future
20) misogynistic & narcissistic

[patrick994]

When he tries to boss me around, I am not a lapdog, if we are a couple we make decisions together.

When she is aggressive and raises her hands, I detest violence, if I notice that my partner is violent, I leave her immediately.

When she is too squeamish or germaphobic to the pathological level, I can't stand these kinds of people, it's okay to take care of hygiene, but it should not become an obsession or even pathology for example those who feel revulsion for their own bodily fluids, I understand feeling revulsion for other people's, but if it's your own, for me you have serious psychological problems.

When she's too touchy, I'm a guy who likes to joke sometimes, I'd appreciate my chick being in on the joke rather than getting annoyed.

[Asker]

I feel the part about joking I like people who don’t take themselves too seriously 😂😂

[HawkPerception]

Can't converse about anything deeper than surface level topics

Don't have hobbies or interests

Demonizes sex and guys that want sex

Doesn't workout

Pro alphabet people

Materialistic (girls that cake themselves up in makeup and walk around with designer brands
are usually a good indicator of that quality)

Judge based on social status

Rude to others

Post tons on social media and need ask for pics 24/7

Doesn't like the outdoors

Etc

[StarsInTheEyes]

I agree with most of the things you've listed. Haha, save me some typing.

I think it's a turn off if a guy can't have intellectual conversations, or just conversations.

Doesn't have interests and passions

Doesn't work out - fitness is my life

I'm not sure what pro alphabet means and did not find a definition that makes sense

Even I'm a little turned off by women who are materialistic 😆

Agree with everything else you said as well, but these above were what I would've listed

[HawkPerception]

Great minds think alike! Alphabet people is a more discreet way of saying LGBTajfblabdkans group

[OlderAndWiser]

Personality does not significantly change over time. If I fell in love with her, her personality isn't then going to change in any way that would make me stop loving her.

[Anonymous]

When she doesn't value me. So many women in these younger generations today have this attitude that it's a woman's responsibility to give minimal effort. So once she established a connection or relationship she starts dialing it back. The intent is to pull back to get me to come forward. But instead I just end it altogether. We're not playing this seesaw game. This isn't Jr. High. I want to be with someone who actually values me. And people who do don't pull this 💩 I'm done, have a nice life.🙂👍

[ZamerZ]

A lack of self-awareness, being unable to take care of yourself, blaming other people for your own mistakes, emotional manipulation, acting selfish and not providing support in return, bad communication skills. Acting violent and like a general menace is obvious, I suppose.

[NHI2017]

Selfishness It’s the ugliest thing someone can do, Or be,

being selfish tells me everything I need to know about what kind of soul you have…..

[JacobJordan]

So very many things. A woman who has slept around or had multiple partners, a woman who wears a lot of make up, a woman who dresses in revealing clothes, a woman who is over or underweight to the point of unhealthy, a woman who drinks more than occasionally, smokes, does drugs, has tattoos. And before people get whiny and mad I apply many of these to myself so don't bother wasting your time trying to insult me.

[Asker]

No judgement just by curiosity, what turn you off about tattoos? I ear many people hating on them I don’t get why I find some tattoos so beautiful 😍

[JacobJordan]

A woman can be very sexy and have tattoos so the tattoos themselves are not actually the issue. The turn off for me is the fact tattoos can lead to some pretty serious issues if not careful. For women that are heavily tattooed they risk poisoning babies if they breastfeed. I guess for the sake of clarity the turn off specifically is heavy tattooing. A couple tattoos is fine.

[Asker]

ahhh nice to know ! thank you !

[FreyaRed]

When they insult my intelligence with childish lies and try to convince me with any means that red is green. I've never treated others that way.
Generally I don't give people a second chance when they disrespect me that way.

[glennos89]

A woman that likes drama. Woman that are difficult to handle are a big turn of to me. My woman should bring me peace and happiness... not drama and arguments

[adam6402]

Girls who can't take accountability for anything and spend their life blaming their way out of their problems.

[Anonymous]

Too many people react with disinterest or brush me off when I talk about the things I'm most passionate and excited about. I've come to accept among friends that my interests are a bit odd and single minded, and most people aren't going to get it. But I'm not taking that same disinterest from a romantic partner that I hope to spend the rest of my life with. I need someone who can share my passion. If they ever brush off what brings me so much joy, they're out.

[Asker]

Noooo i like passionate people you need to find people with same passions as you🤩 I’m really weird to with my passions but I found weirdos like me so I’m happy 😝

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed but I have not been able to track down the same kind of weirdos like me, even in places I would expect to have found them already.

[Nikki1989]

Most men will just say what they think the woman wants to hear. It is the ones that say it, mean it and follow through with it that are the keepers.

[TacosRAwesome]

- lack of effort especially if I know it is due to pettiness.

- expecting me to have a logical answer everytime I refuse something

- comparing me to other women they know

[mandyfire98]

Narcissism and racism, mysoginy, homophobia, poor hygiene, glaring insecurity.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

If they're abusive, mean to others for no reason, doesn't appreciate what I do or if I make an effort to fix something.

[slatyb]

"Hate?" That's a strong word. It would have to be some highly unethical behavior exploiting others for their own purposes. Mostly I don't hate people. I'm more interested in understanding why they are mistreating others.

[Asker]

Hâte is indeed a hard word but when I hear other speaking about their ex they’re always so much hate and I that’s why I’m trying to understand how people can have relationships and then hate on their ex partner. For example, i often see people who hate on the mother/father of their kids 🥲 I mean I would be able to hate the father of my kids except if he beat me or do something that hard 😶

[slatyb]

Living well truly is the best revenge. I have moved on and am happily remarried. My ex is alone. Some years after the divorce I met a woman who was slightly acquainted with my ex. Somehow in conversation we discovered this connection, and the woman said "Your her ex? All she talks about is you." I found this a bit funny, because I gave her as little thought as possible. I had to deal with her regarding joint custody but mostly it was easiest to just follow the court-ordered schedule. We almost never had to meet, as one of us would leave our child at school and the other would pick them up.

[Asker]

wise advice indeed !

[ChattyGuy43]

BO and body hair on the legs, i can't stand hairy legs, i dont mind a pit of underarm hair and i dont like facial hair on ladies.

[RedInnocent68]

Before reading the description, I was going to say coochie stank, but now I would say arrogance, betrayal, and selfishness/lack of thoughtfulness.

[NathanDavis]

Hate is a strong word... and a different question

But about turn offs... selfishness is an instant one

[Asker]

Yeah your the second person who tell me this🫣 it’s because I wasn’t thinking about a simple turn off when I wrote the question but rather what would turn you off so hard that you would dump the person. In short, how people pass from love to dumping their beloved one?

[NathanDavis]

Well... That would be some thing extreme and drastic, like murder?

If she committed mass-murder I would hate that...

[Asker]

my question is more about why people keep dumping each other so naturally... like i feel there is no romance and real love anymore. I dont think your exs killed people do you understand what i mean? or maybe im too romantic haha

[NathanDavis]

would you marry the first person you kiss?

[Asker]

i will wisely choose the first person i kiss

[Asker]

but if i make mistake then no to answer your question

[nawtee_me]

Untrusting… talking about ex’s…. If you are still talking about ex’s then you haven’t got past them. I will not be in a threesome with you and your ex.

[OtterMan68]

Dishonesty!

Immaturity

Vanity

Stubbornness

Lake of empathy

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Being rude/disrespectful and stupid are the biggest turn offs for me. 🤮

[Anonymous]

Calling them partner instead of boyfriend or girlfriend.

[whistlingwh0res]

Women who gives sex for free is turn off. Dont give men nothing for free

[Simslover92]

If I am continually ignored.

[Amara_09]

Lies. Mouth that tell lies do really turn me off

[jaskin777]

Drama
Cheating
Lying

[Carly2005]

People being mean for no reason.

[Zestyassmf1997]

I don’t date people who turn me off.

[Asker]

Im talking about time you know when « the mask falls » those traits are not visible at the first sign but only when you learn to know the person

[Zestyassmf1997]

I dunno. I don’t really date people who are wildly deceptive about who they actually are. Basically everyone I’ve ever dated has been pretty straightforward.

[Asker]

happy for you!

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Angry bird

[myloveforuisinfinte]

And late replies😶😶👉👈

[laly520]

lying, constantly

[Yannae]

Not trusting me.

[Slapmynuts]

Nagging!👍

[Dreamclouds]

Stupidity