Would you date a single mother?

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NormalBoringGuy · Accepted Answer

I suppose it's not entirely out of the realm of possibility. After all, I have been known to associate with girls in a cheap, eortic fashion, haven't I, Mother? And a single mother is just a girl, albeit with a child in tow.

But then again, I do have my mother's disapproval to consider. She doesn't like me associating with girls, let alone whores with children. But what is a single mother, if not a girl with extra baggage, extra baggage you have to find space for in the trunk?

And let's not forget my own single status. I am, after all, a normal guy. I'm sure I could find ways to make the situation work, just like I find ways to make my plain pasta taste somewhat passable, just the way Mother finds a way to beat me in Scrabble with her nasty whore words.

Kiss_Me · Accepted Answer

Hell to the power of NO.

When dating someone with a kid, you are automatically second to the kid in all things. Some of the reasons are understandable, but most are not. There is also the baby moma / daddy drama. No Thank you!!!

I also prefer to date women that make better moral and ethical life decisions. Having sex with the potential for pregnancy is indeed a women's choice. Once a women has a kid it is NOT the time to be selfish. Most should marry the Father and make it work. If the Father is a piece of crap, it STRONGLY suggest the mother needs to make better dating decisions.

I'll take the untethered woman all day, everyday.

naartjie · Accepted Answer

No thanks. I’d never want that for my brother either.
His last girlfriend was a single mother and let’s just say what a piece of work she and her daughter were. They broke up and she went back to her baby daddy which she did after the last 4 boyfriends she had lol. Her baby daddy is with her for life.
Told my brother to not get involved with a broken family. On the extremely rare occasions do things work out but with the chances being so high that show the opposite, I’d say not risk it.
I’d never wish a life like that for my brother or any genuinely good men.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

I would date a single parent if he was a good dad and his kid was young enough to accept me. I wouldn't want to deal with an angsty teenager lol

Summeroflove · Answer

It would depend. If she just sleeps around. Probably not.

If she has a child out of rape. If she got divorced (depending on why she divorced). If maybe she used to make bad choices but genuinely turned it around.

I don’t have kids and never dated someone with kids. But like I said. It depends.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

I don't want to be the "father material" just to "offer assurance", same like no Woman wants a Single Dad for Her to become a "mother material", plus if the things go Sour, i don't want her to get my stuff for free, for what i had worked all my life to gain/build, if things go sideways i'm sure i'll just be left outside just with the "shirt on my back", so nahhh... On the other side/note... if we pull together, and Build together then is a different story, but if she Leaves me, because i just "fallen" on to hard times, then No! I'm sorry! 🤷‍♂️
I'm sure she will do the same To me the way she Done her Previous, so unless all the cards are on the table, then... Nah! Learned my lesson...

yepdonethat · Answer

No and here's why. Single mothers generally come with a lot of baggage from exes and raising their kid. Most single mothers I ever met and I dated a few were just irresponsible and immature who dated immature and irresponsible guys, which is how they ended up single. I would only consider a single mother where maybe the father passed away unfortunately and she already had a professional job. Otherwise, there are tons of single mothers that simply prey on good an mature guys. I have seen it so many times and watched desperate guys just get used so bad.

tremendousfern · Answer

It depends on a lot. In general being a single mother is a big red flag. But if she has her life put together and seems like a decent person, then I'd be willing to try.

Usually though, single mothers are single mothers for a reason. They either have commitment issues, are cheaters, are horrible decision makers, or are deadbeats in one form or another. (Druggies, constantly nagging whiners, impulsive criminals, etc.)

Levin · Answer

There's quite a few single parents at work and their relationship dynamics with their baby daddies are an absolute disaster and a constant source of drama. I'd like to blame the men but of course these women have formed relationships with absolute dickheads, some of them violent and dangerous. I wouldn't want to get involved with that.

Kaamraj · Answer

Dating meaning recreational sex then yes, taking seriously then no, and the reason is simple. A single mother will always put her child (ren) first and as it should be. But those are not your children. So in a relationship you will be at first third priority after her child (ren) and herself. So you will never get back what effort you put in.

fittytuckbbc · Answer

A single mom gets my attention every time ; I have 4 kids the girls bfs or husbands think r their one women let me knock her up and rell
Everyone she has no idea the dad

Every single mom first night we hang out if not instantly they let me try to give them another kid when I tell them i am they let me all night

I love when their daughters watch

So hell yes

DarkLegacy · Answer

Opinion polls on this have consistently shown the same thing that men do not want single mums. It is a no brainer, it is natural to not want to bring up someone elses kids, just look at animals in the wild, they are bound to problems and conflict with the child, mother and father, and furthermore we would be entering into a relationship where we will never be out first.

Just have a look at POF profiles, scores of single mums stating that their children come first.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I considered it once but it didn't work out. She seemed interested but ended up getting with another guy even though she told me she wasn't talking to anyone else. Didn't realize until I saw her Facebook relationship status. It hurt but I wasn't surprised. Then she resurfaced again. Said she had moved to my area but we never actually met up. Her ex or whatever he was ended up messaging me calling me out for no reason. Then she dissapeared again. 🤷🏻‍♂️

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

I have been around long enough to never say never. There are too many variables to answer the question, each variable can change an answer as to marry a woman with a child or not. Each person has to answer that question with the information they have at that moment in time

LiamJHayden · Answer

It depends upon the situtation. Is she a self-sufficient single mother of well-behaved child (ren) because she was widowed or took on a deceased sibling's or close friend's child (ren)? Is she the meme-like single welfare mom of five all from different daddies? The former is a maybe. The latter is a no-fly zone. And of course there are all sorts of variables in between.

Drew-1990 · Answer

I would but I will want to know why you are single and what happened. Lots of times it's not the girls fault, the father died, cheated or left because he didn't want to be a father. Other reasons I would say no and walk away, sorry.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I said no, but it depends. If your kid is 16, that doesn't involve many complications with us going out for the evening/overnight somewhere, so yes. If your kid is 2, that's a different logistic situation, and the answer would be no.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men struggle to look after themselves, so most will say no here. Personally, I would have no problem dating a single parent.

HawkPerception · Answer

At this point in my life, no. And truthfully I don't think I ever would. I know that the older I get the more limited my options become, but I think I'd rather be single.

LazerBean · Answer

I would definitely not date a single parent, unless maybe their spouse died but even then it's a stretch.

rosemilk · Answer

i, personally, would never date a single parent

Somoneelse · Answer

No. I never will. For whatever reason she has the kid. I am not a kid-person and would never be in the position to have to take care of a child, let alone be even capable of being a father.

Sour-rose · Answer

Nah. Just because I don't think she want to put up with a dumbass adult and a potato who just got here. 🙃 Probably be adding to the stress

aceleon · Answer

only if she had daughter (s) near my age and i could be with them all.

Berethor · Answer

Single mom? even at 36 I would say no, too much baggage, so no thanks. :)

AaronKrieger · Answer

No, I am too young, but if I was older and ready for it, then maybe.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Have done and would do, especially as I'd be a single father

Jersey2 · Answer

In my 20s and early 30s if I was unmarried, no. You don’t just get her, you get the kids and the ex.

fuddly · Answer

I did And i married her And it hasn't been easy Not even sure if it's anything to do with the single mother thing It's just relationships in general are hard

exitseven · Answer

I said no but if her kid was older like high school age I guess it is okay.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

No thanks. Used to think I could put of desperation at 20 lol

OtterMan68 · Answer

As a single dad, I'd be a hypocite to not as long as she is not looking for husband #2 or worse yet #3

Crankor · Answer

If they were actually ready for a relationship. As in they weren't in that ridiculous kids always come before anything else attitude.

PrinceWalnut · Answer

Not really. I don't want children myself, so dating someone that comes with kids is kind of a deal breaker

Shiningtempest · Answer

I would never date a single mother because I don't want her kid (s) to experience heartache all over again. Thus, a single mother is one of my dealbreaker & a red flag.

Amur8711 · Answer

At the age most women already have had kidsn so need to be open to that otherwise be be forced to date way younger women. But if thats what happens then thats fine too.

Maneuquiverharder · Answer

I think that a woman is more settled and wanting to have a real relationship

gorydetails · Answer

Nope. Maybe if her children were gone. I'm not raising some shitty teenager that isn't mine.

Surely · Answer

Remember!! As you get older in life. The motherless dating pool keeps getting smaller!

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It depends on why she's a single mother and if her kids are old or just babies or toddlers!

Nerdvana · Answer

How sexual is she? lol just kidding. If she is ready to start a new relationship, then yes.

Staximus · Answer

If she had a kid with a guy that she didn't live with then no.

scott04sa22 · Answer

I had a single mother ask me out but she went back to her kids biological father

bradley142 · Answer

i would nothing at all wrong with it i mean as long as she isn't single for cheating i dont wanna be in something i have to worry about

OddBeMe · Answer

if she keeps the sociopathic kids away from me

NYlatefun · Answer

Of course I have no problem with that! and if she looks like that girl, even more so!

Anonymous · Answer

Why not? I've already dated two married ones.

Anonymous · Answer

Pump and dump sure, actually seriously date? never.

justabuddy · Answer

The risks are higher, the yellow flags become red flags and red flags become red lights.  I would but I'm definitely more cautious.

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

It's not that simple. She has to be a good person at core

Billlewis · Answer

I certainly would.

JacobJordan · Answer

Lol not a chance

andreasderjuengere · Answer

If the kid is an adult, then ok

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nope but it's nothing personal against them tho

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Yes if sex is involved

front2back · Answer

Tried once.  Would not recommend.

Subflics · Answer

Not signing up for 2nd place

Unit1 · Answer

Not happening.

CozyCoffin · Answer

Depends on a lot of variables.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

No, I’m already the single mother…

MrZameer · Answer

If she my type then surely.

QuietRunner · Answer

that single mother yes

Lynx122 · Answer

No never

Fireguy17 · Answer

I have, it was fine.

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