Should I get romantically involved with this super obese woman that I'm not sexually attracted to, since I never had a girlfriend and I'm 28?

[steven7890789]

I never had a girlfriend and I'm 28 . As you can see I am below average looking (ugly) and I never minded to get romantically involved with a woman that is a little below average looking or overweight. But the thing is if a woman is super below average looking or super overweight, I can't get romantically involved with them. I know this one woman who is really obese and wants a boyfriend so bad. She is super desperate. Should I just get romantically involved with her?

[Anonymous]

I'm fat and picky as hell. I know thin women who are far less picky than I am. Being overweight does not mean you're easy to get with. This isn't really a black and white issue.

Also, don't be a pathetic asshole. If you're not attracted to her, don't lead her on and play with her emotions and lie your way through a relationship. Since it's quite clear that empathy isn't your forte, let's appeal to your self-centered nature. The behaviors you nurture now will affect other relationships. If you build a relationship on lies and dishonesty and hurting others, then that pattern will likely follow you into other relationships that might be with women who are your type. You'll end up sabotaging yourself and probably will worsen some apparent self-worth/confidence issues that you already have now. If you work on your confidence and self-esteem instead of focusing on using other people in toxic ways, you'll come out as a better potential romantic partner for the right person for you. If you build confidence in yourself, allow your more attractive personality traits to shine through, you will probably have a bit more success in dating. Ask some male friends or family members for grooming and style improvements, if that's important to you. Google it and youtube it if you have no friends or family. Think harder about the kind of partner you want beyond just the physical. Do you have interests or hobbies that have meetup groups (meetup. com) or organizations where people meet and do said hobby? Those are potential places to meet women. Do you like to volunteer? Go in it for the right reasons, but another place. And etc. the internet is filled with dating advice. Ask your man friends/family to help with your dating profiles and pics and so on. Build self-worth/self-esteem and confidence. Maybe also work on some empathy and being a kind person. Who knows, could help you in your relationships one day.

[steven7890789]

Actually I am not an asshole. Nearly everyone that knows me likes me as a person. Nearly everyone thinks I'm chill, etc. too. People like hanging out with me, talking to me, etc. They just never viewed me in a non platonic way cause of the way I look. Also the pic I have up is from two years ago. I since then changed my style and dress super good. Still have the glasses though. But the thing is most people still think I'm ugly. Just because I all of a sudden change certain things doesn't mean my face will be less ugly. And most people think I'm ugly without glasses too, so I don't see the point of getting contacts lol. And I didn't assume she was desperate and would get romantically involved with anyone. My coworker which is her friend, told me that. Also I should have worded things different to not sound mean. But the thing is what are ugly guys like me supposed to do at this point? Like I said my personality has always been fine. I changed my style and grooming last year but I'm still ugly. And like I said I don't mind getting romantically involved with a woman that is a little below average looking or a little or even medium overweight. I just don't want to get romantically involved with someone that is TOO below average looking or TOO overweight. I never insult them or anything. I have hanged out with them as friends, and socialized with them, etc. I am ok with talking and spending time with anyone as long as their chill. But when it comes to romantic relationships and sex it is a different case. Their has to be physical and sexual attraction to an extent for that.

[steven7890789]

Do you understand now?

[MannySimms]

EVERYONE is an asshole. It's just a question of degree.

[CapricornHoney]

No I don’t think you should. It’s not fair to lead her on when you don’t really like her.

[steven7890789]

Have you even read my details? What else am I supposed to do? I am ugly

[CapricornHoney]

Yes I have. Despite what you think of yourself, it doesn’t give you the right to be a dickhead and lead people on.

[steven7890789]

So basically be single forever?

[steven7890789]

If you liked me, and we're in my situation , let's see what you would do

[steven7890789]

Correction : If you looked like me. That is what I meant to say

[Tyler131]

NO
This is contributing to the problem.

Sorry, but I see so many guys settling for women they aren't even attracted to. A women at my work cries herself to sleep every night because her boyfriend of 8 years doesn't even want to touch her. This is demoralizing and unfair, also why would you think this is better than being alone? Obese women make me want to vomit, this is very mean to say, but it illustrates why I won't join the ship you have set out to sail. I too have a hard time attracting women I find attractive, but it happens eventually. It really is a struggle sometimes to find women who appreciate what we have to offer. Im sure there are women out there who think you would be just great as their boyfriend, just gotta find them... not easy I know.

[steven7890789]

I don't mind getting romantically involved with a woman that is a little overweight or medium overweight but just not super overweight. And I'm ok with getting romantically involved with women that are a little ugly but not super ugly. But the thing is I never had a girlfriend. What else am I supposed to do?

[Tyler131]

I really wish I knew myself. And this is coming from a guy who’s had hot girlfriends and still strikes out with ugly obese women somehow lmao. Women are confusing as hell dude. Good luck and maybe try asking your friends for help setting you up with someone.

[Bandit74]

I don't think I could be turned on by an obese woman so I wouldn't do it, but if you are fine with it then it's worth a try. Also most of the people criticizing you as being desperate have no idea what it's like to be in your position. One of the guys who posted legit looks like a male model and is giving you some cliche advice about being strong and true to yourself. lol

[steven7890789]

I am not turned on by a super day woman but this about a romantic relationship not sex. And of course you need physical and sexual attraction for that as well. I never had a girlfriend and even though I am not sexually attracted to her should I get romantically involved with her?

[steven7890789]

Correction:super obese woman

[Bandit74]

I guess it depends on if she feels the same way. Like if she's not attracted to you sexually and is just interested in romantic/emotional connection then it should be fine. However if she is sexually attracted to you and wants a sexual relationship with you in addition to an emotional one then eventually she is going to expect to do sexual stuff and if you are unwilling then the relationship is bound to fail and you are wasting her time.

[steven7890789]

I would be grossed out to have sex with an extremely fat woman to be honest

[Optymistyk]

You're not ugly. Just undergroomed and badly styled. If you want to learn how to look good then the easiest option is to pay for a proffessional stylist. Otherwise... I don't know man. I'd rather die alone than sentence myself to being with someone I don't even want

[Locha037]

If your unhappy with who you are - make changes. Don't lead anyone one! Besides your description of this woman sounds like she's up for the status of just saying she wants a boyfriend - if your after a physical relationship - maybe lay your cards on the table, - sex for hanging out!!! (That's if your description I accurate)

[steven7890789]

I didn't say anything about getting laid, I said I want a girlfriend since I never had one. No I am not sexually attracted to her since since she is extremely overweight. And I already made changes to my style. Nothing changed regarding dating.. I changed my style in fact a couple of year s ago. I am still consider ugly even though I dress good now. And it is pointless getting contacts cause most people think I look ugly without the glasses as well. I changed my hairstyle but still no difference. It is like putting lipstick on a pig. It changes shit. My face is still ugly.

[green1supremacy]

I have seen quite a few of these posts. You guys really need to think better of yourself.
Ex: I have big ears. They are love handles, problem solved. People will see you how you see yourself. I think we all are too harsh on ourselves. Being different is the best thing we got going as a species. Embrace it!

[steven7890789]

That is not true. I think I'm hot and most women will think I'm ugly cause I am ugly. Facts.

[steven7890789]

Correction,: I could think I'm hot

[green1supremacy]

All I'm saying is YOU need to think better about yourself before a woman will my friend. Everything starts with self. Good luck on your path.

[steven7890789]

How would that change shit. Let's say a man is 600 pounds. Just cause he thinks good of himself, he would get flocks of women. Shit would change

[Gatman34]

No you sound so desperate and no self respect we need less desperate men like you. You are literally settling that’s pathetic and desperate

[steven7890789]

I am not going to do it. I changed my mind so chill.

[broken_heart_at_48]

If you're not attracted to her and you're just needing to get laid go to the bunny ranch and pay for it. It will probably be cheaper in the long run and nobody's feelings get hurt

[steven7890789]

I didn't say anything about getting laid, I said getting romantically involved since I never had a girlfriend but of course you need attraction for that because you kiss and have sex with your partner. But you make it seem like I want a lay. No I want a girlfriend

[steven7890789]

Get it?

[steven7890789]

Or are you confused? I am saying should I get romantically involved with her, meaning should I have her as my girlfriend even though I am not sexually attracted to her just because I never had a girlfriend?

[Thatsamazing]

Dude if you aren't attracted to her and don't like her, then... why would you? I hear desperation inherent in this question and I get that, but you should still be strong and true to yourself.

[steven7890789]

Then basically be single and never have a girlfriend in my life? I am 28 and never had a girlfriend cause I'm ugly

[Thatsamazing]

I don't have any answers for you man, I can understand your frustration though. Only you can decide what you think is best for you.

[steven7890789]

So do it or don't do it? What is your opinion?

[Thatsamazing]

I don't have one other than follow your head and decide what you think will make you feel most fulfilled.

[Avicenna]

You've answered your own question. Don't do it because you will be unhappy.

[steven7890789]

And what are ugly guys like me that never had a girlfriend supposed. to do?

[Wulfheard]

No don't get involved. It's better for both of you.

[cicchis0]

No. Trying to pretend to love someone is a stupid idea and not fair to her.

[Dchrls78104]

No; it's a foolish experiment and will backfire. She will likely see through you as objecting her and reject you. Rather keep your virginity.

[steven7890789]

I'm not a virgin. This had nothing to do with getting laid. This had to do with getting a girlfriend since I never had one.

[Dchrls78104]

My point still stands.

[Dchrls78104]

It's never a good idea to settle for someone just to say you have an SO; it may backfire on you no less. Wiser to wait.

[lsjr16]

Just tell her the truth. I am just like you. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but if you don’t want to have sex. Tell her in a nice way like hey your a beautiful girl but I think we should remain friends because I am not interested in you that.

[Sevenpointfive]

i wouldn't suggest it unless it's a blowjob only arrangement

[moonpie89]

Just ask her for sex. Don't give her false hope of having a relationship with you

[steven7890789]

What else are ugly guys like me that never had a girlfriend supposed to do?

[poneglyphs]

No I never had girlfriend before also but I wouldn't do that.

[Anonymous]

Oh look. It's the dude who said recently that most men hate women lol. Now I see why.

[andrew_wag]

Dont get involved with someone you dont actually like because it will give you the wrong perception on how to date..

[igiem]

Not on your life. NOT WORTH IT AT ALL

[Anonymous]

Do it for the reference experience.

[Anonymous]

depends, I did something similar in 2017

[Texaskid1]

You again