I've tried all of that restlessly for several years and got nowhere
Ever studied Stoicism? I might recommend it if not. Just an intro video but I don't recommend to stop here and start studying the literature.https://youtu.be/o0MzQZ_eFEY
Boring history doesn't entertain me
It's a philosophy that guides how to think. It's actually the foundation for a lot of psychotherapeutic techniques today, like cognitive behavioral therapy to treat anxiety and depression. That was actually inspired by the Stoics, and the Stoics can yield deeper insight on how to overcome those negative thinking patterns.And in my opinion, it's a very manly philosophy, adopted by great emperors and slaves alike -- because it's a philosophy especially well-suited for hardened men leading the most difficult lives.
It is the way an emperor thinks to guide his people to victory, and the way a slave thinks to guide his way towards his freedom. If you've ever seen the film, Gladiator, Maximus encompasses a lot of Stoic ideals.
This guy -- that quote is actually stolen from the Stoics:He's a flawed character for sure, not a Stoic sage, but what strengths he has are very Stoic. The weaknesses very human. If a man finds inspiration in Maximus, I'd suggest studying Stoicism.
As if anyone is trying to climb it anyways, if it was a hill that they could just run down, there'd still be no takers
Oh, boy! You’re one depressing fella! 🖤
If you were in my shoes, so would you
Even if you feel that way, it’s better not to express it with a girl you’re trying to shoot your shot with. You may end up with pity sex, but hey! It’s something.
I'm not shooting my shot with you and I don't want sex, I want a life partner
I’m sorry about my blunt attitude. Perhaps I’m not educated about certain things. I’m sorry, forgive me...
A life partner/companion does sound so nice... unconditional love is what I long for too
But I've never found it with anyone
That doesn’t mean you’re unloveable. To be honest, love found me in times that I never wanted to feel love or be loved again. I have a lot of love to give, and I’m not willing to give it to just anyone. Be patient. Enjoy life. Someone will notice something about you... a quality or belief you carry with yourself... I leave it in the hands of God or that higher being to arrange the place and time.
Women don't approach men, so that wouldn't work
Because your afraid to approach them? Why not find something you like to do in your community? Put yourself out there, let people know you exist... for example, if you like to paint, join an art club.
I try, but women are never there
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Yeah, some events happen in peoples lives where certain things that would do them some good, has been ruined for them through tragedy, or especially malevolence.
@Lightning8 Yes - and those things don't just affect us, but define us - so we end up considering ourselves at fault and so, unloveable.Guilt is better, because it is the action that is wrong. Shame is worse, because the person feels THEY are bad, entirely, not just their actions.
Yes, it hits different when you feel that it is you that's bad, because that's much harder to separate from. And to die from the old you into a new you is one of the most painful and scary things to endure. It is so much so that you won't do it without an very fortunate envoironment, extraordinary encouragement, and great assurance if not certainty of a worthy reward.
@Lightning8 Indeed - it feels petrifying to let go of shame worn on the inside, as if your whole world will collapse/that you might end up losing all boundaries. It's only later you realise nothing has changed one bit except you don't carry a burden of a scar any longer.
Then how is it that so many dickheads have multiple girlfriends?
Because lots of girls mistake guys being douchy and shit talking and such for them being confidently competent