Why do you stay single?

[Anonymous]

[Cynicaldreamer]

Where do you want me to start? Because that's a loaded question...
I started off single because no matter how hard I tried putting myself out there, changing my looks and trying to dress more feminine, even asking guys out- I got friendzoned, rejected, ghosted, or they just weren't interested.
Which yes, is their right... not blaming the guys at all. I'm mature enough to realize that no one is entitled to like you just because you like them.

But it left me bitter and with low self esteem towards my looks and attractiveness, so I took a hiatus from dating and dating sites. That hiatus turned into years later of me realizing I'm happier and not as stressed single than when I'm trying to find a relationship.

As sad as it sounds, it's easier staying single than dating nowadays.

[kambo_trick3y]

I lurk around on these forums every once in a while and while I always held off on responding I gotta say every time I happen to bump into one of your answers Dreamer they're always either insightful or interesting.

I would say I hope you find someone someday but sometimes life doesn't always work out that way, a fact that you seem to have accepted with grace.

So in the interest of hurtful truths over comforting lies, I'm just going to say I hope you continue to find your peace and I hope fortune always comes your way, really.

[Cynicaldreamer]

@kambo_trick3y First off, hello and thank you for the response! Nothing wrong with lurking; I tend to do so myself at times.
Yes, I've accepted that I might never find someone... and honestly? I am okay with that. No spite, anger, or sadness over it. I have friends, family, my job and hobbies to keep me busy and occupied and distracted. While a relationship would be nice, it's not essential to being happy or living.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Because it's really the only option I have. I get mistaken for a kid often, so I won't be approached by anyone.

[jamesgoldman]

Too busy working 70 hours a week and not rich enough to comprehend the costs of modern dating

[Asker]

You're pretty much married your job and on your ceo career path

[jamesgoldman]

Yeah self-employment is like that

[Sour-rose]

Because who can keep up with me when walking around the mall besides me? Also why should I also have some dumb N*gga who be like "Yo, babaiee, i love you, baby. can I hold a $50 for some wee-weekend grocery?" and we are full of grocery. Yet, he takes the money and comes home smelling of weed and proceeds to try to "make me wet" so he can say "yeah, you horny, girl. Let's have some fun."

Should I go on? :D

[FictionalCharacter]

I try not to, I really do put myself out there. From socializing, trying to make friends, and flirt with guys in public. To even signing up on dateline apps. But no success 🤷🏻‍♀️. I guess it’s either my personality, looks, or I’m just broke to afford a relationship.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Different reasons. I honestly don’t put in enough time or effort for dating due to my work schedule. I don’t take as good of care of my physical appearance as I should and I don’t like admitting to myself that physical attraction does matter to a degree. I also have desires for the future that a lot of guys I’ve spoken to are not on board with, but I don’t want to give them up.

[Anemone978]

I don't go out often, and the people I meet online never like me for long...
I honestly feel like my ex is the only guy who could/will ever love me at this point...

[Nikki1989]

I never have. Life is too short to be alone.

[LavLavLuv]

Freedom