It depends on where her depression is. Is there an effect that I will have on how she feels? Can I help help her? If she is planning on just focusing on hopelessness with no signs to get better, I can't do that. While you feel sorry for them and your heart goes out to them at a certain point it gets to be toxic for you. Also in a relationship it's give and take. If all you can do is take its an unhealthy sign of a relationship. It's one thing to want help and need help but it's another to just stay in a place of depression because you want to. I'm all about support and I will let you know baseline even if we split I'd totally be there as a friend without a thought if she needed the support. I'd be right there holding her hand through it
Yeah if shoes the person that I would have feelings for and wanted to be with doesn't matter if they're depressed try to help him then so you can do is just love somebody you know that you can't help. Everybody helps what they are I got a lot of f***** up qualities I try to hide them but you know
I suffer from severe anxiety and depression - as well as a few other mental/physical illnesses.
Two of my partners also suffer from depression.
I consider myself to be difficult to deal with sometimes because I'm not always the most fun to be around. And I know it can be hard sometimes to be with my partners because I worry about them - especially when they're not happy or feeling themselves. It can be exhausting!
However, I feel like love trumps mental illnesses.
Therefore, if I an interested in someone and they are willing to take a chance with me, then I would absolutely date a depressed person! ^.^
Well the thing is i am depressed and i hide it from guys i don't think they want to hear how sad i sometimes feel that will make them stop talking me, soo i just fake my happiness because i know they won't understood. I would not date a depressed person because we are complicated asf lol
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No , being with someone with depression takes a toll on yourself as well , we think in our hearts that we can deal with it but reality of it is you really can’t cuz it eventually catches up to you and makes you feel depressed as well , my ex suffered from Anxiety and Depression/ PTSD and she slowly destroyed my life with her negativity , it was like being with Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde 1 minute she was happy and loving next she was angry and sad and hated the world and then would start blaming me for everything wrong I was pretty much a punching bag , again I thought I could handle it and I did for a long time but I never knew if she really loved me or not always had a question mark on my head until I found out she cheated on me , so that was my final straw to get out , and have to say I am glad she cheated on me because I was able to escape and find positive again , mental illness is a horrible thing and I feel bad for people that have it but to get involved with someone that doesn’t have it is wrong , it’s a illness that doesn’t go away and no medications out there that can cure it so a person suffering with it should find someone else that suffers from it as well , I hate to sound negative but what I went through with her I never want to go through again , life is to short to be miserable all the time
I have depression. I would hope my own issues and experience with them could help her know she's not alone and that I'd be there for her, just like I'd hope she's be there for me. I would hope we could lift one another up and be there for one another.
She needs a hug? Someone to look her in the eye and explain to her that she is safe and in the presence of someone who loves her despite her issues rather than shame her for them. In return I expect the same level of understanding and patience. Its a mutual benefit.
Yes! I would and have dated 2 , Ladies ; one was paranoid schizophrenia ! That I didn't find out until I came home from work and she was sitting in front of my back door, covered in a dark blanket with my Rifle in her hands...
Yes! I would date a Lady with Depression, I've dealt with Depression ( my mom) , for the last 45 years! My mom's biggest problem was _ she's her own doctor, ie: well I'm take this pill tomorrow , and 2 of these today because I forgot yesterday's, ... etc.
PS: that's extremely Kind of You , Blessed be thee! 🙏🎩
Yes... yes I absolutely would. I wanna be there for that person as much as she wants me to. I want to care for her deeply and make her not feel alone. I want to love her so much that she lights up from her depression. This doesn't mean that like "Ooh she's vulnerable now, now my chance to fuck her", like naaaah. I would want her to feel better for her self whether it's simply taking her out someone nice to eat, watching disney+ or netflix, chasing each other around a beach or park, or I guess if he get in bed with each other to have sex
The heart wants what the heart wants and if she was depressed I would work with her to help her heal her heart. I know the last thing you probably want to here is someone try and act like we've all got problems but we do and you need to try and deal with it and except that it's in the past or whatever and put it away because you deserve to have a great life and even with a great life you're going to have difficult times sometimes crippling times and if you haven't put the prior ones away then you're gonna be stacking them higher and higher until they all come crashing down on you. You're so young I hope you can get past it I'm not say to throw it away or anything I'm just saying face this issue and put it away. Facing it head on will help you when it tries to come back up on you to just say "I've already dealt with you", with confidence, and you put it away so you don't keep dwelling on it every day. Then when the next issue comes about you you'll be able to deal with it better.
Been there myself. Dating someone that has a clue about the complexity and struggles of things is a plus.
Sure, lots of people without depression does too. But im not giving up on the ones with firsthand experience just because..
Its going to depend on if:
1. I'll have any effect on her.
2. I still need to like her as a person.
3. Be willing to make changes to get better.
I have, I would, I do. And I suffer from it myself, and feel that it helps having someone who understands the helplessness, and wants to help and be helped, because overall joy is the ultimate reward for both and for once it feels like it's absolutely possible.
I can only date what i can handle. If i can't uplift her spirit it will have bad effects on me as i take on the pain of those i love. But if its occational and she needs me in one of those peroids i'd be able to date her for sure. Mental health issues don't scare me, but it has to be at a level i can handle.
Nope I was married to a woman who had BPD and personality disorders and I'll never ever again allow myself to become involved in any relationship where a woman has a mental illness no matter what she says or what treatment she is taking.
They are the most abusive and manipulative people on the face of this earth and I will never date one again nor will I ever allow one within five meters of me
Absolutely would... I had a deep depression for so many years and I'm finally start to get better, but my mental state still a bit fragile... I still few worthless a lot of times... Soooooo dating a depressed girl would be risk to my mental state, but this wouldn't stop me from trying make she few better with the hope she would help me too.
No, if you're depressed then you probably shouldn't be dating and deal with your issues first.
If she has it handled when first dating and then later on it spikes out of no where, then I'd be fine with continuing dating her unless it becomes too mentally draining for me or toxic.
I have a few times before, typically people don't wear that on their sleeve, and you don't find out until later. If they were, and are mentally stable, I figure as long as it's something they're working on I'm cool with it. chances are I'll go through some rough patches myself. Might be a better chance they'll be there for me through that as well.
Ofcourse i would 100 percent I've had depression and anxiety since my teens. Recently it has skyrocketed but i guess I've ran out of depression it got old. I fixed my depression with 15 years if chronic drinking it really helps i forget everything it just feels sooo good.
Yes I would. I really don't mind helping her too. The only exception would be if she is just using "depression" as a bait for attention or if there is not way she can get better eventually : some people need professional help but refuse to get it so they are constantly on a loop about their problems but they don't really try to fix them.
If I felt like we had a genuine connection then yeah. My only requirement though is that they would have to seek help from not only myself but a trained professional. If they show that they are willing to try and improve themselves and the situation they are in, and of course we both like each other, then I think it only makes sense to date her
Yes I would as long as she was otherwise stable, as in not using her depression to manipulate by threatening suicide etc which seems a common tactic by unhinged people.
u For the most part no relationships are hard enough when things like mental illness are not involved so I don't feel I would unless said person was taking steps to improve the situation
Depends how much we're talking and how well we compliment each other. I don't want to always have to be pulling the weight for both of us, that's not fair. She has to be willing to work through it sometimes, same as we all do.
She's still a girl, so her biological role is still to be the selecter. So, most guys would still date, even the so called high value guys, and she would still choose from her options.
As for me, well obviously why not? Depression would probably make her more interesting, at least if she is willing to talk about it often.
I would date a depressed girl if she knows how it affects her and looks for help to get through it. If she refuses to get help then I probably can't be with her since it's just really hard to change a person.
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