Could you date a mother? A single mother?

[Anonymous]

Of course

Not uh

[AbleLearner]

Yes, if she was hot enough and wasnt' just a gold digger.

On that Chinese dating app I was using when I met "Snow", there are a few very well put together single moms on there who are hot as hell and have their shit together. I'd love to date a woman like that, if I wasn't already about to be dating a n even better woman.

I don't mind a child or two if it's the right woman, but I want children of my own, so she'd need to be willing to have even more children.

Snow wants at least two children. I'm hoping for more than that, but two is a good start. :).

[ThatGuy133]

Yea, why not

[mrfoox]

As of right now, where I am in my life, dating any single parent would be hard. But when I have come to a point I'm stable financially etc, I wouldn't be against it. Personally I don't even know if I'd like an own child, but I wouldn't have a problem with helping raise a partners.

[morimeme1]

I know many guys who would and many who wouldn't. Some just don't want the extra work but for some it very much depends on how well behaved the kid is and whether you would be willing to actually make room for him (not just bring a kid along to every date or smth).

[AynonOMouse]

Very unlikely. I'd need to have some questions answered first.

1. How many kids?
2. How many fathers for those kids?
3. Ages/gender/race of kids.
4. Her relationship with the ex/father (friends, or only see each other a few minutes to exchange kids.
5. Would they follow my rules in my house?
6. Will she want more kids with me? (I want kids of my own)
7. Does she expect me to support them?
8. Is there someone to watch them so we still get to enjoy the relationship and do stuff?
9. How far away from me does she live and is it realistic for her to eventually move or would that interfere with custody concerning the father?
10. What is the reason she isn't with the father?

[worldscolide]

No, but not because I dislike single moms. It's because I don't want to get involved with another man's child, have that child look at me as a father figure, then something fall apart between me and the mother, and suddenly not only am I leaving someone I cared for I'm hurting an innocent child.. I can't do it.

On top of that, the worst part is most single mothers weather they know it or not, practice some kind of alienation of the father, because. Most women can't set aside their feelings of anger toward the father to foster an relationship for the child, which studies have shown a child needs their father every bit as much as they need their mom.. Basically lots of mothers hat the father more than they love their children.

[Anonymous]

No thanks. Relationships are hard enough as it is, and no offense, but a child is quite a bit of baggage. The child will always be the mother’s primary concern. Her life, and consequently your life with her, will always revolve around the child.

When you add in the fact that the child’s father will always be present in some fashion, it’s an even worse idea. Either she’s going to want to confront the father when they don’t agree and be her knight in shining armor OR she’s going to want you to stay out of it totally, but you’ll have to listen to all the complaining.

[B0CKSCAR]

Single moms that have their lives together don't play stupid games, don't have time for extra drama & bullshit.
The biggest problems single moms who have it together have is they tend to end up with guys who are just trying to find someone to do all the stuff their mom used to do for them.
But single moms are hot, if for no other reason than you already know they put out.
HAHA J/K

[Craftsman]

Been there, done that. She was one of the most down-to-earth lovely and love worthy people I've ever known. Caring and gentle, and had an understanding of life and living that seems to only come with having brought life into this world. I would again in a minute, if such a possibility existed. She's one of my best memories, and I regret having lost her.

[Jonny_]

For the right person it wouldn't really bother me to a point, depends how much of an issue it brings up. Like I want my own kids as well some day and some people with kids might not want more, or there might be drama from partners on the other side. Quite sitatuational for me.

[cheapshotbob]

i could but they go for jerks with the money and that trash talk them and the kid, they dont want anything serious they just want a guy with money and they dont care how they treat them. i have been rejected by to many mothers to say it doesn't happen.

[normalice]

As long as there was mutual physical attraction, sexual compatibility, and no glaring personality conflicts, sure.

Granted, I understand single mothers tend not to be the most desired of women, which can lead to a sort of desperation which may cause her to cover up our incompatibilities as much as possible. So that's naturally something I'd be cautious about.

[Omar_LOL]

It depends on the time when I know that she is a single mother!

If we knew each other for a period of time (without knowing that she is a single mother), and we started being attracted to each other, then she told me that she is a single mother, I may date her.

If I knew at the first time that she is a single mother, I will cancel the idea of dating her and I will treat her as friend only.

[Avicenna]

I've done this (last girlfriend was a single mom, albeit the only one I had more than just a fling with), but I don't anymore. It's more complicated than a relationship with a childless woman and since I'm looking to have kids with a childless woman in her 30s, a single mom doesn't fit anyway.

[moststrangestguy]

I could if they bitches went so crazy have you met single mums there nuts... Like for. Real self centered animals, if you could find one that was logical and open with communication i would 100% support and provide to the day i die sadly have not met one yet

[perislav85]

I don't see why not. I like kids and it's not bothering me. All of us have a past, just someone caring baby from that past. But, I also know the men who wouldn't date a single mom. It'all of the person.

[GreenGold1992]

Personally I don't think I'm ready for kids yet, but if I like the woman enough, I think it'd be fair to give it a chance and try. Who knows, maybe I could grow to love her child as if it were my very own.

[Thatsamazing]

No thanks.
Fellow guys that choose to give the dick to moms/single moms-- why do you do it?

[olddude69]

To date a single mother who has a child or children you have to be in a certian mindset to where the fact that she has children doesn't matter you have to love her kids if you are going to move forward with loving her I grew up in a big family so kids don't bother me any witch way

[seniorghostman]

Sure. Have like 4 or 5 times. Lots of girls have kids these days. The ones that don’t usually don’t have free time. That really goes for the ones that do as well but moms seem more accessible

[DizzyDesii]

I’d date a father as long as he was in his mid-late 20s and he only had one kid that was 2-4 years old

[Liam_Hayden]

If she is widowed and was a faithful wife, I probably would.
If she has four kids by four guys, no.
In between it would depend upon circumstances.

[AD240pCharlie]

I would, but I'm not really in a situation where I can really help out, so as long as she's not expecting me to do that, I would have no problem. I also want kids on my own eventually so as long as she's open to having more kids, it's fine.

[Shiver]

Not right now, but I'd definitely date one later tho. I mean, unless you count FWBs. Some of my FWBs have children older than me. Lmao