Could you date a mother? A single mother?

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AbleLearner · Accepted Answer

Yes, if she was hot enough and wasnt' just a gold digger.

On that Chinese dating app I was using when I met "Snow", there are a few very well put together single moms on there who are hot as hell and have their shit together. I'd love to date a woman like that, if I wasn't already about to be dating a n even better woman.

I don't mind a child or two if it's the right woman, but I want children of my own, so she'd need to be willing to have even more children.

Snow wants at least two children. I'm hoping for more than that, but two is a good start. :).

ThatGuy133 · Accepted Answer

Yea, why not

mrfoox · Accepted Answer

As of right now, where I am in my life, dating any single parent would be hard. But when I have come to a point I'm stable financially etc, I wouldn't be against it. Personally I don't even know if I'd like an own child, but I wouldn't have a problem with helping raise a partners.

morimeme1 · Accepted Answer

I know many guys who would and many who wouldn't. Some just don't want the extra work but for some it very much depends on how well behaved the kid is and whether you would be willing to actually make room for him (not just bring a kid along to every date or smth).

AynonOMouse · Answer

Very unlikely. I'd need to have some questions answered first.

1. How many kids?
2. How many fathers for those kids?
3. Ages/gender/race of kids.
4. Her relationship with the ex/father (friends, or only see each other a few minutes to exchange kids.
5. Would they follow my rules in my house?
6. Will she want more kids with me? (I want kids of my own)
7. Does she expect me to support them?
8. Is there someone to watch them so we still get to enjoy the relationship and do stuff?
9. How far away from me does she live and is it realistic for her to eventually move or would that interfere with custody concerning the father?
10. What is the reason she isn't with the father?

worldscolide · Answer

No, but not because I dislike single moms. It's because I don't want to get involved with another man's child, have that child look at me as a father figure, then something fall apart between me and the mother, and suddenly not only am I leaving someone I cared for I'm hurting an innocent child.. I can't do it.

On top of that, the worst part is most single mothers weather they know it or not, practice some kind of alienation of the father, because. Most women can't set aside their feelings of anger toward the father to foster an relationship for the child, which studies have shown a child needs their father every bit as much as they need their mom.. Basically lots of mothers hat the father more than they love their children.

Anonymous · Answer

No thanks. Relationships are hard enough as it is, and no offense, but a child is quite a bit of baggage. The child will always be the mother’s primary concern. Her life, and consequently your life with her, will always revolve around the child.

When you add in the fact that the child’s father will always be present in some fashion, it’s an even worse idea. Either she’s going to want to confront the father when they don’t agree and be her knight in shining armor OR she’s going to want you to stay out of it totally, but you’ll have to listen to all the complaining.

B0CKSCAR · Answer

Single moms that have their lives together don't play stupid games, don't have time for extra drama & bullshit.
The biggest problems single moms who have it together have is they tend to end up with guys who are just trying to find someone to do all the stuff their mom used to do for them.
But single moms are hot, if for no other reason than you already know they put out.
HAHA J/K

Craftsman · Answer

Been there, done that. She was one of the most down-to-earth lovely and love worthy people I've ever known. Caring and gentle, and had an understanding of life and living that seems to only come with having brought life into this world. I would again in a minute, if such a possibility existed. She's one of my best memories, and I regret having lost her.

Jonny_ · Answer

For the right person it wouldn't really bother me to a point, depends how much of an issue it brings up. Like I want my own kids as well some day and some people with kids might not want more, or there might be drama from partners on the other side. Quite sitatuational for me.

cheapshotbob · Answer

i could but they go for jerks with the money and that trash talk them and the kid, they dont want anything serious they just want a guy with money and they dont care how they treat them. i have been rejected by to many mothers to say it doesn't happen.

normalice · Answer

As long as there was mutual physical attraction, sexual compatibility, and no glaring personality conflicts, sure.

Granted, I understand single mothers tend not to be the most desired of women, which can lead to a sort of desperation which may cause her to cover up our incompatibilities as much as possible. So that's naturally something I'd be cautious about.

Omar_LOL · Answer

It depends on the time when I know that she is a single mother!

If we knew each other for a period of time (without knowing that she is a single mother), and we started being attracted to each other, then she told me that she is a single mother, I may date her.

If I knew at the first time that she is a single mother, I will cancel the idea of dating her and I will treat her as friend only.

Avicenna · Answer

I've done this (last girlfriend was a single mom, albeit the only one I had more than just a fling with), but I don't anymore. It's more complicated than a relationship with a childless woman and since I'm looking to have kids with a childless woman in her 30s, a single mom doesn't fit anyway.

moststrangestguy · Answer

I could if they bitches went so crazy have you met single mums there nuts... Like for. Real self centered animals, if you could find one that was logical and open with communication i would 100% support and provide to the day i die sadly have not met one yet

perislav85 · Answer

I don't see why not. I like kids and it's not bothering me. All of us have a past, just someone caring baby from that past. But, I also know the men who wouldn't date a single mom. It'all of the person.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Personally I don't think I'm ready for kids yet, but if I like the woman enough, I think it'd be fair to give it a chance and try. Who knows, maybe I could grow to love her child as if it were my very own.

Thatsamazing · Answer

No thanks.

olddude69 · Answer

To date a single mother who has a child or children you have to be in a certian mindset to where the fact that she has children doesn't matter you have to love her kids if you are going to move forward with loving her I grew up in a big family so kids don't bother me any witch way

seniorghostman · Answer

Sure. Have like 4 or 5 times. Lots of girls have kids these days. The ones that don’t usually don’t have free time. That really goes for the ones that do as well but moms seem more accessible

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’d date a father as long as he was in his mid-late 20s and he only had one kid that was 2-4 years old

Liam_Hayden · Answer

If she is widowed and was a faithful wife, I probably would. If she has four kids by four guys, no. In between it would depend upon circumstances.

AD240pCharlie · Answer

I would, but I'm not really in a situation where I can really help out, so as long as she's not expecting me to do that, I would have no problem. I also want kids on my own eventually so as long as she's open to having more kids, it's fine.

Shiver · Answer

Not right now, but I'd definitely date one later tho. I mean, unless you count FWBs. Some of my FWBs have children older than me. Lmao

Sambo22685 · Answer

Yes no problem. May not be her fault she's single and with a kid.

Noodle_fan · Answer

already did , l i thought it was fun because her daughter is funny

DWornock · Answer

Sure! I would date her for sex. However, single mothers have too much baggage so it is highly unlikely that I would marry her or get into a serious relationship with her.

vxlsir · Answer

I've done it and it was great until we broke up and now I feel like I lost my whole family with no legal ability to see the kids that called me dad

MarkusCopeland · Answer

No. It's a responsibility I'm not looking for, along with the possibly resentment by her children tacked on while trying to build a relationship.

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

No thanks  I'm not taking care of someone else's kids.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

If I was in the position to do so, then yeah, I would. Simples...

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I'll give her some dick, but I'm not going to date her. She you can find some other sucker to raise her fuck trophies.

ecfresh · Answer

Done it before, would do it again

Anonymous · Answer

I have in the past andwhen we broke up i think it hurt more cause i got really involved in her daughters life

Truthatanycost · Answer

Sure I could... but I won't.

20yearsolder · Answer

Yep and I married her

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately, no, I wouldn't. At least until the kids themselves, are 18, then I'd think about it

MackToday · Answer

I could but I'm not going to.

Ripper_E · Answer

Depends on our circumstances

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Men would be happy to, boys would run away scared.

RHK36 · Answer

I could and I have in the past.

quipjohn · Answer

I do have for 16 years

oncpl · Answer

I have already been dating single mother.

ask4any · Answer

Yes I could. And I would!!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Id have sex if she is hot but thats it.

KaraMcNulty · Answer

Sure.

kyjellybaby · Answer

If given the chance to yes I would

The_man_whol_aughs · Answer

I would have sex with the mother that's it

Gatman34 · Answer

Hell nah

Pejtu · Answer

NO, just no

ThiccBlasianBoi · Answer

God no

TheFlak38 · Answer

fuck yes. date no.

bangyourhead · Answer

Nope.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Not likely.

CoolKat21 · Answer

not gay

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Of course I could.

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