Is it better to wait for the right person or to date imperfect people until you find one you connect with?

[Jjpayne]

[MrMilti]

Always date "imperfect people"

Because on one hand, they might surprise you, that they are not as imperfect as you thought, but also because dating is a learned behaviour: If you do not practise, your perfect dreampartner might reject you, because he/she considers you to not be "perfect".

[Laozi]

If you wait for the right person, they will pass and you won't even notice.

[ChgzDaniel]

There is no such thing as perfect. If you always wait for someone better to come along they will never come. Most peoples standards are too high. If you can get along with someone, you enjoy their company and you can talk about anything with them then you have found the perfect person.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

No one is perfect. It's about finding the person who's imperfections make them beautiful to you.

[OlderAndWiser]

In my lifetime, counting one-and-done's, the number of women I have dated is probably close to 200. Without exception, everyone I have ever dated was imperfect. And I have had it explained to me, in great detail, that I, too, am imperfect. That is the reality of dating. There is no perfect partner, but there are some who you could love so much that you would be willing to be patient and tolerant of their imperfections and, hopefully, they would feel the same way about you.

[meesegoMoo]

Sort of. Don't wast time. People must decide for themselves if they want to change and it's selfish to just expect it. Wait for a connection, be patient, but don't spend your life with losers.

If you want something serious, find someone who wants the same. If your religion prevents you from being with somebody, choose you god or your girl and be quick about it. I don't believe in all this dating for 5+ years knowing nothing will come of it. Don't devote yourself to too many people. How will the last one feel with all your time and love already spent in those you tossed aside?

[SydneySentinel]

Spend time and know people that are imperfect, because we all are. When you find the right one, you'll know.

[AbleLearner]

The woman I'm talking to is like 100 times better than any of the women who ever rejected me anyway, so thank God all the white girls rejected me.

Hey, she's not perfect, but she's pretty damned close to perfect. She has all the same morals I have, okay, so she's a bit of a pagan, but she's a more Godly and decent person than any Christian, Muslim, or Jew I've ever met anyway, so that's not even a problem. So she is like, "I don't worship the God of the west... there are many Gods in China..."

And I'm like, "I'm not a Christian any more anyway, I'm a Deist. I just go to Christmas dinner to be with my family."

I can even live with an otherwise Godly idolator, for all I care, because if she is a good and moral person the Real God would forgive her of being ignorant of that fact.

The right woman from God is worth waiting for, and premarital sex, especially with the wrong woman, is not worth it. Snow has never had sex outside marriage. Her first husband cheated on her 4 times and punched her in the womb causing a miscarriage, so she divorced him.

[1stranger]

Hey JJ (can I call you like this?),
As if you are in an intense despair. It's not a very good place. I know because I'm gone. It's like a dark tunnel.
I suggest you do this;
Run towards the exit of the tunnel.
Run.. Run away..
Don't stop and don't wait inside.

About your question,
Every person who enters your life has a meaning. They all teach something to you. They all add something to you.
Know the value of every person who enters your life.

If someone teaches you goodness, someone else will enter your life for you to learn evil. So you will learn both.

Think now,
From whom did you learn the destructiveness of evil? Or cowardice? Or falsity, dishonesty, unrequited love, insincerity or violence... etc... from whom did you learn?

If you had not learned these, you would not have understood the value of others.

And don't forget, nobody is perfect in this life.

You keep running...

[Jjpayne]

JJ is cool and thank you :)

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well how are you defining right and imperfect? If you don't have compatibility at all you shouldn't be with the person, if your not attracted to them at all you shouldn't be with them. That doesn't mean you shouldn't give some one a chance however. If you wait around for perfection your going to die alone, "he who looks for faultless friends, remains friendless.". So I think its a balance, your going to need to be aware that your not going to find some one who is perfect as part of the relationship is learning to compromise and accept them as being a person separate from you which means they are going to like things you don't and your going to disagree on things and that's okay.

[tjkyle316197]

There is no way to depict a perfect person for yourself by way of imagining someone or creating a list of traits that best suits you and closes the door on who will essentially be the 'right person' by being themselves and imperfectly re-molding the shape of what you hand-crafted in your own idealism. There are so many layers to a person that you open yourself to a certain disappointment by not discovering what those gloriously flawed persons facing your rejection would have to offer. If you're set on finding the right person than you cannot objectify the many people so obtusely.

[4mazing]

There is a book I think is interesting, called the The Paradox of Choice. I am a perfectionist, but the book makes the case that people who "satisfice", i. e. look for the first thing that meets a set of predefined requirements are happier (and healthier, I believe) than people who "maximize", i. e. look for the perfect thing that ticks all boxes.

As I have grown older, I have come to see that that is probably bang on the money when it comes to dating too.

Instead of looking for someone perfect, make a list of three dealbreakers, and look for someone who doesn't have them.
https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/sex/the-psychology-of-love-how-lowering-your-standards-will-allow-you-to-find-true-love

[CindyRuns]

Dating someone you aren't really connected with is a waste of time.

Even worse, it keeps you from being available for the right person, the one you really want to be with.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to find a middle ground, definitely date that way you can find out what you like/what you don't like and the type of person you want to be with. However I wouldn't be dating everyone that crossed my path. No one's perfect so it would be waiting for your imperfect perfect person.

[ChiTown33]

All people are imperfect. But to answer you question I'd say it depends what type of person you are. Some people connect deeper than others and some date many people and never connect. If you're the former i would say be very discerning to avoid beciming jaded. If you're the latter you roll with the punches better so feel free to jump into relationships and live and learn.

[DizzyDesii]

Im tired of fixing broken people. Shoot now im tryna fix my own imperfect self. So til then I’ll just wait for mr damn near perfect ig

[Dchrls78104]

Exactly why I have never dated; it's safest for me to wait for the right one.

[Lliam]

Nobody's perfect. So date people until you find the one who is perfect for you. That means the probability of going through several girlfriends and having lots of fun sex before you find your perfect match. :-)

[kymberz]

we're all imperfect! but there is always someone out there if you just keep your heart open and then the perfect one will come along and think that you are perfect too!

[DianaWest]

how could you ever know if someone was right for you unless you know who isn't? you date guy a, and then you think to yourself, God no. never again. so now you have an idea of what you're looking for.

[Flower7]

I've learned that it's better to wait for the right person.

[crazy8000]

Sit around and waiting without taking initiative doesn't work for most humans no matter gender ;)

[Flower7]

@crazy8000 This question is asking whether it's better to wait for the right person as opposed to dating a bunch of the wrong people.

[crazy8000]

Never mentioned wrong person. only imperfect that isn't the same thing ;)

Understand why you did take it as wrong.

[ItsTheNephilim]

I think it is better to do the latter. Date around, have your own experience, go with the flow, make memories and cherish them. If you happen to get with someone you think is your 'the one', love them more than you ever loved anyone.

[Anonymous]

Date imperfect, sometimes dating girls that I may not be compatible with but able to maintain positive fun and connections in the relationships with them even when they dont workout can help benefit me or even them about our own selves such as knowing how to be a good partner to another person and not make the same mistake.

[arabgoddess]

Meet a lot of imperfect people so you can tell the difference!

[Anoniemus]

How do you know the person is perfect if you don't try?

[Blublub]

Date until you find the right person. Otherwise how can you know you might have missed the perfect person if you never tried

[jenn11161986]

Better to stay single and wait. It would be unfair with the other person if you will date him/her just because you are waiting for a "perfect" guy/girl to come your way.

[NineBreaker]

Find someone you can mutually tolerate within reason.

[Sevenpointfive]

you are not absolutely suited for someone ever. it's time based. i realize it sounds negative but if you don't grasp the idea that there is always a failure in a decision then you just might make the decision to fail

[serious]

In my view, it is always better to have high standards and wait for the right person.

[walt0462]

You have to be actively dating to be able to find the right person eventually... Dating doesn't necessarily mean having sexual relations with everyone you date but you could if that is what you want to do

[Lynx122]

Nobody is perfect but I want to wait for a person who I'm compatible with and where I think there's a good chance for the future.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm thinking this would make sense but i could be wrong?

[Tommy2017]

I don't think you'll ever meet anyone perfect but you can make one yourself.
You can groom an imperfect partner to become a perfect partner, someone who meets your needs and wants and hence that'll be perfection in your eyes

[Dchrls78104]

Dating the wrong person can complicate your life and set you up for tragedy. It is better and safer to wait for the right one.

[crswantsluv]

I've been alone thinking Mrs right Will come but 14YEARS later and I still have nobody so I suggest don't judge a book by its cover and if you get a chance to date don't be dumb go for it I'm regretting slot of loneliness 😢

[Anonymous]

You date imperfect people till someone better comes along.

[crazy8000]

To become the right one both must build it, put a lot of effort otherwise there aren't gonna become anything more than maby a hoockups and casual if only sexual turned on by their body.

[standardguy]

Depends if the imperfect persons make you suffer and feel exhausted and less trusting or if they are more fun for a while.

[John_Doesnt]

Nobody is perfect. What type of magic world do you live in?

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, no one is perfect. But I don't think you should seriously date someone unless you really like them. (But you have to go on at least one date in order to find out.)

[Primrose21]

There is no such thing as perfect. If you have a perfect standard, either way you are bound to divorce.

[Agem123]

Maybe that 'right' person never comes. So, you'll die a virgin?

[miguelcalderon]

I would! Like 2 find out? 817.521.0158...

[MannySimms]

An imperfect partner just might be "the one". Lower your standards and...

[LexyIsSexy23]

Middle don't wait to long but don't date too much either.

[sadassad]

How do you know that you will find the perfect one? You are going to stay single till you die? Nobody is perfect

[lovasucka]

I mean if you ain’t happy it’s best to look for someone else. While you are dating the wrong person you are limited to what you can do.

[DiegoO]

"Imperfect people" LOL

If you don't know yourself well if you have no clue of what you wanna do as a life goal you'll surely have 0 idea who you want as a partner, therefore don't expect to date a good match.

[DiegoO]

or find a good partner.

[DanOh2018]

There is no such thing as a perfect person. You have to just accept people for their faults.

[Liam_Hayden]

Date the imperfect and you might find the perfect match for you.

[NorthwestRider]

Everyone is different, not sure if there is one right answer

[DonCachondo]

Hey hey now, getting nothing done isn't as bad as it sounds...

[openminded60]

Definitely date imperfect people. you need to experience.

[Plitty-Tank]

It is best to just date respectable people. I doubt anybody is the perfect date.

[Nigjt]

It all depends on how tired of being alone u are.
Then u have to think is it really worth it.
God Bless

[Bellamoo]

Everyone has flaws so if you looking for perfection thats not gonna happen. I prefer wait for someone i have a strong connection with.

[GreenGold1992]

date imperfect people until you find one you connect with

[NerdInDenial]

So this depends on how desperate you are

[anithasharm]

I’ll wait for the right person.

[tbeltbel]

Date anyone I can find. I'm bored

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Oh I dont know right person how I know

[Anonymous]

Sure date others until you find a good fit

[Mad_man_x]

It's better to not date at all