Is it a red flag if a guy asks for pics of you?

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Is it a red flag if a guy asks for pics of you?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Only if he asks for nudes

If we don't know what you look like already, it's normal to know what someone looks like.

Go to any random dating site and log in as a male and you'll see why pretty quickly. Firstly, there's the gay men pretending to be women. Then there's the morbidly obese women that will con you into wasting your time with nothing but face pics. Then you also have senior citizens using their 10 year old pics to do the same.

I don't think I'm wrong for thinking it's wrong. I don't it's a males' dealt with only problem either... notice I used the catchphrase "don't waste my time" (yeah, I've tapped into the secret language I see on females' profiles.)

To top it off, here is a story. My story. I came back to America and was looking for a partner... We talked and even video chatted. She seemed great but only later would I realize why I only seen her from the chest up. We agreed on a double date with my friend and his girlfriend.

It was a waste of time. She was a midget... not even a hawt midget... had deformed legs. To make it worse it was a trap where she tried to force me to kiss multiple times.

Finally dropped her off and my friend's girlfriend off. We were going home (friend and I lived together). I had bought a 40oz to ease my pain of failure and when I got out of the car... it fell and shattered... like my dreams of getting laid. I sobbed, I broke down, and I was shame. I was new to America and had a hard time finding love. 2 whole months of no vagina and that was it? WTF!

So my point is... ask for a full body picture for your own sake. It is very unwise to not do so.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Im voting maybe, because it depends upon intent and you may not know that, even if yo uthink you know, you probably don't really know "him". The problem with this online crap is there is just no "reality" to it... people can be fake or real, how do you know? If you are engaging for dating, then it helps to see the person. I've met someone sight unseen, but most people would never do that nor would I recommend it.

Online, I've suggested someone provide a pic, that I was talking with, but that was so I could see her expression to understand her more.. Most guys are not thinking that. They want to know if they are attracted.

There are predators out there who are nothing but bad news if not deadly dangerous. Need links as proof? If he asks for a nude, then hell no, but it's even bad if send face pic. I've heard too many stories from girls who talk out here and then start messaging and they get unsolicited pics they don't want.

To be honest, I don't think any women should have their real photos out here, only to people they've had some element of trust with. Definitely not children < 25. I define children as those who are clueless about the risks of online. And only provide a real pic to someone you choose to trust, ideally someone who doesn't ask for it but appreciates it!

There... you can't fix this social mess... it's a mess until their is some sort of authentication, history, depth representing that person and their character! go invent that.

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

Yes and no? Depends on how long have you two been knowing each other and what kind of relationship you have and you expect.

If a stranger ask you to show a photo right after talking saying hi for the first time, seems wrong for me.

If after months talking he asks, seems normal to me. This is in case of a friendship. If it's a dating app or chat they could want to see how you look sooner, in the first week. Looks matter for a romantic relationship, but not for a friendship.

If he asks for nudes without you having any type of romantic/sexual relationship agreed... I feel it's wrong. But if you two are in a dating app or chat and have been flirting a sexting for long, I think it's not weird if he ends asking for nudes. Other different thing is if you want to accept the request or not.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

In what context?

If you're on a dating site (most if not all of which require pictures in the first place), it's perfectly normal.

Otherwise, I'm not sure it's necessarily a red flag in most cases unless he's asking for nudes, but I'd still be very selective of who I sent pictures to online.

I personally would never send nudes, no matter what. I tend to go by the rule of "If you wouldn't want it on the front page of the paper, don't send it". Too many bad things can happen from sending nudes.

SpacedCharr · Answer

Not necessarily.

My current partner and I met online and had a good convo before we sent pics.

If he's asking for nudes outta the blue or his first question is about getting pics, be cautious and follow your instincts.

If he seems genuine, analyze your options. Worst case, you ghost and block and move on. Best case, you have a pic of a possible new boyfriend.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Is he asking for naked pictures?

SueShe · Answer

Not only is it a red flag, but also a total no go and for me an immediate warning that this guy is up to no good.

I immediately put up my concrete and iron walls around me and go into atomic defense mode..

If a random guy just approaches you to ask for a picture, that is certainly not so he can just hang it on his bedroom wall next to Led Zeppelin or or Mao Zedong.

No, it is usually because there is a lewd intend behind it and I certainly don't want to find my virtual self be the target for some lewd action or to find it in the depth of the internet.

ZackBan · Answer

Honestly you forgot one option, a simple "no".
It's not "being a guy" to want to see the person you're texting.
If you met online it's simply a way get an idea what the person looks like.
If you know each other in person and he asks for pics, he's just curious as to what you're doing how do you look. He most likely will complement you after getting them.
In fact I find people that are not interested in pictures more of a red flag, these people are just wasting time and clearly not interested in you.

rjroy3 · Answer

Age is a factor in my opinion. As well as how he goes about "asking". If he's just overtly asking for nudes out of context, red flag. If you're flirting over text. Maybe sexting a bit. Having him fantasize about you and what you would do to him. Then him asking makes complete sense.

Or if you're describing something to him like your outfit and he says he can't really see what you mean and asks for a picture. There are a thousand ways to inquire about a photo that make sense to do so and are not out of place at all, awkward or a red flag.

The only context I would see as a red flag is you meet and talk for 5 min. Trade numbers. Then inside of the first 20 texts he's asking for nudes. Yea, that's a red flag lol

MusicMayhem · Answer

Not necessarily. It could just be a sign that your profile is lacking enough variety of pictures to give him a sense of what you look like and who you are.

If all you have is bathroom selfies, or close ups from above he doesn't have enough information to decide if he's attracted to you physically and work out if you're a social person with a life and hobbies.

nathanp97 · Answer

It depends on when in the relationship. First date definitely read flag. A year in and you go away for a month or more I'd say that isn't. You still dont have to, but by that point you should trust eachother enough and be open enough where a question like that wouldn't end the relationship.

Screenwriter · Answer

I know people want pictures. But if you don't know someone well, it's inadvisable to give them a picture they could broadcast anywhere. If you meet for coffee and you've described yourself accurately, that should be good enough for the time being. Pictures are for later when you've established some trust.

lumos · Answer

Only if he asks for nudes and you've barely even talked or gotten to know each other. Asking for a picture of you could be harmless, he might just want to know what you're up to (if it's on snapchat or something). I'd never send nudes to a guy I'm not in a serious relationship with, and even then I prefer not doing it. If a guy asks for nudes and you're not in a serious relationship, I wouldn't take him seriously nor would I trust that he keeps my pictures to himself.

Daniela1982 · Answer

My question is where did he see you - like on a dating site - and why would he need to see pics as you would already have some on your profile or Facebook? He may start by asking to see you better but may turn into asking for nudes after a bit. I would tell him forget the pics, let's just meet in real time and you can see me from every angle except up my skirt.

MissKittyz · Answer

I don't see why it would be a red flag. Unless he is asking for a Pic of my ass or boobs after we've only known each other for a little bit. But if he wants to see my face, It is literally just a picture lol not the end of the damn world. So no, not a red flag. I'd ask pics of him as well.

btbc92 · Answer

Depends on how you feel about it. Never do that and hand anything out to strangers you don't know or trust. There are some good reasons for it. But nudes are a big no no. Do not do that.

AbleLearner · Answer

I asked Snow for a bikini or lingerie pic like the first day we chatted. She turned me down, but we've been talking for three months since then, so it obviously didn't offend her. She sends me photos of herself, face photos and one in a nice white dress, and some other photos too. So asking for a photo has in no way offended her.

cavmanier · Answer

Your question is so broad. Do you mean if some guy off the street asks you or your husband? There should be a context understand what you are talking about. If I'm seeing a girl, I love seeing pictures of her. It's not bad. Maybe you mean a guy on Tinder? I don't know about that because I don't do tinder. I don't know what that's like. They probably want to see if you're attractive enough to have sex with maybe.

sean1234 · Answer

If he knows you personally, who cares? He already knows what you look like. If he doesn't know what you look like then he should meet you in person to so he can see with his own 2 eyes. On the internet, he could be an prison inmate with a computer LOL!!!

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is a guy thing but tread carefully, most guys only want something to jack off over. Test them, stop with the pics or the dirty talk or both and see how quickly they lose interest in you, I have been through that many times.

NeoWraythe · Answer

Not necessarily. It depends on the relationship you have with the guy. If you are intimate with each other and trust one another, nudes even are not a red flag. If you just started talking to them and they start asking for pics and nudes, yes that is a red flag.

BlueDreams · Answer

Depends on what kind of pic he asks for. Whether it's nude or obvious/explicit, yeah it would be red flag for girls to send them him out. Even, nudes are pretty red and girls should be aware of threat of betray to reveal it or any usage of these pics in bad manners by a guy. However, normal pics could be absolutely fine unlike nudes. Anyway, nudes shouldn't be sent unless they've been in deep relations, accompanied by mutual deep trust.

lernulo · Answer

I can't understand your question, because where I am, it's a standard.
I don't like the exchange of pictures a lot, but I know by experience that the best way to get a girl coming to a date is to ask for a picture first.
I do it for method, not for pleasure and at most, what I like is to put a face on her nickname.

NightFlirt · Answer

If he's wanting nudes it's up to you to send them or not. The question becomes how slutty are you feeling at the time of the request.

Anonymous · Answer

What sort of pics?
If it's nudes then yes, especially if you've started dating.
If it's just a selfie, then no.
I tend to ask a guy i'm chatting with for a selfie a while into the convo because sometimes you can't trust peoples photos on dating apps etc. Some guys upload pics from several years ago and look nothing like that now.

wankiam · Answer

if he asks once or twice its usual but to keep going on about it i think is a warning sign to some degree... either he wants wank bank material or he is getting obsessed, neither of which bode well so early in a relationship

AiahZ · Answer

I don't do pics in this age. Biiiiiiiiiig mistake. I don't even let my boyfriends take vids of me on their phones. Nooooo f*cking way. Not today. How many people have been undone with pics getting out?

ImagineSketchy · Answer

If you're dating and he can't see you in person, he probably just wants to see you in general... I don't see how it could be a red flag.

AreWeHuman · Answer

If it's nudes he's a time waster, if he is genuine and is just asking to see what you look then he might only be after your looks. Or like I said he is just curious and want to know what you look like.

brandon7912 · Answer

I think that people should make their own decisions on the people they let in their life as opposed to this culture of canned "red flags" that seems to be so popular with the younger generations. It's really banal.

egarcia1360 · Answer

Context is key. Is this a random stranger sliding into your DMs, a friend, a crush, or what? What kind of pics is he asking for, and did he specify why? Whether or not it's a red flag depends on the situation.

CharlieBadger · Answer

Guys used to carry a picture of their girl in their wallet.  Now they can carry them on their phone.  Just say no to nudes unless you are dating and you trust him.

BCA6010 · Answer

Thats pretty normal... People want to know they're not being scammed so asking for a new picture with the day's date visible or something else specific is not unusual.

LoU_Hades · Answer

I mean, when I texting with someone on friend level daily over months, even if it's just two sentences per day. I want to know how the person I'm talking with looks. Is this so reprobate?

DizzyDesii · Answer

If its nudes, yes. If its just like a face pic, then no however if he asks for it early on, id get annoyed

Anonymous · Answer

I think you really do some research to find out the real meaning of reg flags because a guy asking you for a picture is not a red flag at all it's pretty common for people to ask for a picture of the person

Bananaman177 · Answer

Send him a pic of you waving from 100 yards away. If he laughs, he's cool.

PinkMichae · Answer

I don't see how it's red flag. They want to know you're real and what you look like of course.  I would ask too.

5_AM_Oracle · Answer

How long have you two been together? Honestly. I don't give ANY pictures. He can find it on my social media

45337855 · Answer

I usually meet alotta girls on instagram and sometimes they won't have any pics to their profile so if we've been talking I'll usually ask for a pic of her... I never ask for nudes if she offers that a different thing but I never ask for nudes

CarrieBlossum · Answer

Yeah as soon as a guy starts wanting to see you it's all downhill. I only date blind guys now.

Anonymous · Answer

It can be, especially if he wants you to wear a bikini, pose nude, etc. Wear clothes and pose as if the whole world is going to see you - because they might.

razelove · Answer

It's a foot in the door to hook up on a date, or ask for nudes if the distance is great.

cheapshotbob · Answer

if you have to ask you already know the answer but my pinion is yes its a red flag

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Of course not. He needs to know what to expect. And if he asks for nudes, send him nudes. Again, he needs to know what to expect. If you won't send nudes, it means you are a prude and he doesn't want to waste his time with you.

Browneye57 · Answer

What is the matter with seeing what you look like?  Why don't you actually SEE each other and TALK? I know, a novel concept.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

If I did online dating I would ask for a short video where she says my name and writes it on a whiteboard.

ivbnlknfru · Answer

Having pictures of you is only a nice reminder of you when your not around, think of it as a compliment... If he asks for nudes, he has something else in mind...

Anonymous · Answer

Sure lets just make everything a red flag and completely devalue the term so that it becomes utterly meaningless.

Yadoighnut · Answer

What do you mean by red flag?
That he’s not boyfriend materiel?
I mean you can send him a nice if you want, it’s up to you, but it’s not illegal to ask for a nude,
If you don’t wanna send it.. don’t
If
You don’t mind... do

Dargil · Answer

As in dressed? Just being a guy. Girls might too. Puts a face on the conversation.

leonidas69 · Answer

If you have to ask what colour flag it is then it's not fucking red. Look for green flags!

HikerDude · Answer

It's not a red flag, it just means he wants to see if you pass the boner test.

soleil2666 · Answer

? Nooo, your personality is reflected in your words, not in your legs. Because words give birth to people, not the between-your-legs.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

If they met online I guess its completely normal and ok, the have the right to see who they are dealing with

DiegoO · Answer

Under what context? If it's a LDR, it should be common sense to share pics, even sexual pics if sex cam is not an option.

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

Are you talking about "nude pics" or he just wants to know what you look like?

John_Doesnt · Answer

No, it's perfectly normal for a guy to post naked pics of his newest girl.

BoxySama · Answer

Whoever said YES Go die in a ditch you conservative bastard

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely... unless you're on a dating app, then yeah, its fine as long as it is not nudes he is asking for

Shamalien · Answer

if it's nudes then yeah obviously, assuming you're looking for something real

Bloodcap790 · Answer

If it's nudes then yes but otherwise we need to make sure your not a catfish

Anonymous · Answer

Its normal, a lot of girls have an edited or take profile pics and there best angles. We just want to make sure we aren't being catfished.

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