Am I rejected or Is he just being cautious?

[Anonymous]

He told he liked me but he lives in London and I live in Belgium

[chistonejr]

He is protecting himself.

Think about it like this:

If he seems like the kind of guy who is looking for a great relationship, he will react like this because to him, he may not even know you by face yet, or even trusts that it is you. He may not trust the internet. It could be a few other things as well. But you have to understand that some of us guys want to really be in a relationship where we get the physical experience from it.

My thing is even though you may really like him, you have to understand where he is coming from. He said he "does not want to fall in deep for a girl online", which means that he'd rather fall for someone in person than online.

Remember that he is not saying that he doesn't want to be with you, he is simply saying that because it is online, there is a big question mark that comes up. He doesn't know what you do on your daily life, or who interacts with you, or where you go.

I always say this when I compare guys and girls.

Guys are external, meaning we love to feel, touch, and capture anything that comes physically within our grasps before understanding what something means to them.

Girls are internal, they feel from their hearts first and think well with their brains before getting too attached to something. (correct me if I am wrong)

If he cannot see you or feel you in person, he left to be unsure.

So question is:

What are you gonna do?

[Lynx122]

He probably has had bad experiences talking to girls online which I've had as well. I don't think it's a personal thing he just doesn't wanna waste time with a girl when it's not gonna amount to anything.

[vintagegirl90]

He’s being cautious because either he’s not ready for something serious or not wanting to lead you onto think it’s going to become a relationship, he sounds super afraid of you. I feel like you’re pushing him by messaging him a lot, give him some space, sometimes when you do they come running back.

[Ally247]

Leave it. He doesn't want a long difference relationship.

[Asker]

If he liked me he would want it

[Ally247]

He doesn't want it. If he likes you, it's not enough to want it. He said he doesn't want to fall for you, meaning he doesn't like you enough rn, and he doesn't want to in the future. The dude just doesn't want an online/ ldr so move on

[Asker]

But does have it to do with me or with online relationships in general? Because if he thought I was different he would have at least tried. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Ally247]

I wouldn't say it's because of you. He doesn't like the idea of online relationships, he would reject the idea with most girls and probably wouldn't try. He said he doesn't wanna fall for anyone online. Meaning he doesn't want an online relationship with anyone, including you. It's not personal.

[Asker]

But I don’t believe that because I remember a month ago was okay with the idea of dating me he was the one trying to make it work and everything but then I ghosted him because I noticed I was falling deep for him... I got scared so I blocked him from everywhere and he was already being cautious but now he made up his mind after that I guess

[Ally247]

Yeah, and it definitely sounds like he has made up his mind. Apologise for freaking out, but if he's adamant, leave it.

Also, typo in my original comment distance* not difference.

[Asker]

I did apologise many times but he just won’t change his mind anymore because he’s got trust issues now... I guess I have to move on :(

[soleil2666]

He has a point there - either go meet in real life or leave it. You don't want to build a castle in the sand and then discover once you meet it was a wave that erased it all.

[SamirahD22]

he's not interested