Mih, I only had 1 relationship in the past. Outside of that, I was always single and attracting women may not really be /my/ specific strong point like certain other men seem to have. I've gone through phases from depressed about being alone or just numb, but I'm still here. :-)
I hope to get to my best self and find someone to partner with and have fun. Life is too short. I have good family and friends, but a partner is the cherry on top.
You become self centered, ie you do what you want or feel like and self sufficient. If someone suggests something you don't want todo you reject it instead of compromise and find something you both like. You don't need others help you have learned to manage on your own. So you don't need the other person in your life. Both leads to lower odds to meet and date new people.
I've been single for 8 years and I don't know if I would say that I enjoy being single and would like to be single for the rest of my life but I do see myself eventually being in a relationship again and having a kid at some point. I'm not pursuing anyone or desperately seeking someone but I would say that if someone comes along that we can get along and understand each other I would want to pursue that relationship even if it does not mean a marriage it just living and coexisting together
Good, just keep distance from those who tell you what to feel and what to think. I mean those relationship-deniers. They are idiots and will die all unwanted. No made child will come to their grave as no child have ever been created by them. My daughter will come to me when I'm dead.
I mean that these "relationship-deniers" are cynical and think to much. They refuse themselves the emotions that are indeed chemical reactions (and feel good, right?) and what would make them humans. And I was partly referring to Charlie Chaplin's speech to humanity. https://invidio.us/watch?v=-RYlAPjyNm8
I have been single for a long time and I dont wish to look back. Even when your dating someone your still alone because you guys each have your own interest and stuff that each of you like to do on your time
Sexual frustration for most guys, loneliness if you don’t have any friends to actually go out with and no companionship but as far as pros I guess you can do whatever you want when you want and never need to rely on anyone And it’s cheaper
Kinda bummed because all the adventures that I have been on the last couple years have been solo and somewhat boring. I mean, I have fun doing what I like to do, but it feels unfulfilling when I look back at what I have done. I'm not rushing to get into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship, but it would be nice to come home to someone to talk to instead of a group of clueless fish.
Ha ha, fishes tend to say "blub blub", no real conversation. ;-) I also don't like to rush but waiting 2+ years is horror to me. It feels unwanted and unfulfilling to me, too.
Being single is much better than being with someone toxic. You have all the liberty to follow your passions and dreams. Only downside is lack of sex life if you are a moral person. Else, give that a shit too and go for the hunt.
My now-ex wife was very "toxic", or better word is petulant/iffy/bitchy/touchy to me. In one way, I'm happy "getting rid" (not really, read on) of her but loosing my 3yrs daughter to her. And yes, the lack of sex-life (to much masturbation makes you more lonely!) is really a big issue, only sex with yourself is really boring. True you need someone emotional next to you, not just for sex (for me).
Pros :everything being single, money, and no heartbreak and feeling like you just want to die. Cons: you never fall in love and die a lonley virgin (because for some reason everything thinks being a virgin is bad)
you're still a virgin when you fall in love though, virginity ends in the bedroom what can't people get through their head virginity, isn't love, they are two separate things,
@DevylasArsaukas76 I know they are. I'm saying if you never get into a relationship most likely you'll die a virgin. Which I think is better. Sex isn't special, its selfish and stupid.
Sex is special as it is intimate and I can feel a deep emotional and also physical connection to her, being inside her pussy. What selfish is, is to use sex as a tool or for only self-pleasure. I love giving #Cunnilingus to much.
@roland77 well I would say all those emotions about a deeper connection and the intimacy from that is all a lie produced from the pleasure you experience. The emotionons are just lies your brain tells you though chemistry.
Being cynical? He said it not in irony, don't refit his words for your own agenda. We should feel more and think lesser, that is what makes us humans human and humanity great again.
@roland77 if we acted on emotions then the justice system will be so screwed up. Someone could steal somthing and the people can get so mad they just want to kill him, so if we acted in emotions then that world would be an unjust chaotic world.
I think its great that you're so happy with yourself that you are able to stay single and not require constant approval of others. however you can get too comfortable being alone, and when it comes to wanting to settle down, or maybe have kids, you might find it hard to transfer to the taken life. a lot stays the same, but a lot of little things that you may not have thought of would change too.
my friend was in a relationship and now she's broken up with him, she been single for over a year, which is fine but she cannot even look at the direction of men. considering the way they broke up, it wasn't as bad as it could be or as bad as she seems to feel about men...
You end up with no children just like I am now. For those that don't believe it yet, especially those of you out there that say you don't have and don't want children, one day you will realize you don't have with deep regret. I always did want children and I planed on having children and nothing. And I was OK for the most part because I always held out hope that would happen, I was OK until it was made obvious it would never be a part of my life and the grief will never end.
Nothing much - you end up thinking you need to polish your dating skills, until you realise there's no such thing as dating skills but rather the emotional (and practical) readiness for it. That is, if you don't find someone significant along the way without even trying.
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Mih, I only had 1 relationship in the past. Outside of that, I was always single and attracting women may not really be /my/ specific strong point like certain other men seem to have. I've gone through phases from depressed about being alone or just numb, but I'm still here. :-)
One day it will work, just don't give up so easily like all these mentally weak people here do.
I hope to get to my best self and find someone to partner with and have fun. Life is too short. I have good family and friends, but a partner is the cherry on top.
I've been single for: 23 years.
Yeah that's how old i am.
I'm single since birth.
Pros: No dealing with boyfriend's bullshit, relationship drama and heartbreak.
Cons: There's nobody to buy you things.
Buy your own shit, you lazy ass.
Well, I am going to 3 years single but I would rather be single than suffer in a relationship with 0 future.
Alternative you can try to find a girlfriend that is kind and understanding to you.
@roland77 I have no rush, that can wait.
You become self centered, ie you do what you want or feel like and self sufficient. If someone suggests something you don't want todo you reject it instead of compromise and find something you both like. You don't need others help you have learned to manage on your own. So you don't need the other person in your life. Both leads to lower odds to meet and date new people.
I've been single for 8 years and I don't know if I would say that I enjoy being single and would like to be single for the rest of my life but I do see myself eventually being in a relationship again and having a kid at some point.
I'm not pursuing anyone or desperately seeking someone but I would say that if someone comes along that we can get along and understand each other I would want to pursue that relationship even if it does not mean a marriage it just living and coexisting together
You love your vibrator more and more. Damn 12 years though😕
LOL! Okay I laughed too hard at your comment.
Yeap, it's been... a very long time :|
You ladies are so funny 😁😆
Ahhh. And we men start loving our hands more and more. 😂
@Unit1 that's right. Some of you men are in the same boat so I don't want to hear it 😊
A vibrator gives you only stimulation and penetration of your pussy but never emotional attachment and love you will feel from your partner.
I don't think there is a such thing as being single for too long
Good, just keep distance from those who tell you what to feel and what to think. I mean those relationship-deniers. They are idiots and will die all unwanted. No made child will come to their grave as no child have ever been created by them. My daughter will come to me when I'm dead.
@roland77 no idea what you just said
I mean that these "relationship-deniers" are cynical and think to much. They refuse themselves the emotions that are indeed chemical reactions (and feel good, right?) and what would make them humans. And I was partly referring to Charlie Chaplin's speech to humanity. https://invidio.us/watch?v=-RYlAPjyNm8
@roland77 so how is that relevant to my comment
I have been single for a long time and I dont wish to look back. Even when your dating someone your still alone because you guys each have your own interest and stuff that each of you like to do on your time
Sexual frustration for most guys, loneliness if you don’t have any friends to actually go out with and no companionship but as far as pros I guess you can do whatever you want when you want and never need to rely on anyone And it’s cheaper
It can be expensive when you need to hire yourself a prostitute.
@roland77 Depends how often compared to a steady girlfriend but I won’t don’t that anyway
Okay, fair point. After all, they offer sex for money, not love.
Pffft... 12 years? Hold my coke (I don't drink beer), I've been single my whole life! I want to see someone top THAT!
Okay, okay 30 years is impressive; I bow to you sir...
WAIT. It is sad we're bragging about who's been single the longest? Hmm...
Well... I mean, if it was THAT bad you wouldn't be single, you know?
It has its perks of course, but I tend to start feeling lonely.
Feel that one more and you want to be loved again.
You get used to being alone.
I'd like to fall in love and be in a long term relationship someday, but I do see myself being alone/single for the majority of my life.
what if they still want to find someone, should they just sign off basically?
You have no tolerance for anything that disrupts your peace. if it doesn't give you the peace you already have then you dont want it.
But there is a downside to staying single long. No family and anxiety every time you do meet someone
Kinda bummed because all the adventures that I have been on the last couple years have been solo and somewhat boring. I mean, I have fun doing what I like to do, but it feels unfulfilling when I look back at what I have done. I'm not rushing to get into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship, but it would be nice to come home to someone to talk to instead of a group of clueless fish.
Ha ha, fishes tend to say "blub blub", no real conversation. ;-) I also don't like to rush but waiting 2+ years is horror to me. It feels unwanted and unfulfilling to me, too.
Being single is much better than being with someone toxic. You have all the liberty to follow your passions and dreams. Only downside is lack of sex life if you are a moral person. Else, give that a shit too and go for the hunt.
My now-ex wife was very "toxic", or better word is petulant/iffy/bitchy/touchy to me. In one way, I'm happy "getting rid" (not really, read on) of her but loosing my 3yrs daughter to her. And yes, the lack of sex-life (to much masturbation makes you more lonely!) is really a big issue, only sex with yourself is really boring. True you need someone emotional next to you, not just for sex (for me).
Pros :everything being single, money, and no heartbreak and feeling like you just want to die.
Cons: you never fall in love and die a lonley virgin (because for some reason everything thinks being a virgin is bad)
you're still a virgin when you fall in love though, virginity ends in the bedroom what can't people get through their head virginity, isn't love, they are two separate things,
@DevylasArsaukas76 I know they are. I'm saying if you never get into a relationship most likely you'll die a virgin. Which I think is better. Sex isn't special, its selfish and stupid.
Sex is special as it is intimate and I can feel a deep emotional and also physical connection to her, being inside her pussy. What selfish is, is to use sex as a tool or for only self-pleasure. I love giving #Cunnilingus to much.
@roland77 well I would say all those emotions about a deeper connection and the intimacy from that is all a lie produced from the pleasure you experience. The emotionons are just lies your brain tells you though chemistry.
@SeanshterMonster "We think to much and feel to less." Charlie Chaplin was right again.
@roland77 that's true, and maybe that better for all of us. We shouldn't act on emotions, we should act on logic.
Being cynical? He said it not in irony, don't refit his words for your own agenda. We should feel more and think lesser, that is what makes us humans human and humanity great again.
@roland77 if we acted on emotions then the justice system will be so screwed up. Someone could steal somthing and the people can get so mad they just want to kill him, so if we acted in emotions then that world would be an unjust chaotic world.
@roland77 and yes. I am being cynical. I don't trust anyone, and humans are inherently evil.
I think its great that you're so happy with yourself that you are able to stay single and not require constant approval of others. however you can get too comfortable being alone, and when it comes to wanting to settle down, or maybe have kids, you might find it hard to transfer to the taken life. a lot stays the same, but a lot of little things that you may not have thought of would change too.
my friend was in a relationship and now she's broken up with him, she been single for over a year, which is fine but she cannot even look at the direction of men. considering the way they broke up, it wasn't as bad as it could be or as bad as she seems to feel about men...
You end up with no children just like I am now. For those that don't believe it yet, especially those of you out there that say you don't have and don't want children, one day you will realize you don't have with deep regret. I always did want children and I planed on having children and nothing. And I was OK for the most part because I always held out hope that would happen, I was OK until it was made obvious it would never be a part of my life and the grief will never end.
Nothing much - you end up thinking you need to polish your dating skills, until you realise there's no such thing as dating skills but rather the emotional (and practical) readiness for it. That is, if you don't find someone significant along the way without even trying.