I went with "no" since I think most people have the capacity to improve here if they can find the angle. And I'm sure you might think you have exhausted them, but there might still be another.
Maybe you think too much in terms of "deserve". I've found it beneficial to strike that word from my cognitive vocabulary because I am not a god. I don't know what people deserve in their lives. That requires omnipotent knowledge as I see it. That includes what I deserve, what you deserve -- I don't know. And realizing you don't know can lead to the end of hatred, for yourself and others.
You learn how to move in this world that draws people to you. You can even consider it a "skill", however disingenuous it might sound. At least as a skill, it implies that you can improve this with careful study and discipline and training. I think people who are most down should start thinking of this as a skill, and forget about ideas like "deserve".
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Well, even in most people's ideas of love, there are winners and losers. And men are disposable from a reproductive perspective, so there are many multiple times more male losers than female losers when it comes to success in love; because one successful, large problem solving, and therefore masculine man can technically reproduce with thousands of the most beautiful women. So unfortunately, any inevitably lesser man can be disposed of for the sake of the former. But the species can ultimately afford that, and so the forces of nature, or i. e. women, don't and won't care.
Love, beauty, attraction and other things of that nature are subjects only the viewer can deem beautiful or worthy. Just because I may not be able to love a person that randomly burns down forests doesn't mean someone else won't be able to. 🤷
If higher the wall you’ve built, the more challenging it is for a lover to climb!
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The thing to realise there is that you DON'T need to PUT EFFORT into being lovable.
The very idea of needing to do something in order to be loveable makes it conditional, making you feel unloveable.
You would likely be better off just not making an effort for a while and seeing who likes you. Meanwhile, do some sports and eat and sleep well, and things should sort themselves out (but it will feel weird if you have been traumatised into having to achieve things for your parents' approval)THERE are some people out there that are so full of hate there is no way they will change. THESE peope sadly will live a life of misery beyond compare. YOU will know it the first time you meet them. EVERY word they speak will be a negative response. STAY far away as you can.
Yes I suppose some people are. However it is highly unlikely that one person will only have negative qualities and nothing else. That is unlikely though.
Some people don't want being loved. If my partner behaves aggressive and hostile just because of her bad mood, how the fuck I should love this person?
Only if you’re a psychopath, but even they find love from other mentally damaged individuals.
When it comes to Family, some can literally do no wrong in the eyes of their loved ones. I've seen that Firsthand and it doesn't turn out well. Are you referring to Non-Family only?
My failure with women suggests that I am unloveable.
I am 25 and never had an actual girlfriend. I feel like I was never meant to experience romantic love.
you can't love someone with a lot of hidden negativity inside
Yeah I believe some People are unloved base on the people around them
Short fat ugly people named jerry.
Yes, but being unlovable is a choice.
No, it's just you
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Yeah no woman will ever want me
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