Would you date somebody who was depressed?

Question

And/or had anxiety? Have you had experience doing so? Why would you/wouldn’t you?

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

It depends on whether or not they have a desire to battle it.

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.

If they do not want to be helped, if they are not going to professional help, or going to friends/family for help, or going to you for help, or even looking within themselves for help, then it’s going to be a losing battle.

It will eventually wear you down, giving and giving and giving, and not receiving—because they have nothing to give—so you don’t blame them, but you can only keep going for so long. And the future will look bleak if they aren’t doing anything to try to recover.

It would be best to be a supportive friend, because if they are THAT deep in their darkness, they need to heal before jumping into a relationship.

However, if they DO want to overcome their depression, and they’re sincerely trying, it can still work out—you’ll just need to be extra patient with them and be able to fill your own cup when they cannot fill yours.

You’ll need to be the strong and nurturing one in the relationship, to give them stability and not do anything that may worsen their condition.

You can’t expect the same things out of them as someone who has no mental health issues, you’ll need to patiently accommodate, yet also not enable or reinforce dysfunctional behavior.

So, in short. I’d still be open to dating someone who’s going through depression, as long as they’re working on it.

As for those who aren’t working on it and refuse to get help? I’ve been on that road more than once. It’s not sustainable and will burn you out. You may last months, but if it continues for years, it will wear you down.

RoοstеrBrеаst · Accepted Answer

Oh, darling, I'd love to date someone who's depressed. There's nothing more arousing than a vulnerable soul that needs a good ol' fashioned pick-me-up. I'd start by offering them my special brand of therapy - a throbbing cock and a pair of balls so full they'd make your eyes water.

I'd whisper filthy, depraved thoughts into their ear as I slide my meaty member deep inside their tight little hole. Every thrust would be a reminder that there's still something worth living for - the unholy horror of my massive, pulsating rod. ﾠ

And as I pump away, filling them up with my creamy goodness, I'd remind them that no matter how dark their world may seem, there's always room for more of my thick, veiny shaft. So yes, baby, I'd absolutely date someone who's depressed - because nothing turns me on more than a hot, sad mess.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I have done so in a few of my relationships and did everything I could do to support them. I’m still on good terms with them. However based on that I don’t think I would ever be able to do so again. It is nothing against people who have their own demons to conquer but in my experience the men I dated did nothing themselves to try to deal with those demons in a healthy way. It did a number on my own mental health and my other relationships outside of those ones were healthier. I would be okay with mild anxiety but not on the extreme end and depression would be a huge no for me especially if they didn’t have healthy coping mechanisms

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Yeah. I don’t think I could date someone who’s never experienced depression or anxiety.

Sonorous · Answer

I'd probably pass. I tend to deal with that stuff more than the average person does so it would be too much for me. I'd just end up being depressed with them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have dated several women who had long term chronic depression. That is quite different from acute grief.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

I understand people will feel down, blue, depressed, have anxiety, but it's how people handle life. I know have worked for companies where supervisors, managers or superiors would tell me don't take this job too seriously meanwhile they go ape shit if you don't get the job done their way. Why am I saying this? Some people talk shit and can't handle their emotions. It's like if a guy had a porn addiction and it's so bad he can't make love to his girlfriend or wife, how can she fix that? By getting DD breasts? Wearing cuter outfits? Sucking his dick more? I'm sorry if I am being a bit vulgar with but its the truth, some people just won't change no matter how much you do for them. There is a certain threshold. I know people who are so toxic that they don't think they have to fix themselves but if they had a significant other, God has answered all their prayers. Be good to yourself, work on yourself and hopefully that manifests to cross paths with good people.

It's okay to be there for people and to help but I'm also old enough to know people usually don't give a fuck about you, they only care about themselves and they will ghost you, set you aside because you aren't a priority in your life. One guy I know acted depressed for months and months over one woman who divorced her husband and had a son. I warned my colleague not to date her and few years later she scorned him. In that time, he would call me 10 times a day to talk about random shit. Now, he found someone else apparently and if I try calling to say whats up, he's like dude im busy don't call or text. I blocked his number because I am not going to tolerate that type of disrespect, ohh how people forget when you were there for them during their tough periods, when God blesses them, now they act like pricks.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would if I knew she was going to work on her anxiety and depression, seek counselling etc. I would have no problem being someone that she can lean-on and give her continued support, but, I can't be her fix every time the depression sets in. The pressure would get to be to much if I had to be her happy place/person all the time. Even I have days where I am not the happiest of people, they are few and far between, but nevertheless they happen.

She would have to learn some coping mechanisms and hopefully I could learn how to enhance or improve how she copes with either the anxiety of depression by being there for her.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Hmm, I would probably not date someone who very openly disclosed that they were depressed early on in the dating phases. I have a naturally very cheerful and energetic disposition that can be very alienating to those "struggling." I think early on in the phases of dating, one connects over overcoming things in life. I can't overcome something I never had, so I can't relate to the struggle of someone sinking into or coming out of a depressive episode.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Only if they're able to manage it. I have GAD but manage it actively through therapy, meds, and exercise.

I've dated depressed cismen in the past who couldn't manage their mental health and I won't ever put myself in that hell again.

Personally I wouldn't want to date someone depressed again. Anxiety, but managed, is fine. But depression doesn't work with my lifestyle or personality.

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't waste my time. I would be willing to be their friend, but not to get involved romantically with the goal of a long-term relationship.
It's hard enough for two healthy people to learn to get along. I wouldn't want to add depression or mental/emotional issues into the mix and have to deal with that.
I don't have a savior complex.

Unit1 · Answer

MAYBE I WILL. MAYBE I WON'T.

Depression is probably my first name.

The problem is not "having depression". What matters is how it's managed or combated if it was not prevented in the first place.

I take antidepressants every day before bedtime to keep depression out of my life. I need it like Type 1 diabetics need their insulin injections to live.

There is no way back. Once you get it, then that's it. It's a one way ticket to get there. I looked for a way out over a decade now. Too much bullshit misinformation is floating everywhere. I can be the perfect subject for the medics on this matter.

Would you date somebody who was depressed?

chrissykerdock · Answer

if your depressed find someone who won't mind cumming in your mouth excessively... i say this because it works... there's serotonim in cum and your mood will be enhanced immediately... plus by just giving a blowjob it makes you happy just by having to put your lips around a cock... giving blowjobs isn't for the frigid of heart.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

No set answer. If they were in a full blown depression when we met, no. If we started dating and depression set in, I'd stay. I've dealt with multiple people who suffered from depression and it can be emotionally exhausting. Drains the life out of you and now you're unhappy as well. So I wouldn't willingly put myself into a situation like that I understand that depression happens and would never split with someone because of it unless they fully refused to do anything about it. One of my friends went deep into depression but refused to seek help. Having him in my life like that was like trying to save a person who can't swim from drowning, they'll take you down with them. He finally sought therapy after 2 years and with medication became his old self. But by then then friendship had ended. I couldn't handle the 10 phone calls a day about how much he hated life and had to prioritize my mental health over the friendship.

clovertheminotaur · Answer

I am dating someone with depression, and it's not actually too bad. There's insecurity and self doubt sure, but he's still a person. Love can still exist in someone depressed. I love him to bits ❤

Anonymous · Answer

No, because I suffer from depression and anxiety , so I know how difficult it is to be around me. Being in a relationship with someone who also had depression would drag us both down even further. I'm better off on my own , because i struggle being around anyone at all on my really bad days.

aquamarine321 · Answer

We all go through depression at some point in our lifetime but it all depends on how you handle your depression. Some handle it positively some negatively, you should date someone who handles their depression in a positive manner otherwise the relationship will never last

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Not again. Way too exhausting to be around someone always in a bad mood. 80% of times is effectively "always" and 9 times out of 10 it's about some "you're life ain't that bad partner" shit that people only whine about in first world circles.

havingfun2023 · Answer

No, I could only date someone cheerful and merry most of the time like I am. A sunny side, grateful for that it could always be worse, mindset.
However, I wouldn't mind dating someone who had been 'slighty moody" in the past without it seeping through again. 😊😊😊😋😋😋 no one likes bad habits, speaking of myself and my own baggage 🛄🛅 😁👀👀🙄🙄

TallAnon · Answer

I was talking to a depressed girl (diagnosed, but moved country and can't get the same meds).
It's honestly not easy. You're having a nice day, having a burger, all's good; "I hate being here, work sucks". Can't exactly go "Yeah babe, sucks", so now you're talking about depressed shit for an hour and your burger went cold.

Hinaaaaa · Answer

No one wants to be with someone who is depressed all day... nobody wants to be with someone who is mentally or physically ill... but any person can experience it... but just being in that state without seeking any help is bad

exitseven · Answer

I dont know. I dated somebody who I think was bi polar or something. It was a pretty traumatic experience. Now that i am older I just want a stress free life.

apahe4 · Answer

tbh no and some might didagree with me but dating someone whos really depressed can be very draining cause no matter how much you try to help them, nothing seems to work... thats my experience and opinion though :)

Siri137 · Answer

I know what depression is like, how horrible it is, so yes, I would. Depressed people need all the help and support they can get.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I have depression and PTSD but I work on it. I have no problem dating someone who has these problems. I'm terrified to date because I don't think a woman would ever be understanding about it.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I have once. It just made me unhappy so I broke up with her. No matter what I did I couldn't do anything to make her feel even somewhat better and it was affecting me too. I don't want that again

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes. I’ve been there myself so I definitely wouldn’t reject somebody for that.

surprisedjo · Answer

Nope, why would I take on extra baggage? Dating is supposed to be easy and fun.

jojoiwiwbwjo · Answer

Short term can happen and being supportive can make the person better.
Chronic depression seemsbto be contagious as a depressive person. I'm depression-sober now and i can say it was never healthy to anyone around me, not for too long.

Socaljp · Answer

I am dating a woman who has depression and is going through menopause. For about 1 week out of each month she is very sweet to me and the rest of the time she is mostly quite unbearable. Crazy mood swings, sleeps for days and it sucks. We are currently broken up just the way it is every month till she decides to be sweet again.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Everyone gets sad sometimes, but if they are a person who is negative most or all of the time, no.

I like joyful minds that are silly and fun and intelligent and creative and optimistic and determined.

sheikalana · Answer

have in the past but I wouldn't repeat the same experience.

bowenw · Answer

I would. I would hope that they are being treated professionally for it.

_no_one_ · Answer

Currently am and she is doing great she has healed so much and i am proud of her.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Yes. I mean that's pretty much common anyways. But if it's the kind of mental illness that can affect people, that would be a turn off.

Anonymous · Answer

If it was severe no but I might try and offer them help to get better

Anonymous · Answer

Feel like both diagnosed/undiagnosed depression are very common these days people will be dying alone if we avoided dating people who are depressed

ConnerM · Answer

Yeah so long as they're seeking treatment and getting the help they need

Nifrayu · Answer

I'm dating someone right now that suffers from anxiety and depression.

Anemone978 · Answer

Probably... maybe then we could do a double su*c*de :*

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes I would since I´ve seen many people in the last year being depressed mainly due to Covid.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Most of us don't want to date someone who is Depressed because they can put us down aswell.

Christoff92 · Answer

Give her tons of hugs and kisses would cheer her up 💋🥰

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nah. I tried that once and it was a miserable experience.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

No. They need to sort themselves out before they are ready to date

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I could, but I would prefer to date someone who is happy and bubbly.

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah, wouldn't be fair not to give someone a chance of something I've had most of my adult life

Anonymous · Answer

Depends how depressed. If she's not severely depressed then yes. As long as she's still willing to have sex occasionally, and spend time together.

pokesushi · Answer

Well, I would try to win her trust and then I would try to make her happy so that she would smile every day and then I would try to be close to her and be her support point

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Mild depression then yes as it would pass by.  Someone who is seriously depressed then no.

catarecute · Answer

yes cause i think i can cure them

Anonymous · Answer

yes id still throw her a bone. Plus according to my theory she is keen on giving blowies

serious_miss419 · Answer

Yes as long as they are doing things to manage it

dudeinohio · Answer

I have and am. married to. such a someone

Emanon25 · Answer

Yes I don’t mind

BuckCannon · Answer

No way in hell.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Nope , I'm not a therapist.

Anonymous · Answer

It would certainly not be my first choice

LazerBean · Answer

Nope.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Not really

shades777 · Answer

not anyobe who's identity is being depressed

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Lol you're saying like it's mental illness 😂😂

Akam93 · Answer

No I couldn't do it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I have and I would again

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