Help me please?

[GJ_27]

How can I get the girl of my dreams? There is this girl I really like and we talk a lot, but we have stayed mostly in the friend division, but sometimes it feels like we can be more, but I guess she is a bit scared since she has been greatly hurt before. I'm okay with being her friend, but I want to be more. This has been a slow process and I don't want to rush things. I want to play my cards just right, but I don't know which cards to play right now. I really like this girl. Please help? We are both 16 years old by the way

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+1 y

by the way she already knows I like her since October

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+1 y

Well, it's been a long time since this moment, but it finally happened, this Friday I have a date with the same girl and gave her a kiss yesterday.

[DiscomfortZone]

If she knows - confront her and ask for a specific answer. It's extremely selfish to lead you on like that, the least you deserve is a little honesty.

[DiscomfortZone]

Alright man!! Just read the update, you rock! Good luck :)

[GJ_27]

Thanks man!

[Avicenna]

Ask her out. Don't make her wait too long or she will lose any interest she may have in you.

[GJ_27]

Are you sure? I really don't want to risk it. Maybe an activity including some of her friends?

[Avicenna]

I am sure. Ask her out only- send a clear message.

[GJ_27]

Okay, I'll try

[GJ_27]

But not today nor tomorrow, its Christmas, you know, family time

[Avicenna]

Of course

[Avicenna]

Thanks for the MHO

[Tonga]

so she already knows you like her, so how does she feel about you

[GJ_27]

No clue, it's been a while since that moment

[Tonga]

You haven’t asked her? How often does she text u

[Tonga]

Well text/talk

[GJ_27]

We talk almost everyday, but never on that topic, we talk about other things

[GJ_27]

We talk like usual close friends talk

[Tonga]

Okay I mean if she likes you that’s good cause you build solid ground and even if she doesn’t like you at least you have more likely hold of having a close friend.

So since you want to do something about it, you have a choice: be forward and ask her about her feelings or kk just keep letting it go and see where it happens...

[Tonga]

*ignore the kk

[GJ_27]

Make sense, seems like a good way of doing it

[Tonga]

Wdym?

[GJ_27]

I mean I could be foward and direct on telling her, and see what happens, maybe on another day because it's Christmas, but definitely will be direct

[jonesin4u]

You have to find out or your just wasting your time

[Tonga]

@jonesin4u yeah exactly, I don’t want to make you least excited but often when girls say they don’t know... it often leads in the wrong direction... so just be clear and ask her

[Tonga]

My other suggestion was because I’m worried if he’s too pushy that could be an issue too, although it’s been 2 months now

[jonesin4u]

Ask her

[GJ_27]

I'll ask

[GJ_27]

Just making sure I ask the right way

[jonesin4u]

Say I told u how I feel about you, and I was curious if u feel the same or not

[jonesin4u]

@tonya I mean I feel what he's going through I was shy when I was younger but after being rejected I realized it's not the end of the world and pussy is a better feeling then a hand

[jonesin4u]

@ Tonga previous

[Tonga]

@jonesin4u I get what you mean, I’ve been hurt too (I’ve actually approached guys) so that’s why I feel that being approached is easier and I go the path of least resistance. I honestly wish I could help the girl he’s talking to but that’s not what I’m here for, I can only offer advice to him

[jonesin4u]

That's what I've been doin

[Tonga]

Thanks for mho😊

[Southernbelle45]

Hi, just tell her how you feel

[GJ_27]

She already knows, since October 😅

[GJ_27]

Should add that huh

[Southernbelle45]

Well did she say no?

[GJ_27]

She kinda didn't know how to replay, took her a long while because she didn't know what to say until I told her if she didn't feel anything she could tell me, but we have gotten a lot closer since then

[GJ_27]

It's a very complicated thing

[Southernbelle45]

Well good that's all that matters. Ask to take her on a date and SHOW her your interest... maybe buy her flowers or whatever she's into and show her you care and you won't hurt her. Also show her she can trust you cause I'm sure she's guarded because of her hurt past how does this sound?

[Southernbelle45]

Communication is key

[GJ_27]

Sounds really nice, I really like that idea, though I still have to take it slowly, but I will try i, maybe asking her on a date later, but the gifts is a good idea. Thanks.

[Southernbelle45]

You're welcome... any other concern of yours that I can help out with?

[GJ_27]

Should I tell her something nice for Christmas tomorrow?

[Southernbelle45]

Of course you can and should!!

[GJ_27]

THANKS!

[Southernbelle45]

Goodluck! Anytime😊

[GJ_27]

Thank you again

[GJ_27]

Can I follow you? I have a few more questions I could really use the female touch

[Southernbelle45]

Sure

[GJ_27]

Thank you

[GJ_27]

Something tells me I will be saying that a lot huh

[jonesin4u]

Then ask her the worst that will happen is she says no, at least u know and can find someone else who is ready for u