I have CF which is a life threatening genetic respiratory disease that cuts my lifespan in half and stops me from growing quicker. Given that, I'm quite fortunate to be only slightly below average height at 5'9", but yet I've been told I'm too short to date countless times. I've never been on a date to this day and while blaming it solely on my height is admittedly wrong, my restless work on myself seems like an act of futility for helping me find a life partner because there's nothing I can do about my height. Are short and average guys meant to be alone?
I think that you bring that talk is not something that should effect you dating anyone and you are taller than a fair few girls including me and you don't have to be 6 foot to be in a relationship and you are not to short. I hope you can find someone that cares for who you are as a person and not your height because
No. I know short ass guys who have wives and relationships. Mind you, it is harder for you guys, I'm not trying to trivialize your experience. I know it's rough. But my point is that it isn't impossible and having a super toxic attitude about it doesn't help you score brownie points with the ladies.
Being awesome and funny has gotten me nothing either, so I'd rather be who I am because it's a choice between putting on a mask only to be alone or at the very best liked for who I'm not, or being who I am and being hated for it.
I always seem to have girls trying to flirt with me (in real life) even though I'm not even trying to get into a relationship (I usually like to be left alone,) and I am 5'3".
I think you just need to change your mindset, it is usually when you are not trying that it comes, don't give up!
It happens to guys too, if it didn't, it would save me the stress of trying to turn them down without hurting their feelings, or trying to get out of going out on a date that I never agreed to without coming off as being rude, among a host of other things!😧
You're not even short - that's average for USA and above average in Japan. It also means you're substantially taller than the average woman, so even if all women demanded a partner that is taller than them, well over half of the women are available to you. Get amongst it!
You will either stay single or wait another 10-20 until the women of your generation have hit the wall and look for the nice guy who finishes last to lock you down with marriage and children and eventually destroy your life completely in the divorce court. Take your pick. Im not even 30 and I already get messages from girls I knew in school looking to settle down all of a sudden and knowing that I live abroad having a good life. No lass. You can keep on whoring yourself for a piece of bread.
I'm 5' 6" and have had few problems. In your case I'd bet your whiny self pity does more to put girls off than your height. Life may deal you a poor hand, but you play the cards you have or fold. I suggest you do something useful and see who you meet.
I don't know I’m only 5’6 and I got a girlfriend she’s even taller than me haha I’m not rich or jacked and have an average face at best so if I can find someone I’m sure being a shorty doesn’t matter that much just have to have the right attitude and be social 👌
I mean I don't know you personally but from what I've red from you in here I'd guess it's your personality. And I don't want to be an asshole here it's just that I noticed a few traits people in general don't really like. Height isn't that big of a Factor. I'm also 5'9 and I dated guys who we're even shorter than me.
You don't seem like a very nice person. You blame others for your problems. You're a complainer. Not that we shouldn't ever complain but when people give you genuine advice on how to improve your situation you act hostile and low key mad that they suggested it could be anything but women or basically any one else causeing your problems instead of appreciating a strangers willingness to help. And about the height, I mean height isn't a K. O criteria die most women. Appereantly it was for those but there are enough even shorter guys who still get dates.
It's because they give horrible advice that they know is horrible, but they say it anyways because they think it's funny. Women's delusional perception of average is a problem, they think 6'3" is average height when it's 5'9", and they view over 80% of all guys as below average in attractiveness. Their standards are clearly too high and it's a problem. You girls cry when I'm nice, and then cry when I'm not, you'll cry either way so I'd rather stop being a pushover and hit back. If that were the case, there wouldn't be so many single short guys and tall guys wouldn't all have multiple girlfriends.
1. Women don't think the average is 6'3. They might prefer tall men but not because they think it's the average. 2. Advice from people who have no problem getting dates is probably not horrible. Cause they probably so something right. 3. I highly doubt the 80%. People still get in relationships so it seems like most women do find the average guy attractive. 4. I don't cry over you not being nice. It's the Internet I don't expect much. You asked a question and I simply answeared.
You don't have to believe the facts, they don't care if you do or not. Advice from people who want as little competition as possible for men and women who simply think it's funny to kick a "short" guy while he's down aren't going to give good advice. It's not an assumption either, the stuff they say is retarded and I've tried it for many years.
And again, their view of average is far from the real average because they like to forget that people like me exist and only count guys they find attractive, which is very few.
I don't believe in sex before marriage, although I did make the mistake of doing it which I strongly regret doing. I believe sex should be between two people who genuinely love eachother for who they are, not their height, not their tattoos, not for their fake attitude, not for their job, who they are as a person. But it appears women around my age don't like any of that because it's how a real relationship is supposed to be
I somewhat agree here. Not about the no Sex before marriage thing because I don't really care about marriage but about loving someone before having sex with them. But that's something I care about for myself. I couldn't care less If others have orgys every day.
I'm not going to run into the room and push them off of eachother if they want to have casual sex, I just don't like or encourage it. Especially since higher numbers of sexual partners has a strong correlation with depression, failed marriages, not getting married at all, not having a relationship, poverty, unresolved family issues, drug use, alcoholism, and crime.
Shorter guys can get married. It might be harder but there is still a good chance. I know ugly women that are married and with children. You don't always have to be attractive to get someone.
@Ianto We are talking about physical attractiveness here. Some people don’t need much physical attraction for relationships to work. Meanwhile it might be different for others
@Rangers, realize that much of what the media tells you isn’t true. Stereotypes aren’t true either. I used to think they were true but they aren’t. It takes massive life experience to find out what is real and what is not
Ok, well it's gonna be hard to meet women there. The reason I asked anyway is that when guys obsess with online dating, that's usually where they get the idea that women only want 6'3" guys, because of the nature of sites like Tinder. It's just not true. Usually it's about your confidence and your social skills.
Well most women prefer guys 5'9 to 6'2.. And noone is meant to be alone, its just you dont have genetics which are highly sought after. You will find someone but in time when the women are looking to settle after getting their sexual energy diminished in HS and in their 20s.
Nope I'm shorter the the avarage at 5"8 and got a girl no problome my brothers 5"6 and has had multiple girlfriend and is going through multiple hookups atm
Nah, I'm 5'8 in a country where 6' is average and guys who're 6'5 are common af and I have an absolute 10/10 of a girlfriend, both looks and personality wise.
I hate to break it to you but your height probably has little to do with it. My older little brother is only about 5' 4". He date a string of very attractive women before marrying one of them.
Then you were doing it wrong, which in itself helped you to realize what you were doing wasn’t working. So again, not futile keep on working on yourself.
It’s your attitude that’s the problem. I have a friend, he’s short, obese, not overly educated who has a great attitude towards life and just married a Smart, fun, beautiful, blonde, big boob, nurse. Change your attitude, change your life.
Life threatening genetic disease that cuts my lifespan in half, makes me infertile, decreases my quality of life, leads to many hospitalizations (5 overnight hospitalizations in the past year alone), having hobbies and interests of which literally not even a single woman enjoys, much less one who I'd share mutual interest with, being excluded from society due to me being different and non conforming, having a permanently damaged jaw from wisdom teeth removal making it impossible to move my left lip when talking, sweat and BO caused by 5× the amount of sweat due to my condition, shall I continue? Still attitude? That's laughable
I understand you have a tough situation, and I'm sorry but that doesn't mean you can't make some positive changes to your life, starting with a simple attitude shift. While your condition and all that goes with it certainly makes things difficult, "having hobbies and interests of which literally not even a single woman enjoys", (find new hobbies), "being excluded from society due to me being different and non conforming" (you've excluded yourself. make a change)."sweat and BO caused by 5× the amount of sweat" (shower more, use a stronger antiperspirant, use cologne, brush your teeth more, scrape your tongue, change undershirts throughout the day) It all starts with a change in attitude. There's a saying, whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are correct) There are countless stories of men and women who have faced serious adversity but they get up every day and still have a positive attitude. There are men and women who lose their legs but still enter marathons, or climb mount Everest. There are people all over the world with no arms who create world class art by painting with their feet or or hold a paint brush in their teeth. You say your life span may be cut in half, You can sit around and wait for your life to end in 20 years! TWENTY WHOLE YEARS! or you can start to do something that will add positivity to your life. What you've tried so far, apparently hasn't worked. TRY SOMETHING NEW! What benefit is there to your life to just sit around and feel sorry for yourself day in and day out? TRY SOMETHING NEW.
I like my hobbies and I can't find enjoyment anywhere else. It's very hypocritical how people tell me to have my own hobbies and women will find that attractive, but then tell me to act interested in hobbies that girls like. Those people get far more support from people than people like me because it's more obvious that they're at a disadvantage because they can't hide their missing limb. Try what? There's nothing I haven't tried
It sucks about your condition and I wish you good health, but you should be aware that most women are very shallow and superficial. Yes, they will reject you based on height, without giving it any thought whatsoever. I've seen it happen many times.
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